Forgive our friends and enemies too, if they hurt you .......
By Jotomy
@Jotomy (6322)
India
September 28, 2010 12:38am CST
Dear friends, we have our family members, friends, relatives etc., i wouldn't say that there are enemies we will have, if have also we should forgive them those who have hurt us. We must pray for them as God has told us to do and we have to bless our enemies (if any), keep clean your heart and speak to them if they come to you. Try to make your enemies also as your friends. I believe we can and should bless our enemies in practical ways when it is appropriate. Forgiving is a great weapon to make people put together. Forgiving may take time because you got hurt by them, it is very hard to forget. But i know who believes god it is very easy to forget those hurt and forgive them. Try this today you can see a great change in your feelings/life. A happiest moment you will feel and you will find to make your life happy. Spread your love towards your people whoever you know. Don't make your heart narrow think about the people around you if you can do any help try to help them. Don't keep in mind that they hurt you. We are the guest here in this world. So try to do the things to please the god. Because this world is belongs to god not to you. And you can win the heart of GOD by forgiving your enemies or whoever hurt you. (this is one of the way to win the heart of GOD)
Be happy always. God bless you all. 
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33 responses
@ankster (273)
• India
28 Sep 10
Few people should not be frogiven throughout their lives because few sins and few people dont deserve forgiveness.Its easy to write and say that we must forgive but when we really face any trauma or mental pain given by anyone its not at all easy to forgive.Forgiveness is good but we must know to judge the people.Few people do not deserve forgiveness and have no chances of improvement even if we forgive them so forgiveness in todays world has a different definition and the high sounding words doesnt suits in practical life
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
30 Sep 10
Hi ankster, true i too agree anything can be easy to say but it is hard to do it, but i can also tell you whoever believes god it is very easy to forgive the people whoever hurt you. It is actually divine gift to the people. One must make their heart broad and forgive the people. It gives so much self satisfaction and you feel some thing heaviness has gone, your heart become lighter and you feel happy. Try and see, if you have any enemies, talk to them and see, you will notice the difference.
@ cynthia, welcome to mylot. yes we must learn to forgive. 
@cynthia2010 (35)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
yes, its just easy to say forgiveness but then its hard to do. Especially when you are really hurt.But then if we have faith in God ,we will learn to forgive them. As time goes by,pain will be healed and we may learn to forgive.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Sep 10
How much this world needs people with these thoughts in practice. There would have been no wars, no terrorism or anything of that sort if we could just forgive. This is really a great thought but unfortunately we are humans and we are supposed not supposed to forgive that easily.
It would take ages for the human race to realize this.
I believe in forgiving and that has been a major attribute or asset of mine if you can term it that way. This realization came to me after I had stabbed my own younger brother during a fight in my early childhood. Though it wan not anything major but still that small wound bleeding made me feel horrible and I really needed to overcome that feeling. I pitied myself for months for having done this in a fit of rage and then I finally conquered that rage. Now, I rarely get angry, rarely have the feeling of hurting any one and all this because I learned to FORGIVE.
Thank you Jotomy for such a wonderful read and opinion. God bless all the people who share your views and are willing to Forgive.
My Regards,
theSids
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
30 Sep 10
Hi thesids, come again i didn't understand this "realization came to me after i had stabbed my own younger brother during a fight"
Happy to read your response. But i didn't understand why you said that unfortunately we are humans, i too get his doubt sometimes, are we fortunate to be here or unfortunate as human beings?
Thanks for your response. Have a wonderful day.
Thanks for your response. Have a wonderful day. @thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Oct 10
I have been committing a whole lot of typos all over the place. I just dont know whats wrong with my fingers....
Anyways, I mention that we are unfortunate because forgiving everyone doesnt come easily to us and we have to win over a lot of feelings (anger, ego,...) to start forgiving everyone. Though this is easier to practice still we are so much occupied with other things that we just dont want to take this pain and it seems that not-forgiving is easy to practice.
