today i stood up and talked to somebody about what she said
By genevy04
@genevy04 (793)
Philippines
September 30, 2010 4:24am CST
Today, I have decided to talk to someone about things she said to another person..
Well, it's a complicated thing to tell in detail but I will do my best..
There was an issue of a lost cellphone last Monday inside the school our kids go to.. There were five persons there, but I am not included. Though I was totally concerned about what this woman 1 telling stories about the other person (woman 2), which makes us get the impression that she was actually trying to mean that the woman 2 was the one who stole the missing cellphone..
Woman 1 and I got to talk in a party we both attended together with our kids, and yes I can say she is trying to tell me that woman 2 did it. But I wasn't convinced. She told me stories..
So, yesterday, I told woman 2 that she should have surrendered her bag that time when the owner was searching for her phone,so that she would have avoided the doubts they may have on her. And I was surprised when she said she did because it wasn't what woman 1 told me. Woman 1 actually told me that woman 2 did not do that.
So I told woman 2 about what I have learned from the other side.. To her anger, she came to woman 1's house and confronted her..
Then woman 2 told us what woman 1 told her also.. She said that woman 1 advised her not to talk to us anymore because we only want her to have more enemies. And that the story laid to her was not true..
So I was irritated, and I came up and talked to her today. I told her that she shouldn't speak things as if I was the one telling lies. I didn't have the intention of creating an issue here..
What I did was, suggest to woman 2 and then I was surprised that their statements did not match..
I really didn't like what woman 1 told woman 2 about us..
I told her, I am not definitely a LIAR, and I wouldn't waste my time creating enemies for her. I told her she shouldn't have spoken those words because it's not right. If she tells something about a person, she should always have the responsibility to admit it..
So she said sorry.. And I accept it.. I have no plans of getting into complications..
Do you think I did right??
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8 responses
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Wow! what a story... Quite long but I continue to read it anyway. It also happened to me once. Like you, I also confronted the "woman 2", just to clear my name and straighten the real issue. But mine got complicated because now "woman 1" denied the issue. So no one know which one is telling the truth. Now me, "woman 1" and "woman 2" don't talk to each other anymore. bummer!
Lesson learned: I should have not bothered the issue from the start.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
i love that! i'll be waiting for that story then...
but you seem like you're always busy nowadays i can't even contact you.
i was trying to call you but seems like you are toooooooooooo busy,can't even say hi to your old acquaintance,who is now new friend...
i hope we could have time together and talk on some issues in life,dear...
i hope we could have time together and talk on some issues in life,dear...@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Hi there sexyposh..
My intention in talking to woman 1 isn't really about me clearing up my name.. It's just that I didn't like the things she said about me and so I decided to talk to her and tell her honestly that I didn't like her statement in the first place..
Good thing about what happened, is that just today we still talk to each other and I don't regret anything about me approaching her for a talk..
thanks for responding..
@annavi--- yep, I did it for the betterment of our relationship because I also consider her a friend in a way.. Even if she has this what we call "sharp tongue"
and oh by the way, I want to tell you the continuation of the story dear.. when we had the time..
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
wow,dear,you made me feel shocked! like this...
by the title itself i am amazed you have done such a thing...
well,knowing you personally,i can say you really changed into a courageous woman,huh...really admired that attitude!
well,it is a good thing to do some things in life that will be for the betterment of many,as well.and stand up for what you believe in.
are you sure that woman 1 really are sorry for what she did?
or you just thought she is... anyways,i don't trust such kind of people who really are good at making stories,dear.
i once had a friend who i considered bestfriend back in high school,though we just had been classmates in the first year,i know she is a good person.but then when we reached second year,we are not classmates anymore.and i just got surprised she had been kicked out because she did something not nice to the campus. anyways,she finished high school in their province back then and after how many years,she came back and i still welcome her as my friend.and then she said she had changed for the better,but then so many things have happened and i realized she was really good at making stories,and i was stupid to believe those stories she had. i had given her so many chances to change for the better.but then,she never did. and i gave up on her. i don't like to live with her anymore.i don't like people like her anymore. it's now up to her to live her own life and hope she would change for the better,not telling lies to anyone...for now,i am happy i haven't seen her for long,and i hope we'll never cross paths ever...just to avoid being attached again...
by the title itself i am amazed you have done such a thing...
well,knowing you personally,i can say you really changed into a courageous woman,huh...really admired that attitude!
well,it is a good thing to do some things in life that will be for the betterment of many,as well.and stand up for what you believe in.
are you sure that woman 1 really are sorry for what she did?
or you just thought she is... anyways,i don't trust such kind of people who really are good at making stories,dear.
i once had a friend who i considered bestfriend back in high school,though we just had been classmates in the first year,i know she is a good person.but then when we reached second year,we are not classmates anymore.and i just got surprised she had been kicked out because she did something not nice to the campus. anyways,she finished high school in their province back then and after how many years,she came back and i still welcome her as my friend.and then she said she had changed for the better,but then so many things have happened and i realized she was really good at making stories,and i was stupid to believe those stories she had. i had given her so many chances to change for the better.but then,she never did. and i gave up on her. i don't like to live with her anymore.i don't like people like her anymore. it's now up to her to live her own life and hope she would change for the better,not telling lies to anyone...for now,i am happy i haven't seen her for long,and i hope we'll never cross paths ever...just to avoid being attached again...@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
yes,i do agree.many things has changed with your life,i can see it and i am happy you are doing well,though i know you're still human. you can sometimes be hurt for such things that happened to you but there are all challenges to make you strong person not like before.
