do you share all your secrets with your best friend?

I have noticed that many myLoters seem obsessed with best friends, and at the same time there are many Posts outlining the betrayal of best friends. I am almost 77 years of age, and I've never had, or needed a best friend.It seems to me that the obsession with best friends springs from the inability to deal with, or a lack of competance to run your own life, and make to your own life decisions. Its a lazy way to live! Sure it seems like a nice idea, to have someone to lay your problems on - someone to share your triumphs and your tears, and even more so to advise you when you need advise. But its really just an easy way out that an intelligent person would not use. "To Thine own Self be True!" is much better advise. You will not come up Lost and Betrayed as long as you stay with that for a guide.

It's nice to share the secrets of a friend but I ispatih instant hit with both her ??and I will admit that this error.

Yeah monalily, when coming across certain conflict related to certain personal benefit usually would lose friendship. For people always attach importance to their own advantage and forget about the so-called genuine friendship. People are tend to take consideration fully to their own benefit. I don't share all my secrets with my best friend. I think certain genuine secrets are not suitable to share with others even my best friend. There's what I always have the "true secrets" which I, myself know only I want the secrets to be real secret that no one would know Happy posting

I don't. Although I trust my best friend very much, some things are safer them not knowing. The only person I do open up to and be honest with is my wife and she deserves that amount of respect because I know she won't judge me, tell anyone or do anything about what I say. As friends you could fall out and it's never worth telling them something they could use over you. At least this is the way I see things, I'd never talk about my marriage or personal side of life with a friend either.

No, I do not because there are some secrets which need to be confined to myself & should never be shared with others and there are some secrets which I desire to share with others, especially with my best friends but unfortunately, I cannot for reasons not known to me.

noi ,, idint cause i never trust my best friend,.., cause i think friend is cannot trusted all the time,..,but ,, that is just for me.,., haa.,.,

i would have to say yes. I do trust without doubt my very best friend to keep and hold my secrets. I tell her everything. she is the most amazing trusted person i know and i am glad i have someone like that in my life that i can talk to and trust

I would have to trust a friend 100% to share secrets with them, but I can't say that I have any secrets worth hiding. With my wife though, I am fully confident that I can share anything at all with her, and she feels the same way about sharing with me. It isn't anything that happens very much these days though because we know each other so well know after 25 years. _Derek

Well as some of the people have already mentioned it, some things are just too personal to share with anyone even your best friends. Also just as you mentioned some secrets can create problems for you if they come out in the open. In such cases I believe one should exercise restraint. You are saying that a friend will love you the way you are then I say then he will respect the fact that I don't wanna share all my secrets with him or her :)

I used to but I've learned my lessons. I don't think it's good to share everything with anyone even to our best friends. not unless they are saints and would not use those things against us some day. some things must keep to ourselves.

i don't tell my all my secret with my best friend i still keep some with me. even though she is my best friend she is still another person. it is indeed good to have someone you can share your secrets with, partners in crime, shoulder to cry on, etc. but its hurt like hell when your bf will betray you so its better to keep some for yourself.

When you are telling your secret to someone or any of your good friend, you are actually telling your weakness to them. To day I am your good friend. Due to the conflict of interest, I may turn into your enemy. You are lucky if I confront you directly to you. If I am unhappy with you and still treat you nicely, you are really have a hard time.

I use to tell my best friend ALLLLLLL my secrets. Then suddenly we weren't best friends anymore. We always use to promise each other that we would be each other's brides made. But that wont be happening. Since i called her white trash..... But anyway, even though she knows al my secrets, i still trust her with them because when i told her my thoughts; we had a bond, like sister hood. I trust her not to tell anyone and i know she knows that i wont tell anyone her secrets.

When we talk about secret, this is something that no one knows. If you reveal something, that is no longer a secret. If we keep something within us, we want to keep it for a while then later on we reveal, because, we are only withholding something for a while as i have said. What i know, if it is really a secret, you will never tell anyone, never...That is why, many are trying to exert efforts to find what exactly what is the secret behind this products, etc.etc...get my point?

Absolutely not! I don't think that this is a good idea and it's good to hold some things back! I think that if you reveal every single secret in your life then you are leaving yourself open and vulnerable, that's what I think anyhow. Once upon a time I thought I had a good friend and well, he betrayed me and I really thought that I could trust him. I think it pays to choose your friends in life! I feel safer now about keeping certain things hidden regarding my personal life! That's not to say that I have anything to hide but I think that we are each in control of the information that we retain in our minds. Anyway, that's just me! Andrew

i don't think i can share any of my secrets with even an angel and no matter how good my best appears i will never share my best kept secrets with them, the reason is for the fact that people do change over time and no single individual will have the same character for his or her lifetime

Hiya monalily, My secrets are for me only at this moment. Best Friends even if they are best Friends need not know everything about you. At least I don´t think that they have too either. A best friend will take you as you are and accept you as you are. But secrets are so personal to most People and I would not like my Friends to know those kind of things as they are only important to me.

Telling your problems and some secrets to your friends is not all that bad. But always keep some to yourself. Perhaps the most important to bear in mind is that friends are there for you in times of need but they could also put you in a situation where you would be crying for help because they have ruined your life because of a secret that you have exposed to them. Remember that the most delicate secret must not be out of your mouth if possible to protect you from any untoward events.

I do not share everything to my bestfriend. I still keep something for myself. :)

I do think we cannot tell everything to any single person. There is no one you can trust 100% At least don't trust what you hear from anyone for 100%. They might think that they tell you genuine info but they themselves are cheated by someone else.