can i love a married man who is my boss? should i tell him my feeling?

You are just being a foolish girl. Do not encourage this man (if he needs encouragement). Why would you want to destroy a marriage? Pull yourself together and look for someone from your own station.

Married Men, Then NO dont do that. Does he have interest in you? then he just want to get into your pants. Its the bitter truth, Please dont do anything stupid ok just let this one be. Put your sef in the wifey position woud you want another girl to fall in love with your husband?

If I were you, I should stop thinking about him. We both knew that it will led to nothing but heartache and frustration. It will be a help if you will stay away from him if he's around. And knew that you're the only one who could help yourself from being not in love with that married man. And being with that man would you be prepared to be his mistress if ever he will show you his affection?

Hello my friend. How are you today? Anyway to tell you frankly my friend I think you should and "must" not tell him your feelings. Why? You already know the answer to that question my friend. He's a "married" man. As what you said he have a perfect family, capable wife and has 2 kids already. It's not good if you continue what you're feeling on him. And it's not good to be a Home Wrecker. Imagine my friend, you would ruin "4 lives" if you continue your feeling on him. You said that he's in Europe and you're in Asia and you said that maybe years will come by before you see each other again. So I think you should use that huge amount of time to look for someone else who's free. Try to unwind yourself. Go on vacation and think thousand times my friend about your feeling for him. Think thousand times if it's really a love or just an admiration. I'm saying this my friend "Based" on my Experience. A lot of people will and might hate you. And that's not right. Think of it my friend. I hope you'll not take this negatively. This is just my opinion. It's up to you. Anyway that's all for now. Give me an update later and I'll stay in touch. Thanks. Hope you're having a good day.

Two mistakes in one sentence. Never get involved with a married man. If the relationship were to progress, it is guranteed that the next pretty thing that comes along will catch his eye just like you did. once a cheater always a cheater. If he is willing to cheat with you, he will cheat on you. Also, don't get involved with someone you work with, especially someone who is above you on the food chain. That just makes everything awkward. With him being a continent away, chalk it up to an infatuation, and not true love. Look for someone else.

No matter how much you like your boss is not important, the thing is he is married! I can understand that it is easy to fall for a person who is very nice to you, I also do and I guess most girls do too. But just keep in mind that he has his family and you wouldn't want to be the "number two" or the other woman, he cannot marry you unless he divorced his wife. Just try to focus your attention on single men, I'm sure there are many around you. :)

oh no. you are a single intelligent woman. do not let your life be ruined like this.. and do not ever tell him how you are feeling. these are only admirations.. just use this as an inspiration but find your own man.

First and foremost my friend, you have to control your feelings for your boss. Second, find ways to deviate your feelings for him. You may perhaps just admiring your boss for the qualities he has and not because you love him. I think if that is love you are feeling for him, there is no reason at all why you love him. Love cannot be explained. Love has no reason when it strikes. Anyways, if that is love, control it as early as possible because he is already married. When you almost fell in the bus, he might perhaps just being nice. Do not give malice to his actions.

Lora, have you ever thought that his wife is a human, women, a girl, a mother of his children, and have feelings like you do too? And yes, she loves him more than you do, that is why she is a wife and mother of his children. Your feeling is just an illusion, that is why you only think of your own feeling and never thought of how much his family, wife, and children don't wanna lose him. Do not be selfish just because you fell for a married man. The wife and his children deserve his attention more than you. so don't even think of trying to tell him your feeling and see what he will do! that is just pure pure pure childish and immature. don't end up breaking up another woman's heart and also the children. Put yourself in his wife's shoe. what if another single girl do that to your husband??? would you laugh?? for christ sake, keep the feeling to yourself, and leave them alone! He have kids, so be a little bit more responsible.

It's normal for us to adore or admire a person. Maybe you are just admiring him and that's not love yet. Try to focus your mind in something else where you will forget him. If you see him again don't show him that you have feelings for him because you might destroy a family and if that happens the kids are the one who will suffer. I hope you find another man who is single.

In my own opinion its not wrong to love a person even if he/she is married but you just keep it as a secret of your own to avoid troubles.Love will come on you at the right time,all you have to do is wait.

Some time I wonder why chinese girl fall in love foreigner so easily. maybe you have gave me answer. inrecent years,it was quite common to see that many foreign men married Chinese girls. Usually, the wedding ceremony was celebrated in a Chinese style. However, it is quite rare to see that Chinese men married foreign ladies. I wonder why there is such a strange phenomenon. Are Chinese girls more appealing than Chinese men to foreigners? I feel you already give me the real answer, chinese boys should make some effort.

As I look into that situation, You're just admiring your boss maybe he has this good qualities you're looking for in a guy. The big tendency is to love him. But please take it easy....Its not really love your feeling that's only attraction. I advise you not to fall inlove in a married man. Make yourself busy, go out with friends or entertain suitors and come date with him. Girl, think twice...even thrice.. before committing yourself in a married man.

The fact that you are hesitant about your decision to fall for him deeper, only shows that what you are about to do is wrong. Now that you know it's obviously wrong, would you still have the guts to go with it? It doesn't matter that he's your boss. But the man's got a family. You will not only ruin your own life, but he's family will also be affected.

It sounds as though you are in need of someone to Love in your life..Unfortunately,this Man sounds like the absolutely wrong Person to get involved with on many levels..He's Married with a wife and Family of his own,and He's in an executive position over You at work.I don't think an entanglement here would be good either for you or Your position at work.I hope You find someone else that'll appreciate You.

If I were you, I would not love this man although he is handsome, charming, polite, humorous etc. That is simple because he is married. He doesn't belong to me. He has a wife and children. This should be a happy family and people can't be so selfish to spoil others' happy life. One day you will find your own right man. Just don't waste your time for the people who are right for you. Good luck! I love China

First of all you only have a 1 by your name I think this might be your first discussion that you've started. Welcome to mylot! Now onto your discussion topic. I think that you are just being silly. You cant truly love someone if you barely know them. The fact that he is married means stay away from him! If you were his wife you wouldnt want someone trying to steal your man. Not only that you are just going to embarrass yourself when he doesnt feel the same way.

You can look for other single man, one who could give you a happy family and bright future. You can love a married man but be ready for the consequences. Why dot do the right thing instead.

Honey, forget it. Even if you have a story, you will always besecond choice to his wife. Do something, get your act together, and try to forget him.

i believe that you are just admiring your boss:D stay happy dont make life complicated :D smile:D