Ex's as Roommates, Is it Okay?
By kokopelli
@kokopelli (4842)
United States
16 responses
@ReinBow8334 (13)
• Australia
21 Nov 06
Fortunately I've never been in such a situation myself although there was this one time year's ago I was sharing a house with a couple and some girl used to turn up and try to hit on the other guy-his girlfriend of course became ropeable. And I didn't blame her This girl never tried to hit on me though ( yeah I'm a bloke),Just as well since I never liked the friction she was causing between the couple who were both very
good friend's she finally went her way thank goodness and peace was restored.
To me an ex is an ex-forget it and move on...
Although I try every mean's of reconciliation before someone becomes an "ex". But only once it's very clear the relationship will never work in spite of all attempt's to work thing's out.Only when there are thing's that just make continuing the relationship absolutely impossible do I call it qut's on the relationship.Once done with though and we tried our very best, but that would never have been good enough.Then-Sorry -time to move on and stay moved on.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 Nov 07
Well, personally I could never date anyone who is living with their Ex boyfriend or girlfriend, as it would be too much of a temptation for them to be cheating on you, and I would not be comfortable with it. Some yrs. back, I was put in this situation with someone I was dating, and they did end up sleeping together, so I did feel Cheated, and even lost friends in the process.
Personally, I am Glad I am Married now so I will never have to deal with this situation though.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
3 Dec 07
that's what i thought. it's indeed an awkward situation and very open to temptation.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Dec 07
I lived with my ex-boyfriend for four years and there were positives and negatives as in any situations. He pretty much still helped take care of me. But it was awkward and hurtful when one of us bought a new interest to the house.
I don't believe that a break-up can be clearly established if you are still living with the person.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
3 Dec 07
you're right. when the relationship is over, it's best to move on.
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 07
it would definitely bother me! coz they had something in the past and i don't think the idea of my boyfriend's ex being his roommate is a good idea at all. i wouldn't like that, it's way too uncomfortable. .
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@michecu (637)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Perhaps on circumstances like they remained good friends and they share the house with other friends, then probably, I can tolerate it. I'm not the jealous type and I pretty much allow my boyfriend to do things he wants to do because I trust him and I have faith in his conviction. I would consider his reasons for living with his ex and perhaps, in this case, I would also establish friendship with the ex and visit as much as I can.
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
2 Aug 08
It would probably be a reunion, and that would instead please me-those who have broken should get back together!
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
18 Nov 06
As much as i trust my bf, i dont like the idea that they are roommate....nope! definitely out of the question! i gets jealous easily...unless i can move in too..Arr..then it's a different story :0)
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@inkedmama1111 (824)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I think it'd be really strange. But sometimes it might have to happen (like if they were both on the lease and couldn't break it, or if one of them didn't have anywhere else to go at all.)
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 Nov 06
that's what my ex-bf said, and that they remained good friends anyhow.
@Beautiful_Nightmare (1337)
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18 Nov 06
It depends on their relationship. An ex of mine lived with his ex and his best friend but his best friend caused trouble between me and him so I'm always wary but then again my best friend goes out with an ex of mine (who's still a friend of mine) and it doesn't bother me in the slightest :)
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
18 Nov 06
There is no way on earth I would tolerate that "song n dance" in this lifetime or any other. I'd be moving in too. Sounds like someone is treating their significant other like an idiot. "Sure honey, be mine but live with your ex. I trust you." Noway nohow. If you are in that situation, watch that ex like a hawk. Your bf/gf might be trustworthy, but watch that ex.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
18 Nov 06
i've been in that situation before and like you, i didn't consent to it. i had my bf move out a.s.a.p, hehe. it's just that some people saw my demand as 'unreasonable' and that i was too 'jealous'. well, i know i'm not, and you guys confirm it :)
