finding faith in the storm
@macdingolinger (10386)
United States
September 26, 2010 8:17pm CST
Those who know me know that I am still caring for my son who was injured in a car accident almost two years ago. I have had a difficult time figuring out how to process it all emotionally as it doesn't just go away. We didn't wake up one morning and he's all better now! Actually it is moving quite slowly! But anyway I finally figured out a way. I started my own blog today for the first time! It's called "from the furnace" and it's all about keeping my faith even in the heat of the battle. What do you do when you are emotionally overcome by something that just doesn't go away?
11 responses
@peavey (16936)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Some people can write it out and that helps. If you can do that, then I am glad. When I am emotionally overcome, I withdraw as much as possible, because I need more time to think and pray. The only real strength to deal with things comes from God, so the more I look to Him, the easier things become.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I am actually like that too. I haven't written in my journal for months now.. I know it's the opposite, but that's the way it is. I am thinking if I can put things out on a blog I can do just that, finally get them out!
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Yes i got it up and running yesterday afternoon. I already have three entries! I have a few comments too but not too many yet!
@wollivierre (687)
• United States
6 Oct 10
well thought i haven't had very many emotional problems i do have some and when i do, all i do is pray no matter where i am or what i'm doing i just ask god for his help and thank him for the good in my life.
but the bigest problem in my life is pain i've been in pain for 10 years now which is more that half my life, and i do my best to pray when i am or atleast just say thank god for the times i'm not in pain. it has helped me though the times when i was at my limit and couldn't handle the pain.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
6 Oct 10
We never know what someone is going through until we spend some time with them! I am sorry to hear about your pain. One thing I have learned is giving thanks for what I do have! Thanks for sharing!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I know how you feel, and alot of times, I just look around at others that have it worse. We do not have an easy task at all, but sometimes just seeing others that have been through even more, helps me to keep plugging away and not feeling sorry for myself. It is a long road that we have went, and sometimes I would love to run into a rest area, lol. Just know that you are doing the best you can, and you have lots of friends that will help you deal with things. I have found many here that have been here for me. I do not let the little things in life bother me, they aren't worth my time or energy. I just that God that I have had the extra time with my child and try to make every minute count.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I have a some family who help me some and that is great. I don't have too many friends except online. I understand what you mean about not worrying about the little things. It's interesting how our perspective on things can change when we go through the fire. Huh?
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Thank you. I do pray a lot. I learned how to pray as a small child and I have spent my lifetime in praying. So it has been automatic for this journey!
@markusgrejaldo (112)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Prayer and meditation are best.
Hope your son recovers soonest and swiftest. best wishes.
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@markusgrejaldo (112)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
You play Music?
Mind telling me which instruments? =)
I play the guitars, and I can sing as well.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Thank you for the well wishes..I spend much time in prayer and also playing music. It helps me and him both!
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
28 Sep 10
A couple of years ago I had a situation that I knew I wouldn't be able to resolve on my own. So, the first thing I did was admit that I had made a serious mistake and asked for God's forgiveness. Afterward the Holy Spirit directed me to both literature and ministers that helped me deal with the problem. It's still going to take a while before I'm home free, but I have a peace now that I didn't have before. I think talking with God makes a world of difference with any situation.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
6 Oct 10
It is so good to hear that God directed you to find the help you needed. He is our strength no matter what route He takes to get to us!
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
That is a good thing. IT is always encouraging to see others hanging on when going through struggles. It's also good to know someone has walked it before and it can be done!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Sep 10
This has to be very difficult sweetie and hard to deal with. Unfortunately, all I can offer is to continue your faith. Sometimes we do not understand all the trials we deal with on a daily basis, even though so many say that things happen for a reason. How and why on earth would there be a reason in such a travesty as I feel really bad for you and your son as this has to be very difficult to deal with.
Please find some time to relax and take a breather, what I mean by this basically is you need to scream, cry, question and vent it all out each time you feel down as you are only human and cannot be expected to be all together all the time as it is a great load.
God bless and I will hope and pray for you and your son. Please be well.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
You would think it would get easier as we go along. But actually as the days drag on it gets more difficult to handle the emotions! So I started the blog so I would have a safe place to put them!! Thanks for your kind and thoughtful response!
@beautifulpages (70)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
My heart goes out to you. I am also a mother and such situation are one of the most difficult things that a mother has to go through...to see your son hurting, in pain and how you wish that you can take his pain and suffer for him.....but it is not just so.....
This kind of situation is what I call my "lowest of low" moments. During these times, one of the following helps keep me strong during the storm and sane after the hurdles I have to face:
1) I cry my heart out LOUD!
2) I ask GOD why such things happen.
3) I pray for answers and if they are slow to come;
4) I ask for patience , strength and guidance to help me through my ordeal.
5) I read a lot!
6) I navigate my strength, time and energy in doing positive things that I love most, scrapbooking pictures of my family depicting happy times shared.
If things seem uncertain still, I cry and pray over and over again...until the day my heart becomes numb to pain and learn to accept things as they are without question and fear but with faith that things happen for a reason and that GOD will make things happen for us in HIS time.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Thank you so much for sharing your heart with me! I think I have worked through at least to the point that I see this is what we have to deal with period! I committed myself to the journey way back when he was first injured. I had no idea what that meant! But I am committed to walk it with him, even though I cannot walk it for him!
@pastorlamont (184)
• United States
27 Sep 10
The only thing I can do is pray and look to Jesus. Isa. 45: 22 says, 'Look to Me, and be saved...' It's in the storms of life where God can really flex His muscles. The Word says, 'When' the storm beats against the house, not IF...what's critical is what you've built your faith on, the Rock, or the Sand...
God knows exactly what He's doing, and He is in total control - Allow Him to complete the work that He's started in you...Phil. 1:6
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@bettemachete (194)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Keep writing and stay positive. Like I said before, it takes strength to be up to the challenges, and I think you can channel your anxieties through writing.
You can also read, the bible, poetry, anything that makes you feel peaceful and resolved even in little increments. Taking care of yourself wlll make taking care of your son a little easier, so take time to be good to yourself.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I am learning that I must take care of myself to take proper care of Chris. That's a difficult one to sort through though! thanks!!