The realization that I should be forgiving came after a small fight that we had (me and my younger brother) where in a fit of anger I had stabbed him. It wasnt deep wound and everything was quite normal soon... but I felt that I should have control on my anger and I should not keep what harm others have been doing to me in my mind instead start to forget and forgive.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
28 Sep 10
I am a follower of this wonderful doctrine of what you said. But of late I am loosing faith in everything. Some people are incarigible. How much ever you are good to them, forgive their cheap mentality, stingy nature, mean way of thinking and try to be magnanimous, still they are the same and never realise their narrow path. My father used to say in Tamil, 'seyyadavanukku senji kami'. Means, for a person who has not done good to you, you do good for him and show the goodness. This gives a meaning that that person will, in future, realise his nature of not doing any good and change for good. But in reality, I see people go on receiving from you, more and above, start expecting from you and get angry if you do not give even once for any reason, and they never feel that there is a turn for them too.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Well if God can forgive then why can't we. But make sure you mark those who always offend you. Make every possible way to get rid of them as much as you can so that your life will be worth living. There are people in this world who are born to act like devils so beware.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
There are many people who do not like with me, even my heart hurt. But I always try to not reply to them. I forgive them, though sometimes very painful. I always instill in me, they hate and hurt for a reason that may be because of my mistake. So I have to judge myself, and I must accept, if it's all because of the mistakes I made. Sometimes very hard, understand those who hate me, I always try to think, what mistakes I had made to them.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Sep 10
We are only human to make mistakes.. we will make them and others will make them against us. We need to find it in our hearts to forgive. it is the right thing to do to move forward with life. forgiveness has to be given to friends and enemies alike. We can lead a better life when we show forgiveness to others.2 people like this
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
3 Oct 10
Hi sender, yes everyone says this because we are human we do mistakes we do hurt people, but not all, most of the people what i observed is they are very specific in their nature, if some one hurts also they keep quite and just smile at them and move from there. I have seen such people also. I know those are good people. I feel to learn some of the things from such people. Forgiving our friends and enemies is like divine thing, through which we can get back them easily. Thanks for your response. Have a great day.
@gsnarayanan (1704)
• India
28 Sep 10
As you say we are all guests here. Or we can say we are the players , having taken some role like friends, men or women in this world. We have no control on our play.It designed by the God. The God makes us to play the different roles. If are supposed to be happy by loving even the people who are playing the role of enemies we are lucky.!
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
3 Oct 10
Hi gsnarayanan, I too agree our life is designed by the god and there are plans for us. But some of the things like we must have like forgiveness etc., Yes every one feels to be loved by all. That is good things too. They will not commit mistakes or they allow others also do mistakes.
Thanks for your participation in my discussion. Have a wonderful day.
@shaggin (72131)
• United States
28 Sep 10
When I was a teenager I never forgave anyone. If you screwed me over I'd hate you for life. I guess it was around the time I had my children did I learn to get over things. Its unhealthy to hold grudges all the time. I try not to hurt other people. I'm seeing this guy and I really felt like he led me on. He said he didnt mean to but it still hurt. I have been in a horrible mood for two weeks and started being really looney about things. He doesnt like me very much right now even though I've apologized. I dont blame him. I really wish I could take back everything. I feel horrible.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
3 Oct 10
Hi shaggin, most of the teenagers will do this, they doesn't know what they are doing and what they are talking, it is fun for they everything. Yeah if others hurt us or if we hurt some one will be the same feeling vise verse. But apologizing will give much relaxation and make them good friends again may be sometimes strong relationship too.
Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
28 Sep 10
Hi Jo,
I agree with you. However, ‘forgive is divine’
and how many people have this quality?
