Nothing is important than a family

I would never leave my child with anybody to go to another country with another guy. If a man really loves me he must accept, love and respect my child before he accept, love and respect me. If she really cares for her daughter's future she should not go anywhere without her. And is obvious that if he doesn't want her to bring her now he won't want her to bring her in 2, 3, 4 years. Besides how can she give her a good future without her in the girl's life???

We have to understand your friend's situation here.. but i would think she may think that there could be no other opportunity like this one presented to her. But she must not take the "bait" of leaving her daughter here and she going abroad with the boyfriend.. are they even that close, does she really know her bf that well? If i am in this situation, i would agree with you, and not leave my daughter for a man who can't even accept me for me, the whole package including my daughter!

She should not just agree to leave the country and her daughter behind because her bf wants her to. She needs to stay with her daughter and he needs to accept that her daughter is apart of her life. I would find someone else If I were her because he doesn't love her if he can't accept her AND her daughter.

I will not leave my child for any reason. Because no one can replace my son. The man, not really love. If love he will receive all, should the daughter of his girlfriend should also be accepted.

Well for me if the guy loves me then he should accept and love my daughter too. But if he only accepts me and not my daughter then he's not the right guy for me. You're definitely right she should find another guy that will accept not just her but also her daughter. I don't think I can leave my daughter just like that for a person that doesn't accept my daughter.

She is great and the same as my idea. my hometown is at a small village far from the city, I never would like to go to the city and find a job working in a strange place, but because I have a family I should let them happy and thy are looking at me want me make some different for the future, so I must get out the family and do my best in the city, if there just myself I will never do this, I think I already make my family as my duty, its biger than myself also my family give me power and propulsion to hard work to make a better future.

I feel very sad to hear this. I am so sorry for this little poor girl. If your friends' boyfriend accepts her, then he should accept her daughter, too. It is very suffering for a mother to leave her child. If he loves her, then he should marry her and regard her child as his own child. If not, it is better to find another man because marring to such kind of selfish man won't be happy. I agree with your views and I hope your friend will make a wise decision at last. If she thinks about her daughter's future, then she should keep her. Nobody can be better than a mom. I love China

Yes if this guy never accept my daughter well i never go with him anywhere in this world because this means that he don't love me real. If he really love this woman he need to accept everything in her and no reservation. The true love is blind as like what the old folks saying last decades ago. If not well better to find another good lovable man under the sun. Have a nice day friend..

yes you are very much right, one's family should be more important especially in this period when few if not no one care about your welfare, you family will be the last resort , and this is why when you are happy or sad, you should confide in any of your family members

Family is an important relationship in our lives. it is the foundation to build our lives and futures on. We can gain a lot of strength and focus for our lives from our families. there is love and support from a family as well.

Your daughter is more important, you can count on your family to except you no matter what. I think your boyfriend is just too selfish.

If i were in your friends situation id rather think of my child first. Her future was first on my list, having had the practical thinking is not a bad idea but it is greater if she will choose to be with someone who will love her child as she do. that i think is the very important thing to consider.

hmm yeah in my opinion altough it's for the children future but it's too important to not leave your daughter ,and boy/girlfriend sometimes can lied to you ,they can trapped you into some case or anything so just find another couple for your life that accept you what you are,

same case to someone i know!!did you ask your friend if it is really for her daughter's future not for her own interest?!for me leaving her daughter to her parent is not good.its not her parents responsibility to taking care of her child.and that guy if he really loves her he must accept his girlfriends daughter.i know some who is jealous and envy to other woman who already residing in states and married with white guy.so this person i knw,she tried her best to get an old guy looks like her sugar daddy,now she ask to come on her boyfrien's country and live there,since that her boyfriend like it.he said yes but no kid.he dont want her to bring her daughter with her and live with him!for me its not right,they are both wrong!!i absolutely agree with you,if i am her i should find another guy who is willing to love and accept me and my past.i wont risk my life and my daughter's future for that kind of guy..

I hate that guy but I can't blame him. Perhaps, he can't accept the fact. Well, the mother should really take care of her child. She should never be far from the child. But whatever she decides.. it's her life. And let's respect that.

yes... you are absolutely correct....... am also thinking like that... but before i was not like that... i had love with one girl..... at that time i thought that she is everything..... but soon i realize that .. girl is nothing in our life... our all is our family.......

.for me I should find another guy that can accept my family.And even that i love her.because i think my family is important than her.

Oh my, she really leave her daughter behind. She should leave his boyfriend instead, if that is the case. Leaving your daughter just for your boyfriend is a non sense person.

If her bf loves her he will accept her daughter. Her daughter needs her more than anyone else time will come she will realize that her decision in leaving her daughter over her bf because of her daughters future is not a good reason as you say nothing is important than a family. Family will always be there no matter what happened to you.

hi careguarden... I'm on your side. i also agree that your friend should find another man to spend her whole life. She should find someone who can accepts her and her daughter. I do believe that if man really loves you, everything about your life, even your past, he can accept it. Better talk to your friend, I know you don't want her to be in a man like his bf.