Woman apologise more than men.
By webearn99
@webearn99 (1742)
India
September 29, 2010 1:23am CST
There is this article in Times of India, page 16, Kolkata edition. My first reaction was "Yeah! Right!". I then realized I was being the skeptic I normally am. I would like to know why?
Is it because they make more mistakes?
Or,
Is it because they acknowledge their mistakes more often than men?
Or,
Would it be because the have the wisdom to loose a battle, but win the war?
Or,
Is it just to wiggle out of a situation?
8 responses
@ankster (273)
• India
29 Sep 10
Women are willig to surrender first because they dont want to make issue of anything.They are tender by heart and they dont mind in saying sorry first.I also believe that if women knows that they are wrong or if they have caused hurt to thier hubby there is no wrong in saying sorry.Infact the relationship which can become strong by aplogising and devoting yourself to someone there is no harm in saying sorry first but yes men often tend to mistake simplicity of women as their weakness which should not at all be acceptable.women also has self respect and men should leave their egos behind if they know that they are wrong..so relationship will automatically be smooth and strong
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
29 Sep 10
Apologize so as not to make an issue. That would not be acceptable to me as a man. Particularly if it involved something I value dearly. What confuses me is that why women have to take such a stance. Apologizing when there is no fault will send wrong signals. Nobody is a doormat. Taking a step back is O. K. not surrender.
@ankster (273)
• India
29 Sep 10
I guess you are not from India.In India a women has to keep lots of tolerance and compromises.Yes no one is doormat but if a person really feels that he has hurt someone by his ill words there is no harm in saying sorry.no one is perfect and if we commit any mistake we must not let our egos come in between.If there is a scope of improvement person must always open his vision.Iam not saying to always apologise and surrender but yes if it comes to make relationship strong you have to keep aside your ego else no one is harmed you yourself will be in pain..I know you have a good feeling for women but yes on the other hand she has to keep the family bond strong and in a united way so sometimes she has to step back..I appreciate your views on women..
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
29 Sep 10
I am from India. What I want to say is that woman need not apologize in keeping with the role history has imposed on them. That would be taking advantage of Indian society's hang over from past and pushing women down further. We do need to do something to make them equal to men. If as a man I take a hit on my ego, so be it.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Oct 10
Maybe it's because we don't have a problem admitting we're not perfect? :D
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
2 Oct 10
Apparently, It is. But then, there are situations when women can be stubborn and not admit to wrong doing.
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@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Sep 10
Men and women feel differently about things. Men have bigger egos, women want to be liked. They certainly don't do more things wrong! Loose a battle and win the war sounds more like it. Hahaha I think most women are used to being the ones who tend to say they're sorry and want to have peace.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
30 Sep 10
I always knew woman were tricky! The upside is that, those that can be tricky do use their brains.
@greenace (123)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Hi webearn99...I must agree, to some extent, that, in general, women do apologize more(I guess, an adjective should be added to this to make it more descriptive of what usually happens "more promptly")than men. The last three reasons for this, as you've identified, might be the cause for such usual reaction; for the first reason, however, I would have to disagree. On the contrary, I believe men make more mistakes than women (I'm speaking for myself now). It's just that sometimes, I think men are prone to believe that they have just made an "honest mistake" or are just responding to a particular situation or stimulus as "normally" (meaning is relevant on the male population's reading of a particular situation) as how a man would do hence what could be interpreted by the opposite gender as "inappropriate" is seen as "appropriate" (again, I enclosed the words in apostrophes since meaning varies to a relative reader). People and perspectives change over time though. I believe women nowadays are stronger and smarter and they would not just say sorry for everything even if the opposite gender should take responsibility for any unnecessary dissension.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
29 Sep 10
Were women not the junior partners till recent times. Could this habit be a tacit acknowledgment of their status?
Since they were more "delicate" in their perceptions and quick to apologize when offense crossed decency of female standards? Men on the other hand have thicker skin and particularly in the heat of the moment do not realize the extent of damage an argument has done.
Real liberation for women will be evident when they shed these shackles of tradition and be equal. That of course does not mean the become as insensitive as men but make men aware of their sensibilities.
@pemulabanget (142)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
Not always be like that, some men more emotionaly but he may apologise more than women.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
29 Sep 10
Emotion is a weakness if it is relied on too much. In fact I think that insecurity is sometimes taken as emotion. I get your point.
@okiks0207 (53)
•
29 Sep 10
Hi,
Maybe not all,there is some woman who are not affected and not even apologized.But one my side,it must be,you need to apologized if you figure out that you are wrong.Only immature people cannot accept their mistakes.
But also there are times that woman do that for a reason to save a day in a bad relationship quarrel,maybe patching up somethings.Happy mylotting.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
30 Sep 10
All it requires is a broad mind and a large heart I think. Welcome to myLot!
@rorisricha (732)
• India
29 Sep 10
Hi, I hope that not all women do that apologizing so easily when there is nothing wrong from their side...If one accepted even though right accepting it as wrong it may lead to many ways in each and every situation when an argument comes.....thank you.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
29 Sep 10
I also hope so too! I am a male but it would not be acceptable for me to see any person apologize for nothing. It is not done!
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
It depends, in our country(Philippines), men make more mistakes, that's why they apologize more than we, men. But on the other hand, men also apologize more because they want to be forgiven whatever they did.
