Pain of any sort seems to have a longer duration than pleasure of any kind

Pains and distresses will be there at the back of our minds only if the situations stay unresolved. Else one can narrate those experiences with elan. You must have heard of success stories where one gets pleasure talking about hardships and emotional pains and how one over came all of them.

As a Zen practitioner, I have discovered that pain does last longer if it is restisted. Any kind of pleasure is not resisted, so it tends to pass a lot quicker. If I go into pain, instead of fighting it off, I focus into it totally. At first it seems to get worse, but as I hold my awareness on it completely, it begins to ease and disappear. This does not mean that I won't get pain checked out by a doctor though, it's just that some pain cannot be avoided because it is due to subconscious tension in the nerves and muscles and focusing on the painful area helps it dissipate a lot quicker. _Derek

Though I would have said the same earlier, I personally think it's the opposite for me. Maybe I just trained myself that way...lol I get over hurt or pain very quickly....a day or two...and let my happiness/pleasure to stay longer till something comes along to upset it. This keeps me happy and peaceful longer:)

That does seem to be true. It is the painful and traumatic experiences that stay with us more so than the joyous ones. The negative incidents have a way of coming back to our mind t torture us, that’s true. I have to wonder if it is just human nature to focus less on joy and whether it is part of our life lessons; that is to learn to focus on happy thoughts and memories.

Emotional pain, distress, worries, anxiety, etc...are mixed complex emotions that seem to be overwhelming of a burden to one self implicating a negative impact on one's life; this happens when you let it happen. Your best option is to think of the "good" things of things and remember only the positive things you have. Don't despair of the things you've lost, but be happy of what you had, what you have and what you will have... Just let go and move on with your life..

Emotional pain is something we allow to brew and stew and overtake any form of pleasure. If only we could remember the happy moments more often perhaps the feelings of pain and negativity would not over weigh.

It all depends on what you are used to. me? I'm more used to being in pain that when I find myself happy , Really happy I am in shock and the pleasure lasts so much longer.

Hi Kala! It depends upon person to person whether s/he continues to recall the sufferings/pain or whether he wants to enjoy the happy moments. I for one, keep enjoying the happy moments and try to forget the sufferings sooner than later. I know thinking about our pain/suffering will give me more pain, agony, stress and tension and I will ultimately be in trouble, so I try to shut the doors of my mind, which recall me about pain and sufferings. I rather believe in counting my blessings. dpk Good Post!

Pain lingers longer in our heart and mind becoz,we love the person who hurt us. But,if we doesn't care or,we are not close to the person who did wrong or give us that pain,it won't last for long. Happy moments stays forever in our heart,it won't fade with years esp if we treasure the person whom we shared those special moments and laughters Have a good day always dear

Hi kala, I have this belief. We human beings are addicted to the feeling of achievement. So everytime we achieve something we need to emphasise it as such. So we dwell on that pain for longer obliterating the joyful moments as if they were an obstruction to our achievement. Nobody wants to say I had at easy. Everybody wants to say, my life has been tough (including me). But honestly, if you really look at it, if we'd spent all our time crying, we wouldn't even enjoy our bath or wearing a single new dress. :) I can proudly say I am a happy person inspite of all my problems. And I believe god will be around when I need him the most. The lines of my hand say so. :)

It certainly seems that way! The reason may be that we "brood" way too much over a distress than cherish a happy moment. If happiness is floating on cloud nine, distress is like getting stuck in quicksand. It is much too easy and quick to fall, my friend, and digging your self out takes a long time.

Hi kala, how are you? emotional pains are very hard to digest, it will long last. Distress and worries we may forget after a period. That is why i spend with the god and do some yoga also meditation, which gives me much relief from all these and make my day fresh. Because i am the woman to look after my family about their daily needs and wants, if i am going to be feeling sick and dull all the day without doing anything then i feel more sad by thinking i am not useful even to my family members and also i feel i am not doing any justification to them. So i just pray god that if any hurts me or if i get worries i just go to god and pray also ask god to forgive them. That gives much satisfaction kala. God bless your family. Hope you are doing well kala.

What happiness is there which is not purchased with more or less of PAIN?....

I guess it is a matter of continues eagerness for the pleasure we longed for..and once it has been in your way...and suddenly parted ways we suffer for longer period of time with pain and heartaches as if pleasure is supposed to be forever so we couldn't feel the pain anymore..

The moments of happiness and joy are all light in feeling in the heart and mind. Hence, they very easily shell out. Whereas worries, depressions, disappointments are all very heavy in our heart and mind and they happily find their comfortable place in the heart and refuse to leave easily. When a wound is left for itself, it heals fast. Whereas a wound which is often meddled with, will aggravate. Same way, we go on remembering the worries, depressions etc. again and again. Hence the worries etc. are often meddled with and they aggravate and take time to heal.

We do have a saying that "Time flies when we are having fun" so I guess you are right. However, actively working on having an upbeat attitude helps us get through unpleasantness faster, I think. I suppose it depends on the nature of the separation, too.

Yes kalav, pain is much more longer than pleasure in our life. Pleasure is short lived. So it is better to ignore the pains of our life. When you feel pain listen songs,go to travel or talk to your friends. Your mind will be fresh.

I totally agree with you kala. What u say is true. I felt the pinch of pain. When we are in our happier days, we enjoy that happiness only for that moment. But when we have heart break due to various reasons or feeling low even for a couple of days we can not sleep properly, recollecting the unfortunate incidents, or rewinding the occurrences which is the reason for our sadness.

Pleasure seems to come and go quickly in our lives. It gives us sweet memories. Pain will come out of the blue and hang on to us with fury. No matter what we say or do, pain seems to stay in our memories and our hearts longer than any pleasure can. Pain brings out emotions that pleasure can't and lingers much too long.

We are all humans... to feel pain is to know that we are alive.. we are not robots.. I welcome pain anytime..