When saying good-bye is not easy...
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27560)
Philippines
September 25, 2010 4:49am CST
Today we laid to rest Rayda Frias Palma, 93 years old. Why I am writing about her here? Because this is probably the only site where I can let the world know about a mother who never left home to see the world because her children or her grandchildren might come home and need her help. Lola Rading, as her brood called her, made a vow that when her children need her, she will always be there. And so she cooked, and sewed, waited for her children, played mahjong and poker with them, prayed for them that God will keep them safe, and lived a long life to see her family well and good.
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@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Saying goodbye especially to a loved one is really a difficult thing to do. We could really be so sad about it but we should just accept it whole-heartedly. I also lost a lot of my loved ones already. My grandfather, father, and my best friend were the most important people I knew who left me so soon. I wasn't able to enjoy their company yet before because I didn't know that they would leave us soon those times.
I think your grandmother is really admirable. She lived her life for your family. I really admire her because she was always there for all of you when she was still alive. She happily lived her life helping her children, cooking some food for the family, sewing, and playing with them. She really prayed for the whole family's safety. I think she really lived a happy and worthwhile life. I really salute your grandmother. You were really so lucky to have her. :)
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Thank you very much, and good people do not die, they just pass on to a better life.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Your lola is indeed well loved by her children and grandchildren. Imagine, forgoing of her chances of going abroad just to be of service to all her children?
She has indeed created a well of goodness to all her children and grandchildren, so much so that when it's time for her to leave this earth, it is the hardest thing to do.
Though, i know you are all happy that she reached that age, being with you all.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Thank you for the kind words, and you made me remember....
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Oct 10
Hiya eileen,
Courage a story of a Mother of courage. To have lived so long as well amazing. To be always there for her Children. May she rest in peace God Bless Her.
Nice Story that I have never heard of her but her life as I have read it was full of good doings always being there for her Children and Grandchildren too. It takes something to be as steadfast as that.
I take it she never went on Holidays at all in her whole life. Really surprising Woman.
Nice to have read about a Woman like that eileen.
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@FFBernie (42)
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26 Sep 10
Lola Rading is a GIFT to her family. She has love, sacrifice , patience , faith in her heart. Your family was blessed by her presence. Not everyone would experience that kind of dedication, I am sure that she had influenced of you and your relatives. I am sure that her love will be passed on to others in one form or another. Lastly let me say i will pray for her soul and your family.
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@pinoycity (575)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
That's sad to hear. But the best thing is knowing that she lived her life, knowingly or unknowingly, to the service of God. Living your life for the good of others will always be a service to God.
Like Lazarus in today's gospel, may she be lifted by angels directly to heaven.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
The family is bonded, and her memory lives on om the hearts of her grandchildren.
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
25 Sep 10
This woman must have been loved by her family!! And she must have felt happy to see them grow up and - hopefully she is kept in their memory and still makes them feel good - and they will probably continue loving each other as she set a great example.
There are so many wonderful mothers and grandmothers that we should show our love to while they are still with us.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
There were more men in her family. None of them was afraid to let tears fall when they bade her good-bye.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
25 Sep 10
Hi eileenleyva, Thank you for telling the story of this lady, and you're right, this is one of the few sites where that can be done. Certainly, she wasn't one who sought a lot of attention for herself but her family always came first. Ordinary people like her make up the bulk of the world's population, yet it is the movie stars, politicians and criminals who make headlines everywhere. May she rest in peace and my condolences to her family who I'm sure are nevertheless left with many happy memories. Blessings.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Thank you Pose, I will let her family know. Lola Rading never sought attention for herself. But she was proud of all the achievement of her brood.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 10
hi eileenleyva She must have been loved very much and I hope allthose who are living of her family will keep her memory close in their
hearts. I imagine she left some wonderful lessons to her c hildren
and grandchildren too. they must have felt well blessed to have
such a loving mom and grandmother too. rest in Peace. Uayda.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
The last words she muttered was Mahal na mahal ko kayong lahat! I love you all very deeply!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Sep 10
Rest in peace, RAYDA FRIAS PALMA, SHE SOUNDS like she was a great lady. I know she will be missed by all.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
She was a great mother. She played pool with her sons and grandsons. She exchanged recipes with her in-laws and discussed curtain patterns with them. She received relatives without asking how related were they to whom. The important thing was that they had a place to sleep the night and warm food to keep them from being hungry.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 10
incredible .. that is the secret service force a mother to the child and grandchild. This story proves that love is the mother of all time
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Every parent must know of their duty and responsibility to their children. According to Lola Rading, her being a mother did not stop when her children had grown up, finished college, found a job, gotten married, and all. In fact, she felt that her children needed her more... so she always has a hot pot of rice ready in case one or two pops up, in need of consultation or simply in need of company...
@Technopeak (70)
• India
26 Sep 10
feel sad that she left the world and hats of to her mentality
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@Nickfyoung (323)
• Australia
25 Sep 10
The Philippines is one of the few places left where a Lola is admired and respected. In the West it is all to common to lock our Lola away in an old peoples home where they seldom see their children and grandchildren.
Well done Lola Rading and well done Philippines for allowing your old to grow old with dignity and respect.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Yup, we do hold our Lolo and Lola dear. We put them on a pedestal and when they are old and incapacitated, we take care of them with all the loving we can give.
@michaelgolez (48)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
This is a picture to true parenting. A passion of Love shown by a Grandma to her Grandchildren. Lola Randing must be that happy wherever she is right now. She have done what she want to do and it made her happy that way. The best of life are the simplest times that you are with the ones whom you value - playing around, cooking, eating and all the simple stuff that made a smile in your heart. Her life must be rewarding. I want to spend my sunset days the way she did - she's very inspiring.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
I once asked her if she has no desire to see the world. She simply told me her family was her world. She was happy when her children and grandchildren brought her mementos or souvenirs from some city or distant place. The world was brought inside her very home. And the stories that came from the narration of her loved ones were enough to make her happy.