Will you leave your parents for your lover?

I think this depends on your culture and your beliefs and codependence. Parents job is to nurture, love, raise, and teach a child to become an independent functioning member of society who can care for themselves and others responsibly - and eventually not need any more physical support and limited emotional support from their parents. When you reach the age of adulthood and consent and are involved in a relationship, I don't think it's any business of your parents at that point. YOU did not decide who became your parents, you didn't go about telling your mother you didn't want her to be with your father or your father you didn't want him to be with your mother. Their lives are their lives and their choices are theirs to make, just as yours now are. You are not LEAVING your parents for your lover, you are now an independent adult, and leaving your parents is inevitable anyway. No parents want to just continue to take care of an adult child and make all their decisions forever. Now if your parents are overly involved and TELLING you who you should or should not be with, they need to cut the apron strings. It's not their decision to make. YOU fulfilled your dreams. YOU learned how to live based on their example and love and teaching. Good parents want you to be able to stand on your own two feet and make choices independently, on your own, without their input, influence, and consent. Good parents will let you go, seeing that you love yourself and you love someone else, and they will trust that you will find your own path to success, fulfillment, and happiness.

Heloo Leo, I do not know what i will do in this situation, it is very sensitive decission, but i know that the choise i will make willinfluence my future. Parents are parents, i lived with them and respect them, but i have to leave the nest once and make my own nest and children. If the relation i'm into is going great and he is the one with whom i want to make my life, and grow old with, i think that a serious discution with my parents is a must and make them understand that they have to respect my choise

Maybe.It depends on where I and my lover work.Because now I work in a city far from my family and my parents.If I find my lover in the city where I work,I will live with her in the city,not with my parents.

Being a daughter, I have no choice. I have to leave my parents when I get married. No matter how much my parents disapprove of my lover, he's the one I'm spending rest of my life with. It's a different story if I'm a man though. Because it's common to see families living together with mother in law especially those filial to their mothers. Being a son, they will surely stick to their mom's side. Many will actually prefer to live with their moms even after marriage but not me for sure. If ever I'm marrying my bf, I'll be sure to get him to buy our own house, without his parents or mine. In this case here, am I choosing lover over parents? U decide.

I'll don't leave my parents because I just have my parents, 1 dad & 1 mom, I can have another lover but I can't have another parents

it's a hard decission right? and for me absolutely i will leave my lover how can i leave my parents ,especially mom she cared about us when she is still pregnant and it's been 9 months,

No, I will not. That's because the blessings of my life mostly depends on my parents. It is not an easy choice, but trust me, that with our parents' blessings, we will be able to find a right lover, which will never leave our parents and take care of them just like he or she takes care of his or her own parents.

i dont know...depends on how i get job and my lover..it can not be predicted

For me if you want that your wife don't have no feel bad to your mother better to live in your home and live to you wife,it is bible base principle.

i definitely agree with you. I love my parents. They developed me to be a good person and gave me a good condition life. When i faced any problem, they are always be there for me to solve my problem completely. I couldnt find out any reason to leave my parents for my lover. For me, parents always at ranking no 1 in my list and nobody can replace them. Wish you always happy with your family members.

I never left my parents for my husband. My family is very close so I will never do that to them. In fact when I got married We bought a house very near to my parents and that's what my other siblings did also when they got married.

well about me if my lover really loves me and my parents dont like him for no reason i would still be with him. but sure wouldnt leave them. would talk with them still but couldnt just leave my bf bcs they didnt like him. if he was sweet and caring to me i would be with him^^ is sure that our parents worry and all but if my bf cares too and loves me i cant just leave him^^ but sure stop talk with parents bcs of that i wouldnt. i would talk with them and say that he loves me and they are thinking wrong about him^^ thats what i would do^^

i will not leave my parents for love ,i will eplain my love ,if she really loves me she should not get rid of my parents ,if still insists will leave her ,thanks for sharing.

oh man wat a question you have asked i will support my parents of course she loved me (lover) but if she says that we should go alone means she had come to break my relationship so i will refuse her and support my parents who are my well wishers

Hi Leo, I am in the United States and here it is quite normal for a child to leave the parents at age 18 or 19 to either live on their own or with friends or a lover. Three out of four of my girls has already moved out on their own. The youngest is 16 and plans on moving out as soon as she graduates high school. I left my parents right after I turned 18 and so did my brother. I loved my parents but it was time to take all that they taught me throughout my growing up years and put it to use. You don't forget all your parents did for you and taught you when you move out, Leo. It will show in how you live your life. And it isn't like you are leaving them really. I still see my girls almost daily and I am still a big part of their lives.

No... that is not right. parents has arise their kids with many efforts and sacrifice. I don't think that is the best way for kids to say thank you to them.

Hey I never leave my parents for my lover. Because my parents are everything for me. And they have done many things for me which no one can do. So I always respects to my parents. And I think if also my love loves me truly then she never tell me for this and always give them respects. I think parents always loved their children. And also its children’s responsibility to give them loves as they love them. I think parents only one thing want from their children and that is love and also when parents become old. Then only their children’s are their way. So it is children’s responsibilities to give them respect and love.

Nope.I will never live my parents for the sake of my lover.It is because,I do love my parents so much and they are the reason and my inspiration why I study and want to achieve my goals in life.They are also the persons to whom I can share my secrets to,the persons who would help me in times when I'm in my darkest hour and the only persons that would give advice when I'm running out of choices.. So all I can say is that ,"You can find another LOVER but not another PARENTS"..Do you agree???

I do not have a girlfriend,I don't know I will really do when I have a girlfriend.Now I am sure that I will not leave my parents.I love them.

I have not left my parents for the love of my life :) It is understood both sides.