i'm confused! all of sudden i'm now an ignorant and brainless being!

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I don't know what to feel yet don't know what to think..of why can we never have the same perception or view in life or why can we not try to look at what others can share you as an experience to learn and and grow with it... I'm having this debate with my bf right now while typing this discussion..so. tonight I found out that he is under his perceptions in life already, so, I'm trying to tell him that just so maybe he's not aware of it and for him to know that his views are plain hopeless to the fact that we will never grow together if he'll carry those views forever..He's saying that because of what he experienced with his ex he is now contented of what he is and of what he can only do and contribute in our relationship..like if he doesn't want to work he wont work because for him he can give what we need for the day..know what I mean? like okay, we got what we need for today, so no need to give extra effort for extra needs..I was like ohhh..this man is hopeless no ambition at all...I'm trying to make him realize that its not gonna be healthy for him to stay that way of thinking, he needs to slowly change those views or he's doom..he will be stuck in this kind of life forever! trust is being an issue now also, he said he cant fully trust me because of my past and I feel the same way, I cant give 100% trust because I'm feeling a little peculiar about him..like I've been here before with the same exact relationship just that different person, I just cant give him that trust because this feeling? I'm feeling he still has some love for his ex..its like we got a lot of differences with opinions and views that just wont meet..now I think I'm plain ignorant and brainless because of this conversation with him... I know, I'm venting in here...anyone wants to vent? what's your story?