Have you been around people that will just stare at you and will never talk?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
September 28, 2010 12:17pm CST
I am having this problem right now. I need your help on this issue! Ever since I have moved to this apartment complex, I have felt unwanted. I can understand people that don't always want to talk to me and all. I don't really talk to others if I don't know them myself that well either. It is just that when I am coming to walk towards and to my apartment building that I live in, I get some hard stares that are thwarted towards me. It will be many guys that will be standing around and they watch me very hard. They will not say anything nor will they speak. If we are coming towards the door, they will be standing in front of it. They will open up the door, at least one of them will. The others guys that are standing around them will not say anything at all. I will tell the person that has hold the door for me, "Thank You." But this person will never say anything back to me. They have the same attitude as the guy that lives downstairs does. What is with these guys? They make me feel so uncomfortable when they would do this. We have been living here for 11 months. Honestly, by now, these guys would act a little more friendlier than they do. I feel like I am an minority that does not belong. I don't look like an alien, so why do people treat me like I am one. I am very kind to anyone that lives out here. Although, I don't deal with my downstairs neighbor as often, I still try to be sweet to others that live out here. But for some reason they are not feeling my kindness. I don't bother them. These guys are outside everyday talking, smoking and drinking. I never come and bother them, so why do they have the sour attitude towards me. I sometimes wonder if the guy downstairs has fed them nasty words about me. He does hang outside with many guys outside every now and then. They will stare at me and my family and never say anything at all. This has been going on for eleven months! Something is just not right about this!
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8 responses
@apoyhakim89 (20)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
There are two ways you can do :
1. Let your life flow as you want. You know the pharse "mind your own business". Whatever they did, or will do isn't affect to your life. If they hurt you, call cops. Don't make conversation or try to. Be arrogant. Don't make eye contact. don't you know if the great figure was born like this environment. They break the habits, to be great figure.
2. Try to acquainted with one of them and be nice with him. This way is a good way to make relationship. Choose one of them that you feel 'look nice', and be friend with him. Try right now, don't delay it. Now or not all or back to no. 1. Start from say 'morning' or 'hi' or 'where I can get delicious breakfast?'. First time you looked stupid but in the next time, you will accustomed. Always smiling if you meet them, if you looked stupid, they will know you as nice person.
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 10
That sounds like a very uncomfortable situation to be in! I don't think I would trust them as it sounds as though they are very untrustworthy! I wouldn't go so far as to say that they are shy or anything like that, they seem pretty hostile to me. I don't like the fact that they are constantly standing in front of your main door, crowding your space as it were.
I don't speak to everyone in my apartment complex either! Sometimes we pass eachother and say say a hello or a hi and that's it. I'm sure you will be fine! I would just say, avoid them if you can. If you feel uncomfortable inside when they are staring at you then something is not right there. It may be nothing and maybe it's just the way they are. Anyway, I wish you well. Andrew
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
29 Sep 10
omg yes! the staring people! i have worked with people like that and the only thing i can think of is they are shy or hate me! quiet people make me uncomfortable! im very outgoing and especially at my work when i worked night shift for 12 hours talking is one way to make the night go by.. i would try to talk to a starer and get nothing but silence or maybe 1 word! it made me so uncomfortable i would talk more and get the same thing!! drove me crazy!! then there are the times where you wonder if you grew a second head or something because they stare at you for no reason.. i think some people dont realize they do it but omg what is wrong with them!!!!????
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@greenace (123)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi cream...don't despair. I don't think it has to do anything with you. I suggest you just go about your business and don't mind them at all. if they do anything nice, like if they'd want to open doors for you, fine. thank them. just do what you would normally do. it's a free world and you can do anything you'd like to do as long as you do not infringe on the rights of others. smile. enjoy a great day!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Sep 10
It can be both disrturbing and annoying when people stare at you and don't speak to you. when this happens to me, i wonder if i have done something to offend them. It can leave you with an uneasy feeling.
@TonyPluto (171)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Probably not anything you can do about it.
Sounds like they make you more self conscious than anything.
No wonder too.
If I had to walk past a group of guys standing in the doorway
every time I came and left my apartment
I might feel pretty uncomfortable.
The fact is though
Some guys have no interest in women
other than the ones they want to hit on.
So if you're obviously "taken"
or unattractive to them
then don't expect too much.
To make a friend
Be a friend.
This saying can work wonders.
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@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 10
Eww..that's kind of a scary situation to me, I wouldn't be happy to live with this neighbourhood. Even if you said thank you, they are not even bothered to say welcome? then why the hell do they bother to open the door for you? It's really hard to guess what's on their mind! Maybe next time you're passing by, just pretend like you're talking on the phone.
@empire9186 (95)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
You just need to smile or greet them good morning or anything. What your response to them is also their response to you. You should be friendly to them because they are your neighbors and the one you can trust to observe your place when you are not at home.
