Can taking a break help?
By bokal2703
@bokal2703 (802)
Philippines
September 26, 2010 10:20am CST
There will be times when a relationship seems to reach a point when one or both partners may be bored or unsatisfied with how the relationship is going. They may think that giving each other some space may quick fix the relationship that seems to get colder each day. They may believe that taking a break can improve the relationship.
Can taking time apart from each other will really help a relationship to flourish? Or it is just a way to avoid certain issues that are actually contributing to the downfall of a relationship?
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11 responses
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
26 Sep 10
I personally believe that any type of quick fix in a relationship is not good. What ever issues there are will eventually come up. If it's just boredom, you need to talk instead of walking away, hoping you will miss each other so much, your love will flourish. Also, I think couples need to learn to learn to put up with some minor things rather than just walking away. Nobody is going to meet someone that does not do something annoying. My girlfriend have a house together so neither one of us can just walk away.Girlfriend not wife because she doesn't want to get married, but she will stay with me forever. We got a dog, she is much more affectionate to him than me. She isw just one of those super animal lovers a little more than usual. Can't imagine being without her though.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
26 Sep 10
Hi marty, that is an excellent advise , any type of quick fix never works in relationships.Walking away never helps, it is a negative attitude. It is better to sort out issues rather than stay mum or turn your back....
@wiwa05 (230)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Yes! I've been there once. Me and my boyfriend did this once and I can tell you that it really did help us to refreshen up all things especially you both want to find what you seek within yourselves. It's best to love someone if you're WHOLE again, and you're both ready and sure afterwards to continue what you've both had. As they say, love is sweeter the second time around. And it really is, especially if you love COMPLETELY and without any hesitations!
^_^
God bless! ;)
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
I am in a stressful relationship. Well, it isn't that we still fighting the way we did few months ago but it seems that simply being together is stressful enough. Maybe because there were situations that tainted our relationship, and whatever little love we have for each other , we let it die, too.
During those nightmarish times I had with my husband, I wanted out. I wanted so much to get some space from him.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
I wanted to just fade away somewhere, anywhere far from him...to think, to sort things out, if I really wanted to be in the situation and for him, too, to do the same....
For me, it was the chance we need to re evaluate our relationship, our selves, our situations and our feelings for each other....
There's no guarantee that if we gave each other some space, then, it could mean we could continue with our lives being a loving couple, we could or we couldn't.
But, the separation will give us the chance to move forward with our lives in the proper directions.Directions we clearly see and not a path we take blindly...
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
27 Sep 10
Yes, it's not healthy for a relationship if they are seeing each other too often. Especially when they are adults, all the more want freedom. Won't u feel bored if u were to face your gf or bf every day without fail? With them in our life on a daily basis, we will also be losing our friends too. In order to spend time with gf and bf, we have to turn down outings with buddies or sisters. Over the time, we will then realize those calls stopped coming in. Close friends of the past has now become strangers whom knows us best.
Without a break, will there to new topics to talk about in the relationship? Silence might be good but not overly silent as it kills off the sparkle in our love too.
@johney264 (544)
• China
27 Sep 10
May be useful may be its a adventure, you must have ability to balance it well, otherwise it will be developed to a big question, at lest time can prove lot of things, especially the relationship give it an answer may be a good thing. how long time you will get apart is the critical point. Apart have two meaning, one side try the time without partner if feeling loss some thing important so that understand partner is very heave thing in myself's life, treasure eachother more and more. another side means to belittle the relationship give partner feeling is how does not matter the relationship. just I think so.
@clairekorea (28)
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26 Sep 10
it does help to give each some time and space. maybe the two of you had some of much of each other that you forgotten that the two of you are also people - two different individuals. it makes you realize a lot of things. just balance everything. too much of everything can be suffocating.
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@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
26 Sep 10
I think that one of the parties wanting to take a break is a serious problem in a relationship. It shows a lack of commitment to the other party. What happens when the couple that took a break gets married and gets bored? Can they take a break then as well? If someone asked me if they could take a break freom our relationship, I would say absolutely and then just move on.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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26 Sep 10
I think that sometimes if you have time apart it can make matters worse in a relationship.Also if you need time apart now,what would happen if you were married to each other,you can not keep going off thinking that the relationship will stay ok,as in the end it will break a relationship having time apart often.
@pinoycity (575)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
It may or may not help. Taking a break from a relationship may help in the sense that you will find out if you really still have feelings with this person. The only problem is if the feeling is not mutual. You may want to return to this person but he/she may have enjoyed his/her freedom so much that he/she does not want to have it anymore.
@popcrakle (4)
• China
27 Sep 10
I think taking a break helps a lot, especially when a problem arises in a relationship. On the one hand, excessive intimacy or too close, sometimes, makes people feel oppressive. Everybody needs some privacy. On the other hand, if the relationship between two people is going to break up or two feel embarrassed when staying together, taking a break will surely help each other to understand and value how important the relationship of two is. During the break, two can think about the problems carefully and thoroughly, which help two people understand themselves and his friends better. More important, to make haste to end a relationship is not sensible and irresponsible. Sometimes we make a decision without thinking carefully or just out of anger, then we regret having made such stupid dicisions. Taking a break gives people enough time to think about the matter before making the final decision.