Do You Settle for Less????
By bird123
@bird123 (10643)
United States
September 25, 2010 10:51pm CST
There comes a time in our life when we think it's time we should be married. Funny though, our true love hasn't shown up yet. Is this when you decide to settle for less and marry anyone??
With divorce rates so high, lots of people must be settling for less. Sure, forcing things might solve all the pressures society puts on us to be married, but to settle for anything less than true love, is inviting a mess that is due to show up in time. All those who pressure you now, won't help clean up the mess later.
Be patient!! Wait for true love!! Love and life do not have a timetable. Each of us have our own story to live. If we were all the same, how boring it would all be. Share your love and kindness with all. Your true love will show up in time. The love and kindness you give to others somehow attracts true love to you. NEVER EVER SETTLE FOR LESS!!
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7 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
26 Sep 10
First and foremost, I absolutely do NOT believe that there is ever a "time" you "should" be married. Marriage is not a life requirement, or a validation or worth nor some grand finish line. The only time marriage "should" come up is if and when you are with someone you genuinely want to be with for a very long time and the two of you decide together that marriage is something you want.
Settling for less is ridiculous in itself, but grabbing the first guy who approaches you when you think it's "time" for you to be married is downright absurd.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I think those pressures are absurd and unfounded. I really don't understand why people buy into them, especially in this day and age.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I agree. No one should give in to them. I'm sure many are tired of hearing: When are you getting married or when are you having kids. People asking these questions do not intend to put pressure on people but it turns out that way. I do not ask those questions anymore. Thanks for your comments!!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I agree, however society does place alot of pressure on people to be married. After they are married, the pressure is to have children. Some people do anything to relieve that pressure. In time they discover, it is easier not to give in. Nothing like a messy divorce to show one reality. Thanks for all your comments!!
@winstonbaltazar (355)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
No I will never do it, I will pray for the one who will I marry. I know God will give me the right person for me.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I think that if you settle for less, you are setting yourself and the person that you married up for a lifetime of misery. I don't think though that settling for less is necessarily why the divorce rate is so high. I think that peopke marry with unreasonable expectations. They think that everything is going to be romance and happy wonderful times when the truth is that marriage is very hard work. The easy thing is to walk away and get a divorce. The harder and more worthwhile thing is to stay and work out your differences.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I try not to settle for less. We don't gain anything in this world by doing that. We need to go after our dreams. Settling for less just cheapens that dream.
@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Hi! I agree with you. One should never settle for anything less. If you can't find what you are looking for, try to change it a bit. Maybe, that type ain't for you. 
In the meantime have time to upgrade your self, change your looks, your attire, be healthy and prepare cause you'll never know, you could be meeting your right man unexpectedly.
In the meantime have time to upgrade your self, change your looks, your attire, be healthy and prepare cause you'll never know, you could be meeting your right man unexpectedly. 
@iamdee (158)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Yes we should never really settle for less because first of all we are created by God endowed with great potentials capable of making a big difference. We must be optimistic enough and think positively so that whenever we are faced with failures, we can manage to stand and move on. Talking about love life, it is important to remind ourselves that God already have His wonderful plans for all of us. Plans that will make us prosper as long as we continue to live our lives for Him, with Him and in Him. Life will always be beautiful despite all the trials we encounter. Life has given me laughters and tears and I know that there's more to come. God bless!
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Bird123, please remind me when my time comes. We all must never settle for anything less especially when it comes to lifetime commitment. Whenever i see my sister, it makes me feel lucky to still be single because she was married to a man who has depression. It is so terrible...
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
26 Sep 10
Yes, I can see where your sister has a lot of challenges. I wish her the very best!! True love is a funny thing. Sometimes it comes packaged with problems for us to overcome, learn, and grow. It's still wonderful in spite of it all. Thanks for your comments!!
