When a friend betrays you...

Hello chiyosan, Betrayal is a BIG Issue to me. Once you lost the trust of that person, it would be very hard to attain it again. maybe i can forgive that person after a long time being away from him or her. but there's no way i can be a friend to this person again, no matter how he/she change. I believe that betrayal would make me realize that he or she is not a worthy of a friend the best advice that i can give is at leaST NEVER REVEAL YOUR SECRET OR YOUR PAST..unless this friend had actually experienced it. or better yet, never reveal them at all.

I have been betrayed so many times but I am glad that God gave me the grace to forgive them. I forgive but it is hard for me to trust again. Because of the many betrayals in my life I hardly trust easily.

It is said,that the most right thing to do is to forgive others for their wrongdoings unto us. But sometimes it is so hard to do especially if the one who did is to us is somebody so special or we love. I believe that all wound heals in time. It may not totally be forgotten because of the scars it oftentimes left on our skin. But it the pain will gone. & it is what important most. No pain anymore. So let us all forgive & try our best to forget.

Over the years you know who you can aswell as who can not trust to not discuss you or other things todo with you.I am soo pleased that i know that i can only trust myself.In the past i have learnt that no matter what has been said no matter how unimportant things have still been said to other people of what i was doing and things that were going on in my house,so now i only tell people what i want them to hear.

i never trust again the people like that... i never want to see her or his anymore.. no empty space in my heart for them who betray my trust

yes i will forgive them because they are just like my sister and brother means they are closed to me.but ..yes there is still but it really depends on the problem itself.if it is really serious matter and she/he did that to me i will consider to do something about the relationship and it will only be so when i know the truth from her/himself.i will do the same thing even to a stranger.

That will surely be a difficult situation for me. I will forgive him or her eventually, but I think I will never be able to forget what he or she has done to me. It's like giving score to an article or a product. If his / her value was 9, it will probably drop down to 7,5 or something.

If this is with a newly met friend, I'll learn my lesson not to trust people easily. If this is a fairly old friend, maybe I have to rethink our friendship. If this is a really close friend, I have to know the reasons why s/he did that betrayal and understand where s/he is coming from.

It depends on the betrayal. How serious is it, why did they do it. If it is something major, then I think I would not like to have much to do with them. If it is something minor, or they had some very good reason for doing what they did, then I could overlook it.

I suppose it depends on the broken trust situation. But one thing is for sure the friendship would never be the same.

that will really be an ouch! for me if it will happen to me.... if ever i will be in that situation, well...i maybe get mad at my friend but i still have the heart to forgive her/him, because everyone deserves a second chance.... but i wont trust this friend anymore as much as i trusted her/him before he/she betrayed me...

It really depends on the situation. Have they ever hurt you befor or is this there first time. How bad was it, did it really break your heart? Can you understand at all were they are coming from or was was they did completly irresponsible and you can not see your self trusting them again? If you feel like you would be better with them in your life and you could one day trust them again I would deffiently tell them how you feel. I would say that they really did hurt you and you do not ever want to be hurt like that again. That you love them very much and you want what is best for them but what is also best for you. You will still be friends with them, but you are going to have to work on building your trust again but you really want to make this work. Make sure you hear them out; but make sure they are not taking advantage of you. If you do not feel like you can ever trust them again tell them that you are sorry and you love them very much, but you have to do what is best for you. That they really hurt you and you can not see you being able to trust them ever again after what they did. And that you can not be friends with someone with out trust.