Why everybody is changing in 3rd year?

India
September 25, 2010 10:06am CST
Actually in first year engineering we all are new to each other...... But now day by day our classmates are broken their walls, and some of the silent girls in my class were silent in first year, but now in third year they are really talk so freely with boys, whats happen to them......... is time has changed them? Actually i am not worrying about their open hearted type, but day by day some of they are not concentrated on studies like in first year days, and the stuggles and distubances are also increasing day by day between my classmates... I am always trying to make my atmosphere healthy and happy, I am always trying to tell and trying to share more advanced topics with them, I am always trying to give my best suggestion to them, But they are thinking in a common manner, some are trying to think and do practice hard to put their goals in high level, But they are also disturbed by others, If they(my classmates) just concentrate two hours in a day about subject they have a bright career...............Why they are not trying to think in a realistic way, why they are not trying to learn from their seniors experiences.......? please please please my friends share your valuable views about this...........
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
25 Sep 10
Sweetie, normally first and second year make them study hard. By the 3rd year they get tired and bored. Some want to change the course, some just do not want to study anymore. That is normal. It will pass. You just study hard and concentrate on your work, okay. TATA.
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• India
26 Sep 10
and hardworkinggal said that it is called as "peer pressure", we call them as "the cool kids"...... ya, i am concentrating only on my studies and on my career........ thank you... have a nice day, and good morning.. I have semister exams within 50days, so i have to read well to get good not only good to get better percentage.......
• Malaysia
26 Sep 10
Life is easy to change because of the environment. Student life is so beautiful, interesting and BEST but with limit and we should know what we need to do during that time for our future..
• India
26 Sep 10
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
25 Sep 10
2 hours a day isnt long so they do need to concentrate on studies that long to bring grades up and stay thre. Looks like some are looking for just fun and maybe marriage instead of a career
• India
26 Sep 10
@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 10
hi rameshchow I think by the third year a natural weeding out of students who are losing their interest in their career and thus perhaps on the verge of drooping out happens. In almost all careers you will find some students who know what they want and work hard'to succeed in college and on into their careers, and some who perhaps got in over their heads and are now finding this career might not be right for them.So you have some friends who along with your self are striving always to learn and succeed, while others are getting uninfatuated with their studies and on the verge of chucking it all, and then there will be the middle class of students who are not A plus but are still in there working and will succeed if only they really study and keep their eyes on their goals.My view is that you all started out together with high hopes and most of you will finish and succeed while a few are going to drop out by the wayside and perhaps look for the careet they should have followed. good luck with your studies nadGod bless.
• India
26 Sep 10
Really i am studying upto late, my concentration is only on my studies....... I hope that my friends should do hardwork......
@dawnald (85139)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Sep 10
It's all a natural part of growing up. Also some people are more easily distracted.
• United States
25 Sep 10
Peer Pressure - Explanation of disruptive behavior
rameshchow, this is what we here in the US call peer pressure. When a first year student enters a new school it is natural for them to be timid and focused mainly on their studies. As they escalate to higher grade levels, some venture out into wanting to be part of what here in the Us call "The Cool Kids". It is unfortunate that students do not appreciate and take advantage of studying to it's fullest potential. These students you mentioned that have become louder and perhaps uninterested are either more interested in their friends than their studies and want to hard to fit in with them they begin to act like one another as they feel this is accepted among their peers. Unbeknown to them some actually move further and become someone in the future while others drown and hit rock bottom. Which later in life they will regret not having taking advantage of education. These students that are not applying themselves are being lead by the opinions of what and how others see them, it is a shame really. Believe it or not some of them actually want to do like you but it is the pressure of not being seen cool that forces them to further disrupt their thinking capability. The only thing I can suggest is that if they appear and or ask you for avid advice that you be honest and explain that being part of this cool crowd later will lead to a very unhealthy, lonely and destructive path.
• India
26 Sep 10
you said that it is called the "peer pressure", and "cool kids", earlier i don't know this is called a phobia(r a disease), really i have any little bit of time, i am trying my level best to motivate them towards high level thoughts and towards at education......
