Respect for your mother-in-law
By LaLa Leo
@mrscallands22 (2851)
United States
September 29, 2010 1:59am CST
Even though I posted this discussion under "Wife"... men are welcome to comment as well at your own discretion.
I have struggled with this for quite some time now... but I realized that there is no running away from the fact that I can't stand my mother-in-law. I respect her to a certain extent... when she respects me. But, I have never really been fond of her even before my husband and I became married. When we were just friends, she liked me and was nice to me. After my husband and I started dating, I noticed the immediate change. I have caught her talking about me behind my back to people on the phone. I catch evil looks from her on a regular basis. I have been disrespected by her and here recently was in a VERY bad argument with her that left me not wanting any dealings with her. PERIOD. I do wish that I had a mother-in-law that I actually liked and got along with... but I now see that that will never happen with her and I've grown to accept it. My husband's mother... is the first of any guy's mom that I have been... to NOT like me. All the other moms adored me... so this experience has been quite different and definitely trying.
Do you have respect for your mother-in-law?? Whether it be your wife or your husband's mother?? Do you both get along?? Or is it just a front to keep the peace with your husband and his family??
3 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
29 Sep 10
I cannot stand my mother-in-law and I do not respect her. She's a dreadful person and I want nothing to do with her, or any of his family for that matter. I have not seen or spoken to any of my in-laws in over 4 years and I fully intend to keep it that way. They're terrible toxic people and I refuse to have that in my life.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Lol your thoughts sound similar to mine. I feel that my mother-in-law is dreadful, too and if I didn't have to see her/speak to her/or interact with her for the rest of my life, that would still be too soon!! That's exactly how I feel. And, I hope to enact exactly what you are doing someday very soon.
Thanks for sharing your views!!
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
29 Sep 10
She started showing her true colours right around the time we got engaged and I told him right then and there that he could do whatever he wanted with them, but I wanted nothing to do with them ever again. I gave him the choice, if he couldn't handle that, then he could find someone who would get along better with his family, but I absolutely refused. Their behaviour up until then, and even now since then, has been completely unforgivable and completely intolerable.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
29 Sep 10
I can definitely understand where you're coming from. Your husband did love you enough to work things out so that it worked for everyone and that is a true blessing.
@rastogisw (445)
• India
5 Oct 10
I respect for my mother-in-law and I do care for her but when we live together means with in-laws then it becomes difficult to be happy with them ...as they always in a mood to rectifying the things or always interrupt in work ...that I really dont like but when we live far apart and meet on week ends then it is nice .
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
5 Oct 10
I can understand that. In that type of situation and in certain instances, distance does make things better!!
Thanks for commenting!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Oct 10
I have a lot of respect for my mother-in-law. First off, I have respect for her because of the fact that she is my husband's mother. If it wasn't for her, then my husband would not be the man that he is today. In addition to that, I also have respect for her because she hasn't really had an easy life. I don't think that there will ever be a time that I will be able to say that I love her, but I will always be able to say that I respect her.
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Respect is a strong issue in ANY relationship. I think you are blessed to have that mutual respect between you and your mother-in-law.
Thanks for sharing!!
