Do it really annoy you when a neighbor spread gossip without evidence?

hi torchblazed, I also notice the same things just like my neighbor they are so nosy they are always watchful of other people. I think they are not busy and just so happy to find fault or criticize other. if you see some of them have imperfect life but they claim to be perfect as if they have no defect. I do agree with you that they should not be tolerated cause sometimes it cause a scandal and so annoying. It could even break a good relationship especially if other people believe them discredit your image. It is best to avoid or ignore them but when it becomes too much it is call an abuse. So it is good to confront them to know their intention. thanks for replying.

hi hatley, That a good attitude as you confront the person in a nice way so she would stop spreading lies. In that way you avoid hurting her and you would gain her respect in the process as you remain decent in the way you approach the original person who spread gossip just to discredit your image. it is better to remain nice but keeping it silence is not nice for a long run. As anyone need to defend self when face with such adversary. thanks so much for replying.

hi Kun, Actually I am like a listener but does not like longer conversation involving knowing the latest rumor since i have to focus to do more important things. It does not matter when it involve other people not family but in case it involve me or my family i am really annoy. Though I like to ignore the sources but the funny thing they are the one who come closer to ask me what the truth then you tell them it is not true or deny them but would call you as denial queen or king or when you ignore they would label you as a snob. So it is best to keep quiet or distant from them as it is really the habit of some people to dig or create scandal making the other party the object of laughter. thanks.

hi Sreekala, Especially when you are very busy tending to the needs of your family. Those who love to spread gossip usually have no busy lifestyles so to compensate for being bored just to kill time they have some fun making lies or wrong gossip just to entertain their self or other people who have the same lifestyles as theirs. Confiding your problems to a neighbor could not be comparable to gossip as long as you want advices or in reverse position they are the one seeking your advices, Though in sensitive cases when you tell it to other then it destroy the secret develop of trust therefore it become a gossip which is a biggest sin as it destroy respect, trust and develop adversary. Yeah, being busy with your own life you could avoid minding other people business as it gives you more benefit than wasting time talking about other people lives when you could not even manage to straighten your own path just like other people who love to talk other people lives. thanks for your lovely response.

hi fifeleigh, That better as long as you know for the fact that they telling a lies and you are innocent with whatever they tell to other to stop. To ignore them totally is the best solution. thanks.

hi amelialsc, Of course i always like to ignore them eventually it would just die but if they keep repeating spreading lies like a parrot. it think it is best to confront them so know their real reasons in hitting me most of the time when one is actually a very friendly, loving and peaceful person. That would be unfair to become the instant target when one is not a celebrity and does not need a publicity.Or maybe they are other deeper reasons but i would not dig them up so their are times I may encounter some nasty rumor or remark it is best to tell it to me directly on my face as I would know directly than knowing the information from there people is a mark of cowardice in my own opinion. The one who tell gossip should tell it frankly to the person directly involve so she may know and maybe they could help each other to solve it. thanks for your lovely response.

hi pose, Yeah, many are just fabricated and if one gives too much focus on it makes precious energy lost. It is a waste of time to worry into something when you know you are innocent so the one who spread the wrong rumor where the one who would suffer on the end if the rumor boomerang on them. As the karma goes back to them so it is best to keep quiet than to let it bother you as the more one gives them attention the more they would have some fun creating rumor. As a decent and nice person it is best to be pleasing most of the times than to criticize another fault when one got imperfection too. thanks for your lovely response.

hi antiquelady, hehe... gossip just die naturally their is nothing to worry though some people just get easily affected but it is nt something to be focus so the important hings in life must be the first priority rather than listening or engaging in false rumor. thanks.

hi flower21, i do feel the same things and most of the times I appear as a snob but the truth i just don;t like to taint my image by going down to their level. it is annoying when you try to hard to be decent , kind and friendly they still find a hole to pin you down. so the best option is to totally ignore them but sometimes they really suck any patience left. thanks.

hi shia88, yeah, some say it is the way to socialize such as in a party just to kill boredom and as form of entertainment. Though it not become a joyous occasion when you hapen to know in case you're the topic of the day so it is really irritating though one does not like to mind some just keep asking even they are not being ask. So it really kill the moods very annoying even one have super patient some rumor is too much too chew even one like to spit it keep coming..Even it is true or wrong rumor I still not have the habit to do it as i am merely a listener so it is a bad timing when you know you are the topic. very annoying so the best way is to ignore them but some keep repeating until you lost patient. So just to avoid losing decency it is best to ignore them though they would have misinterpret the person as a snob but the truth just want to avoid intrigues or troubles. thanks for your lovely response.

hi gracefuldove, Well, in my place even though their are decent neighbor some are just plainly gossip mongering so they are just so happy to make fun of their neighbor who seem unfriendly even it never does anything bad to them. The best way is to ignore them even they spread rumor no one would be bother to listen as some have busy lifestyles and the one who make rumors are simply have nothing to do with their lives so talking about other lives are their way to kill boredom. thanks for your lovely response.

hi janejozelle, Of course as long as it is not supported with a nasty videos. surely it could not be deny. besides if you know for in fact that it is true so it is better just to keep silent about it. just let it die thanks.

hi fantasticbabe, the best is to ignore them they just destroy the good image of any person at the same time they destroy the good mood. thanks.

hi brean_rhea, That is only right to protect your dignity and reputation especially when you know for a fact that it is a merely lies without truth on it with less evidence. unless it is true their is no way to control it just keep quiet or ignore they would die eventually. thanks for your lovely response.

hi maean, You got a good pint and i think the same way. ignoring the person the same things ignoring the wrong rumor it would die eventually. Unless it become a scandal giving you a bad reputation which affect your relationship with other people and it changes the perception of other people about you as the gossip create certain bad images of you. it could be a time to confront and never let anyone do further damage. Toleration could be best as well as to ignore them as long as you already mention it is not true then you should not bother as you know you have a clear conscience. So the one who spread the gossip just gin more disbelievers and not real person as they could not be trusted enough to keep a secret or becoming a real friend. thanks for replying.

amazing in my place their are few individuals who just manage to talk over the lives of other people whoever they pick it up without the knowledge of the victim. They like to have fun so i the person who is the focus of their topic is very impatient she may get mad or just let it die as long as she/he never hurt them physically. I am annoy too with those kind of people who have nothing to do since they almost like to create troubles and they are irritating to see. So the best way is just to ignore them and when they notice no one like to listen to them they would just go away. thanks for your lovely response.

hi sender, I think whether it is true or not it is still a bad manner to be involve in gossip or spread rumor about the lives of other people especially if one dislike it and then he/she become the topic that would surely make a bad mood of any person. Although some does not like to gossip the problem are the people around her/him if she/he does not listen or participate in a group she/he could be the next topic which is very annoying. thanks for your lovely response.

hi romzz, Lol..well that very true saying some gossip are totally harmless depending on the kind of subject. Some people could tolerate gossip while other people lose their patience easily they get to react in an outburst of being angry. Keeping quiet is equivalent to being peaceful since you could not control other tongue you just ignore them is the best remedy. thanks for replying.

hi johney, Well I think everyone have set their mind to have a long patience as long as the person never hurt them physically it just remain a verbal things. But some people i know never like to be being the feeling of being stab at the back and they would even prefer the other person to tell them directly the reason of their disliking rather than keep the other person keep guessing to know where did he get wrong. Then it is a waste of time to let yourself get affected. When they see your reaction they would only get happy since they like to see other people feel miserable. So the best solution is to ignore them. thanks.

hi pinoycity Of course tongue is surely the most evil organ follow by other senses. thanks.