okay,whatever woman 1 is planning to or whatever it is that is in her mind,i hope she knew what is the right thing to do,and let's just pray for them instead for peace of minds.
i think if they are used to making up stories,it will be easier for them to do such. it can be their habit that is hard to get rid of. and i really don't like such people cause they are living in lies.and who needs a liar anyway? i just hope they'll find happiness in their lives,of course with learning to avoid lies...
you may be right,dear. different people have different reasons why they make up stories. there are times they really have totell lies even if they don't want to.but for sure those lies can always be continued and things will seem to be worse than they'll never knew. so,it's better to live with peace in your heart,not full of lies or pretentions.
have a good sleep,my dear!
you may be right,dear. different people have different reasons why they make up stories. there are times they really have totell lies even if they don't want to.but for sure those lies can always be continued and things will seem to be worse than they'll never knew. so,it's better to live with peace in your heart,not full of lies or pretentions.
have a good sleep,my dear!@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Hi dear.. thanks for the response.. Yep, I guess I am more of a frank person now compared to when I was still young.. I guess that if you have lived in a world where you strive to fit in.. or struggle through hardships then you would find yourself being changed by the events in your life.. I guess that's what happened to me..
I don't know if she really is sorry about what she said to woman 2.. YOu know what, I have another story to tell you when we get to talk.. But I don't care if she isn't sincere about her apology, because as far as I'm concerned, I don't care since I have told her already what I feel. And I know people who knew what happened believe me more than her..
You know it's really hard to have 'friends' who are very good in making up stories.. That's why I suggest we really have to be analytic about a person.. I don't know where they get all the ideas of the stories they make up.. I find it hard to imagine because I personally think that's hard to do..
Well I guess each person is different in their own ways, and I strongly believe that making up stories, have something to do with their insecurities.. They do this to cover it up..You think so??
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@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Sometimes, the more you wanted to help and reach out, the more it gets complicated. The story that passes from one person to another really creates conflicts. Anyway, what you did was right, confronting her as soon as you learned what the other had told you. But the best thing you should do is to talk to them both at the same time since you got involve with them, to know exactly who said who. As a piece of advice, beware of those individuals who seem to have the ability of betrayal.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Hi kristeena..
Yes, indeed it got complicated, but everything was okay that day right away.. A little talk has been useful.. Things was made clear to both parties.I believe that if there are things which are misunderstood, it should be discussed. And since I got involved because the information came from me, even if I didn't even intent it, I came up and had the talk with her.. It turned out good anyway so I guess I could say everything is fine.
And thanks for your advice. Yup, I'd better beware now..I know they might do me harm in the future..
Thanks for responding kristeena..
@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
i think you did the right thing. but sometimes, you just have to assess first the situation to not to complicate it. It can cause you enemies and all that stuff. ;)
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
yes sometimes one has to analyze things first.. I am just glad I don't have enemies.. And I don't think I could have one..
I know I shouldn't have told that their statements did not match, but as far as I am concerned, I did not intend to tell. I too was shocked and it was too late to back up.. But, in the end everything was okay.. I just got too concerned about woman 2 being pin-pointed to be the culprit..
Thanks for sharing your thoughts preppydezza...
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
1 Oct 10
What you did was right, was better confronted before a lot of people made a bad impression with woman 2, without her even knowing what was going on. As for the first one we don't know why she did that, but because this came out maybe she's trying to point it to woman 2 so she avoids being blamed for the lost item?
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
hi misalax..
that's what I thought so to.. I told woman 1 that no one should be blamed about what happened since there wasn't any evidence that could show woman 2 really did it.. But even if I told her that, she just kept talking and talking.. I did not really intend to create an argument between them, in fact, as I have said in my story, I was also surprised about their statements not matching. Due to my concern about woman 2, I told her what I heard from the other, and I guess it happened so fast and I found the situation unavoidable.
But I am glad were all okay and it's as if nothing happened. At least the issue was ended as soon as it had begun right?
Thanks dear for responding..
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Sep 10
I think I have to go get more coffee and come back to this one. I just got totally confused and lost as to who was saying what to whom here. I'll go inhale some more caffeine and re-read the story and see if I can follow. That being said, I have learned to keep my mouth zipped when I hear things to avoid being caught up in the midst of these sorts of dramas. Sometimes even just saying something in an attempt to help can cause things to blow up even worse. Anyway, I'll come back in a bit and read this again. ok?
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Sometimes we just have to stand up for what we believe in. it can make us a better person. if we allow allow to belittle us, we are discouraged and disillusioned with life. We don't have to stand up to others in anger. We just have to voice our opinions and stick to them.@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Yes correct there sender.. I voiced out my opinion and tried to make her understand what I think about what.. And, I did that to avoid misunderstandings being unresolved.. I don't like to have unresolved things in my mind.. So I thought it would be better to talk to her rather than let it pass and I knew I didn't even did anything to make things right..
I'm just glad we are still okay.. And for me it's okay, I mean, I don't have hard feelings for her.. Once I voiced out my opinion on her, then that's it.. At least I did something.
Thanks for responding sender..
