Are you still friends with your exes?
By johnmike7
@johnmike7 (136)
Philippines
September 28, 2010 8:54pm CST
Most friends I have known for years are no longer friends with their exes. I think it is just okay to communicate with them but not too often (most especially if you are already committed). I am still in touch with my exes because we never parted as enemies. No more strings attached, I just accepted things the way it went and I am just happy to hear from her again.
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8 responses
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
i am still friends with my ex. though it was hard at first to be friends with him after the breakup,i can now find myself comfortable with him around.it's just that depends on how you two both end up with your relationships together.
it doesn't mean that when you don't understand each other and decided to break up you'll never be friends again. it is all up to you and your own emotions.
for me,sometimes i don't want to see him anymore cause i know he still have feelings for me,when i don't have feelings anymore for him and i don't like to give him false hopes and bring sadness to him.he deserved to be loved and treated special,thing that all of us should be treated and loved as individual.
@johnmike7 (136)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Thanks annavi23! I like your response but I feel for your ex. Maybe it is just proper not to see him anymore and give him false hopes, since in the end both of you will get hurt. Thanks for being honest to yourself. Moving on seems to be one of the hardest thing to do after break up.
But the more you see each other, the more chances of misinterpreting that you still have feelings for him (even if you already told him that you do not have anymore feelings for him).
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
yes,it's much better to not have communication to him as well.
for now,that was what we are going through.it has been long months since we stopped communicating and seeing each other. though sometimes there are friends who want to reunite with us. we can't avoid to see and communicate again.
actually,that was my problem nowadays,one of our friends is getting married and we are all invited.they even made me one of the brides maids. i don't like to attend.
i just wanted to stop anything between me and my ex. if that would mean breaking communications with other friends also, i'll do it. since we are not that close anyway.what's the reason to be there and communicate again?
am i bad,for this thinking?
i'll gladly appreciate if you comment again.thanks!
i'll gladly appreciate if you comment again.thanks!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Getting dump is as hurtful as hitting yourself in the fingers with a hammer. But the aftereffects are really just in your head. I've been dump a couple of times already. I'm not really a tom cruise. Lol. But I've learned that once you get over that phase, everything flows smoothly with an ex as a friend. :)
@johnmike7 (136)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Hey frontvisions101! A tom cruise "look-alike" (joke)and have been dumped? Haha! That girl must have been blind! Kidding aside, Getting over is really hard to do, it just happens.:) Who knows, you will still end up with your ex if things go well. Goodluck!
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Theres only certain ones like the ones I dated for a week or two and we decided that we were better off as friends. But we barely even talk anymore maybe once a month or so. WHat bothers me is my b/f talks to his ex on an almost regular basis. We are commited but still that bothers me.
@rodelbulan (594)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I have to say that I have a lot of exes... some of 1 of them is my friend now... the rest are just a piece of trash... (Sorry.. I'm bitter)..
@johnmike7 (136)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Really! I think it is not just about being bitter, you just opted not to deal with them anymore.;)
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Yup I do. I don't part ways with them as enemies, like you said. Some already drifted away, meaning we don't have communication anymore. I guess we just lost touch.
I think it's great to be friends with exes. After all, we were friends before the relationship. :)
@johnmike7 (136)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Hi knicnax! It is sad when you do not hear from them anymore since you have also been once part of their lives. We wanted the best for them because we simply care.;)
@billmill2216 (23)
• United States
29 Sep 10
I do still talk to mine now and then, but never really like do anything with them or talk alot. Mostly i dont really talk with any of them unless they contact me, and i think its that way with alot of my friends too.
@johnmike7 (136)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Hi billmill! Nice to hear that you still communicate with your exes. At least you are just there when they contact you.:)
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 10
I never took my ex as an enemy but since we broke up, we live really far away from each other, then it's been many years we haven't seen each other or talked to each other. We both moved on and found someone else. It is hard to stay in contact because we don't have that urge to be anymore. But this doesn't mean that we're an enemies. We just completely went different ways where it is hard for us to find each other again.
@jfenteaB (4)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
My exes are very friendly, they still contact me when they are not busy or they need somebody to talk to. They are open to me, they even share their secrets to me. That's how close we are. But there is still a limitation between me and my exes especially now that I am in a relationship.