• United States
26 Sep 10
Well, in the third year of college you usually do change. It would be unusual if you didn't. I don't know of many college students who don't change their third year of college. The reason that most students begin to change the third year of college is because they are becoming young men and young women, and thus they are going to get ready to go out into the work force and they are getting ready to start their careers.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
26 Sep 10
I would imagine that by the third year everyone would be very familiar with their course, environment and class mates and in some cases boredom may set in along with complacency so I would imagine it would be why a lot more people may seem distracted and not as conscientious as in the beginning. It is probably a normal stage of the studying, I guess.
• India
26 Sep 10
Hello my friend rameshchow Ji, Under the present situation my hubby always comes out with a remarks made by great English Language critics Lord Bydon Jhonson (in short he was known as LBJ), who after students drifted from studies said, " A COW IS A GOOD ANIMAL, BUT SHOULD BE KICKED OUT OF THE GARDEN" You all jhave to join with like minded students and explain taht they all can waste tehir energy and time after the class is over. I fully understand, your task is great and much in depth. May God bless You and have a great time.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
25 Sep 10
I think as beings, we go from bodily needs to intellectual needs to spiritual needs. I haven't read too much of Hinduism and Buddhism, but as a Christian we are to move on to the spiritual. Yet, it is hard to let the bodily needs and urges go. So many people who are close to intellectual fulfillment, let the bodily needs and urges dominate. It's as if a being (Satan) doesn't want you to succeed, so he throws all these temptations at you. In this case, we have men and women who let their bodily needs dominate. Their hormones are working overtime and they place love and other things over their studies. It's hard to study hard like you used to when the hormones are so strong. Plus, if I'm correct, many of these 3rd year students are ready to be married. Some of them might worry about dying an "old maid." When I was in college, I had female friends who worried about never getting married. And they were only 22 or 23 years old! I can sort of understand because when I was young, women got married in their teens. But things are different now, yet many humans haven't changed with the program.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
25 Sep 10
I think as beings, we go from bodily needs to intellectual needs to spiritual needs. I haven't read too much of Hinduism and Buddhism, but as a Christian we are to move on to the spiritual. Yet, it is hard to let the bodily needs and urges go. So many people who are close to intellectual fulfillment, let the bodily needs and urges dominate. It's as if a being (Satan) doesn't want you to succeed, so he throws all these temptations at you. In this case, we have men and women who let their bodily needs dominate. Their hormones are working overtime and they place love and other things over their studies. It's hard to study hard like you used to when the hormones are so strong. Plus, if I'm correct, many of these 3rd year students are ready to be married. Some of them might worry about dying an "old maid." When I was in college, I had female friends who worried about never getting married. And they were only 22 or 23 years old! I can sort of understand because when I was young, women got married in their teens. But things are different now, yet many humans haven't changed with the program.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
25 Sep 10
I think as beings, we go from bodily needs to intellectual needs to spiritual needs. I haven't read too much of Hinduism and Buddhism, but as a Christian we are to move on to the spiritual. Yet, it is hard to let the bodily needs and urges go. So many people who are close to intellectual fulfillment, let the bodily needs and urges dominate. It's as if a being (Satan) doesn't want you to succeed, so he throws all these temptations at you. In this case, we have men and women who let their bodily needs dominate. Their hormones are working overtime and they place love and other things over their studies. It's hard to study hard like you used to when the hormones are so strong. Plus, if I'm correct, many of these 3rd year students are ready to be married. Some of them might worry about dying an "old maid." When I was in college, I had female friends who worried about never getting married. And they were only 22 or 23 years old! I can sort of understand because when I was young, women got married in their teens. But things are different now, yet many humans haven't changed with the program.
@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 10
Hi Rameshchow!. I think 3 years is a long year to know your class mate, I think its not odd if they start to play each others as long its still on the bases of the rule. I think nothing wrong with talking freely with boys, I think no rules against that. Let others do their business and you do it your by your own way. We all have obligation to our self not to others, so let them do what task and let them mind their own way.
@stylewaves (1060)
• India
26 Sep 10
Hey buddy change is the only thing that never changes !