He wants me back...

Philippines
September 30, 2010 7:36am CST
Earlier in the afternoon, I was surprised to see my Ex-boyfriend outside the office. He asked for a minute. He wants us to have dinner together on Saturday. Shall I go? Why do you think does he want to go out with me? Hmmm...please help me figure this out. Thanks!
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15 responses
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Hi! you mentioned on one of your replies that the reason why you broke up with him was because of personal differences. Is that reason still valid until now? The only question to ask yourself is that do you still feel something for him. If that is yes, then ask yourself are you willing to look beyond that personal differences you mentioned? Then if that is another yes, then you should try and give him another chance. If not, then don't waste your time or his time.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
You are not certain about your feelings? Then be certain that you indeed love him or again as I said before, you'll end up wasting each others time. I you think you can go beyond and accept his faults on your previous breakup then I think it may have a chance.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 10
lol! actually I don't want to bother my self about how I feel. What I am so certain about is that I'm not ready to get things back if that's what he wanted. :-)
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• Philippines
30 Sep 10
hello there... actually, in a relationship, when you love someone...nothing matters. It only came to a point that we have reached the end of the line. I don't want to loose the last strand of what we have in the past. So, I have decided to break up with him before I lose respect and throw away even being friends. I don't hate him. This time, i am not certain about my feelings but I am certain that I am not yet into doing-it-all-over-again...Thanks!
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• Philippines
1 Oct 10
It's hard to jump into conclusions. Go out and have dinner with him in order for you to find out the real reason. Then see what happens next...
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• Philippines
1 Oct 10
hello... I still got ample time to think. I think I must go. Thanks!
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• India
30 Sep 10
May be you have surprise!!!!, try it out. May be he wants to confess or propose for long tern relationship with you. I can say, just go for it, you will come to know, why do you give task to your brain at this time.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 10
hello dayanandahs, Yeah. I think I must go. If I won't, I'll never know. :-) Thanks!
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• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Do you still love him? Is a second chance worth it? If yes and yes go out and work things back
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• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Not too fast. In any case that I would realize I still have that love for him, I won't decide to get things back that soon. I am not yet ready to give us another try...not now. It would take some time. But I am thinking of going out with him..I might. Thanks!
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@misheli (552)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Maybe he realized that he still love you. It's up to you if you will go out with him or not. Or if you want you ask him first the reason of his invitation to dinner.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 10
hello... yeah, I think I must do that. Thanks!
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@suetsee (26)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 10
Hi there, Just go and see what he has to say and observe how he treats you. But beware of your feelings going all over that it obscures your judgment. Go and be a friend who listens. If you had been with him quite long in the past, you should be able to know his character. Just go and dine with him, and ask him honeslty why he asked you out. Sometimes direct communication will clear the air and misunderstandings. Rather than you thinking whether he still has feelings for you or want to get back together again, it is good to talk it out. As both of you already broke off, what is planning to do now? Just go and find out the truth. All the best..
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
2 Oct 10
only if you think it is worth giving him a second chance. why did you break up in the first place?
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
hello... it was due to personal differences. we simply can make both ends meet...we decide that we must separate before we lose respect for eachother. :-)
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
30 Sep 10
starlight_starbright, Personally, I do not advocate anyone returning to someone who simply opts to walk away when things don't seem to workout and/or faced some differences. Albeit he might have his reason(s) to feel angry about the situation or you, but to abandon the relationship entirely shows a lot about his attitude towards his own love and interpretation of commitment. Perhaps it is self ego but if one decides that pride is worth more than love, then he will have to learn how much opportunity cost he has sacrificed to salvage pride. Let him learn this lesson deeply that he will remember not to find the nearest exit when conflicts or obstacles appear in the relationship. As for you, do not expect instant recovery about a break-up - allow yourself the natural pace of healing, moving along your own rhythm of life. You do not need to go out of your way or go beyond yourself if you do not want him back. You have every right to say no and most of all deserve the best in life. Take care and have a nice day.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
8 Oct 10
Hi. starlight_starbright. Well if you are single and he is too. Then I think that you should go for it. Just try to remain calm and at ease. I hope that he will come out and tell you the reason why he wanted to go out to dinner with you in the first place. I hope that everything works out for the better. Good Luck!
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Maybe he has something very important to tell you, or maybe he wants closure. usually you can tell by the way he asked you, what he wants to accomplish on sat. you can sense it in his aura. his body movements, how he says things. so how did he act when he asked you out?
@MQLanaoC (51)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
if he wants you back..then just reply,if you want me back just stare at the stars,and if he ask you why? just answered,because after you hurt me i'd just be a star for you,you can always stare and dreamt of me,but you can never get me once mOre..=)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Well it depends on the situation.But in my own opinion if he is already my ex i wont give him/her another chance just to hurt me again,to make me feel how stupid i am when I'm with him/her.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
If there's that love for him roots still in you then of course your heart is starting to spin and dance_happiness can be felt by you... but you know what .,just an opinion from me.. If you see that he is still worth the second chance then it must be coming from your heart and balance by your head.. It's difficult to move on if you jump into the same situation again.. JUST KEEP EVERYTHING IN BALANCE.. just a sort of advice...
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Why is it that you broke up?Well if you broke up in a nice reason then you accept his invitation to go with you,but if you broke up because he badly hurt you then what's his plan?maybe he want's to hurt you again or maybe he has something bad intention on you. You have two options to think about. You you're self can decide on that. :)Gudluck
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
1 Oct 10
I think if your boyfriends release their mistakes which he done in his pat life then you should forgive him. Because a person commits about his mistakes. It is a big thing. And now you may think about him. And if you think it is good to go with him again then you can. But I think you should go with him. Because you know him very well. And now your boyfriends also commit his mistakes.