how do you??

The most effective way is a combination of regular exercise and a healthy and fulfilling diet that will encourage you to lose fat mostly. The basics are to split the same amount of food you eat into four or five meals. The meals should contain lot of protein and the least fat (for example 4gr of fat in every meal) avoid especially saturated fat, avoid processed and ready-to-eat-precooked foods, avoid lots of carbohydrates (especially sugars), choose foods that are rich in fibers (fibers help your metabolism), have a good meal in the morning (waking up early is also a good habit that will help you lose weight because it stimulates your metabolism), avoid meals in the night and eat your last meal 2-3 hours before sleep. Regular exercise can be a simple habit like walking at least about 1 hour daily while shopping. Choose a preferable sweet like chocolate and eat it in small amounts when you feel like you want to (like 150gr per week is ok as long as you follow the rest). Eat eggs (4 per week), choose chicken between other kinds of meat, choose yogurt between milk and cheese, choose fruits between sweets...you get the idea.

Like you, I'm heavy but not "fat". In April, I followed a yoga program in iTunes. I did this for a month and in spite of the kind of "exercise" I'm doing, I was able to lose weight :) A key thing for me is drinking a lot of water. One other thing I did was cutting down on white sugar. The most important thing in all this is to love your body before anything else, before starting a diet, before figuring out what you want to eat. Loving your body will give you the right mindset for weight loss and over all health.

I think if you really want to loose your weight then exercise is the best way for you. I also doing exercise daily and it is effected on loose my weight. And also you should avoid fat food. Means those types of foods in which the quantity of fat are very high. And the exercise is must. So if you always doing exercise then you can loose your weight very soon.