How Do You Make a Marriage Work?
By kkropat
@kkropat (29)
Canada
September 25, 2010 7:36pm CST
Married couples, how do you make a marriage work through the years? How do you handle the tough times and disagreements? I'm wondering this because I've been with a man for 6 years now and we have our problems, but always seem to work it out. Is it really as easy as just finding the perfect mate, or is there more involved in making it work?
3 responses
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
26 Sep 10
I have been married for 27 years now and I would say that there is much more involved than finding the perfect mate. There must be trust, honesty, friendship, loyality and patience. There will always be disagreements and disappointments, you must learn to live with them. Both partners must be willing to make it work. Accept what you cannot change in your partner and change what you cannot accept in yourself.
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
26 Sep 10
Some of the problems we handled were problems with just disagreeing with each other especially early on in the marriage , which we ususally settled with agreeing that neither of us were right and each has a right to our opinion, we have delt with family members, his and mine, interfering with decisions and/or situations, we always try to keep our issues private, we don't discuss our problems with family members, we always stick up for each other and remind family members its none of their concern.
The best way I found to get through any situation that arises is to be totally honest with each other, accept that there are things that you don't like about your spouse and that there are things you can not change about your spouse, accept that there will be actions or words spoken that can not be taken back, and you have to forgive and forget. It is no good to forgive and then keep reminding the other person what they did wrong, forgive is forgive and forget. Never go to bed anrgy at each other, seems like a cliche but its not, if you don't deal with your issues they will not go away.
@floranabolilan (80)
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1 Oct 10
Marriage only works if both parties would be responsible enough to know there duties to each other which is to listen, listen and listen . Having a good communication to each other , and both are willing to be corrected in there mistakes, both are willing to humble.. it is the principle of being loved because you want to serve I would say " Marriage is not only love but serving each other "
@canaussie (221)
• Australia
26 Sep 10
First of all, marriage can't work without the basic ingredients of a relationship. That is love, trust, respect, communication. There is no relationship or marriage that don't encounter problems but if couples are willing to stick together, work as a team, maintain the basic ingredients, and aim to nurture their relationship, there is more chances for the marriage to succeed.