The percentage may be very less. I don’t have any enemy in my life. Sometimes I felt angry on some people and most probably the time is healing/reducing the anger. An open talk can help in a great way to remove the anger.
and how many people have this quality? The percentage may be very less. I don’t have any enemy in my life. Sometimes I felt angry on some people and most probably the time is healing/reducing the anger. An open talk can help in a great way to remove the anger.2 people like this
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
30 Sep 10
Hi sreekala, Yes sreekala, many people will think to take a revenge than forgiving people. But is it good? Anger will lead to many problems health problems as well as relationship problems, if we want a good relationship with anyone we must have good qualities like this forgiving people, because as i said we are there here today, we may not be there tomorrow then why all these ego, proud and all such things...
Thanks for your response. Have a good day/night.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
Hi,
It is good to be forgiving our family members and friends or either
our enemies,at least our life feel better and we won't feel being
tortured.
I remembered when I was young, I did have some complication with one of my
friend(classmate),she just like to gossip about me and talk bad about me,but then
I just ignored her gossip and I still make friend with her.I believe that
forgiving is best way to have more friends.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
28 Sep 10
Hi saphrina, yes it is very hard to forget and forgive them. But saphrina, my dear friend try to forgive them and see the changes of your feeling itself you can observe. An amazing feelings you will get and your heart will become so light. If they expect or not it is the GOD words to forgive our friends and even our enemies. Try and let me know.
Thanks for your nice response. Have a great day.
Hi thesids, yes it must be a diving thing.
Try and let me know.
Thanks for your nice response. Have a great day.
Hi thesids, yes it must be a diving thing. @mecs1690 (1)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I will forgive someone no matter how many goodness and bad things he/she did. I'ts just sometimes it will take longer time if impact is bigger. But i will surely forgive them because that's what god wants.And like they say keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
@arvik_the_first (97)
• India
29 Sep 10
You are taking the saying in the wrong sense. When they say keep your enemies closer they mean befriend them to back-stab them later.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
30 Sep 10
I'm not a very forgiving person. I just can't do it. When people are truly vile and toxic, I simply cannot forgive such behaviour, much less ever wish to be ice to them. Or even associate with them at all, if I can help it. I don't believe people should tolerate toxic people in their lives.
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
1 Oct 10
The bible tells to do good unto our enemies, and in doing so will heap coals of fire upon his head.
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@forcemaster245 (220)
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
Holding onto hatred for others is very tiring, so it is better to forgive someone instead.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Sep 10
You are absolutely right and this is something that I've always tried to do in my life. I have had plenty of fights with members of my family and also with my friends and I am able to forgive them pretty easily. Now as far as enemies, I won't say that I really have any enemies in my life because I've found it within myself to have forgiven them for all of the things that they did to me in the future. That is what I think is the best way to live.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
4 Oct 10
Hi dora, yeah who ever believes god will try to do forgive the people whoever hurt us. Yes, sometimes we may not adjust, but still as a woman we will adjust for everything, compromise for everything and move. Otherwise think of this world how it will be. We can't imagine. There is a chance of going everything in a wrong way. Forgiveness is the only solution i feel to make others to be tie up with us and make them happy.
Thanks for your nice response. Have a wonderful day.
@bautistaanna04 (306)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
right. forgiveness of someone who owes you a lot is good. aside from God being so happy for you, forgiveness will also set you free. free from hatred that will darken your heart for a long time.
sometimes, people who can't move on from a sin done to him can't live at peace. for some, it's hard to forgive someone whose sin to you is so large. but to me, forgiveness is a little easy. but me forgiving someone doesn't mean gaining the same trust i have for him before.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
4 Oct 10
Hi bautistaanna, yes they owes a lot. God will be happy when we hear to god, this is god's words forgive them even they hurt you. So we must go according to the god's words. I believe god so i will be doing maximum what he say, atleast i will try and i will tell all my known people to do the same way, to please the god. Because we are here as a guest, guest always try to please the owners. So we also must try to please our owner that is our god.
Thanks for your sharing. Have a nice day.
