How can you handle pain when your brokenhearted?

How one person responds and deals with matters of the heart may not be the same with other people. I have been in a very long relationship as well (almost 6 six) and was supposed to get married the first week of November this year when my fiancee and I broke up. Actually, I was the one who called it off. Our relationship had gotten lukewarm and one of us, or maybe both, had become complacent about it that there was no spark anymore. In addition, we don't have the same faith and belief which was a very big factor in a relationship, and I didn't see him in my future anymore. It was hard, of course. One cannot just shrug off and completely dismiss a very long and serious relationship, much more an engagement, out of his/her life, but it happened. It took me a while to realize that we're not meant to be husband and wife after all. Honestly, I prayed about it before I made that decision because it's a really tough, life-changing one that I had to make. I thank God that I have friends who were very supportive of me. they didn't say anything wrong or bad about my ex-fiancee and our relationship, but they just listened and shared bits of their thoughts and a lot of their love. I can say that we've both moved on. He's already in a new relationship and happy with it, like I am with mine. I guess, you just have to surround yourself with people who love you and pray. Pour out your heartaches to God and exchange your heavy heart to a heart of joy. ^_^

There is no easy formula in trying to erase pain. You will always feel pain when you experience failures, heartaches. The important thing is to have someone to whom you can confide and share your pain. It is a good thing that you have your supportive mother.

The pain of a broken heart is not something that anyone enjoys dealing with. It can take you through so many different emotions. The best way to handle the pain is by trying to replace that pain with some joy. Getting over a broken heart is not easy. Time is the best healer, but finding something to help you move forward is the best way for healing to start.

Yes, I know it hurts, I had it once, eventhough we were not engaged yet, we were halfway there. Time is the answer. Time will help you to forget your fiancee. All I can say is let the feelings flow and let it end. It's not easy, but it will end for sure. When you're feeling down, find a friend or two that you trust, tell them what you feel. It will ease you to have someone there hearing for you. Someday, you will find your one and only true love, just BELIEVE.

insulin hi... Take each day, crying is good for the soul... Try to keep yourself busy, talk to some friends or family, mom is a great listener... Go out with some friends & keep yourself busy... It's not the end of the world, but this will make you a stronger person & their are other relationships you will have. Just maybe this is for the best, everything will be okay, just take care of yourself & love yourself... Move forward because you will find happiness in you future endeavors... Take care & good luck!!

you cry and grieve for the broken relationship, then you move on and figure out that not everybody is like your ex, your soulmate is out there for you and you will find someone that will love you for who you are

yesterday my roommate cried in front of me, it is the first time i saw him cry. i can feel pain deep inside his heart when talking about his relationship with his girlfriend. i was wondering is that love that hurting a guy until he cry so badly? i never experience this before is that mean i haven't really fall in love? what i told him is that love is not everything, as time goes by you will find out that how silly you are to be crazy with love and think that it is the only thing in the world. what i think you can do is take a trip to other place, maybe other country that bring you away from the place that make you feel sad. expose yourself to different things and think differently. it will help

oh how sad! me if i have my bad times i always think about the good one..but when it come to heart-broken it contain with heart-ached and pain and i know it is really hard to handle it when you are alone..you still lucky coz you have your parents who always there to comfort you..it really hard to do honey but i tell you this you learn to forgive and accept the facts in order you to move on..

Find a place where you can scream and cried as you like, then hug your mother and tell her about your broken heart. She will tell you how to move forward and start your life over again. Be around your friends and do fun things with them. In time you will be able to cope and smile again.

Don't think too much,everything would be OK,just pay your attention on something else and time would gradually dilute your pain.Maybe all the things mylotters said here doesn't work for you,but through this we conveyed a message that the people around you are all caring for you.So don't worry,just get together more with your family and friends.Every time when i encountered such similar brokenhearted things,i would do like this,just shift the stress.

The pain of a broken heart is unlike any other pain. It is deep emotional wound, a blunt force blow to the very core of the human psyche & frankly put, it sucks! If we have to handle the pain of your brokenheart we should make ourself busy so that we can't focus on our loss. DOn't get self destructive & at all cost avoid excess of any mind. Talking is a excellent way to cleanse you soul & ease your mind. Pick a close & trusted friend & ask them in advance to listen to you vent whenever needed. You need to stop living in past & focus on the future.

Its not easy when you get hurt in loving a person.It feels like your dying every time you hear his/her name.All you have to do is to move on and to let go just to save yourself.

Being HEARTBROKEN...this too shall pass!!! No matter how painful it was for sure you'll recovery from it. I have been there and the HURTS teaches me of so many things. It makes me more mature, realized that I'm HUMAN able to feel hurt/happy/sad. But how do i handle pain??? I just want to be alone, just cry cry.. then let that person realize what he/she does to me. To lessen the burden, I would call up a friend to seek advice. I remember a friend told me "You can learn something from everything"... Its simply means there's no experience that cant teach you somthing worthwhile.

When I'm brokenhearted, I cry. It is the only thing I can do to make it at least ease the pain. I talk to my friends and have conversations to make me feel that I'm not alone. We discuss what the problem is and I seek for their advices and ask what is the best thing to do to move on easily. I also pray to God to give me strength and give me strong heart to overcome what situation I'm into.

Keep on living don't matter what. Hold onto your friends, do things you like to do, meet new people, take care of your mind and body... play videogames, eat some vegetables. Remember that your life must go on do not matter what and be sure that things are never so bad that they cannot be worst. Cheers!

I think it is very hard to handle yourself when our someone special breaks our heart. Yes it is very worst situation for us when our someone special left forever to us. I think then it is hard to handle our pain because this pain never ends. And you need time to handle this.

dont rush yourself, very first thing you can do is to accept the reality that it is over this way you can help yourself to move on. it is indeed not that easy to forget & just let things pass by. let yourself cry whenever you feel like crying it is the best way to release your emotions toward such situation & after that move on.