Doing things for the benefit others only...how far correct.?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
September 30, 2010 7:51am CST
Men are essential selfish but some people like to do things for the benefit of others.A few sacrifice everything for the benefit others and some do everything for their own benefit.Doing things for others is no doubt noble but doing every thing for their own benefit is also cruel. Is there any yardstick to decide?Some do things for their own benefit and they don't mind if others also benefit during the process but some others do not like others being benefited while they do things for their own benefit.Am I correct?.Therefore I would like know the views of my co Myloters as to what extent one can do things benefit to others keeping in view his own benefit....
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@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
30 Sep 10
Good evening dear friend Chayapathys , to be aboslutely franckly and honest with you , when i used to be a kind and also a teenager , i had used to be exactly the type of person that you mention in your discussion , i cann say that i was verry much of a naive person , and i was doing all my best to help the people that i considered friends , and i had even used to get beaten by Big Mafia guyz , and even forced to work for them , bbecause at the time , i had made a friend , whom he had runned away from home , and he camed to Buchares , the capital of roumania , and he was from the country side , and four years younger then i was , and this Mafia Guy , had tooked him and made him work for him for nothing , he made him sleep on a wood with a simple blanket , he worked the day from 07:00 to 21:00 at a Internet Cafe , and then the night from 22:00 , untill three or four in the morning at a Bar cafee that this guy owned , and i made friends with him , and he told me all that i told you now , and he begged me to help him escape , he was afraid to go to the police , since this guy new alot of people in the police force in the neighborhood that i grew up , so i decided to help him escape ,and so i did , i tooked some money from my sister ( my mother was In belgium at that time and my step father never cared about me ) so we tooked the train togheter , and i helped him find he's familly , once i've done this , they made togheter with me , complaints at a police section , and then i had to return home , at my return i had the mafia guyz waiting for me , they gaved me a good beat and forced me to take this guy place , and after two weeks of working for this guy ( was working for nothing , no money no food ) i decided to go and call the cops , and i told them that i am not the only one , i gave the adress and the phone number to contact the other boy , when they did , the boy and he's mother denied it all , they were scarred and i got stucked in this problem , soon after i stoled some moneu from this guy , enough to buy a train ticket to Austria and from there i begged in the streets of Vienna for food and managed to gather some money for another ticket to Belgium this time. And went to my mother , ever since i'm done with helping people , nobody desirves to be helped , because they take it as an obligation for me , they tooked me for a stupid al these friends i've helped , these how humans work , and now when i see someone in trouble i think that they desirve that !!! And i dont even care anymore , i'm only helping my familly from now on and thats it !!!
Florin , Over and Out
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Oct 10
From what you I understand your bad experience in the past.Such bad experience many of us face.The result is we become hard nuts in life and begin to care no one subsequently.Confining to family is really good.But sometimes we feel why not help depending upon the situation.At the same time we cannot rely on strangers.They may be good or may be bad.As you say they deserve what they are. Many times kind hearted people like you cannot keep quite seeing others suffer.It all depends upon a certain situation....is it not?
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@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
1 Oct 10
It is verry true , especially since even now i have times where when i stand up for other people , but this are really rare situations now , like two months ago , i was at a reunion for job formation , and i had to wait outside me and two other boyz ( totally strangers ) and a girl , we waited that the Info Seance ends , since in the hall there were around fourty outher people been informed , so one of the guyz that were outside the Hall Room with me , looked at the girl , and he found her verry nice , but he did said a word to her , at the end of the Info , i see that there were two guyz , whom were aproaching the boy that was looking at the girl , and started pushing him over and told him he aint allowed to look at he's women , and when i saw that i stand up for the other boy and told to that agressive jerk , that God gave him eyes to admire , and that he should not be angry for such a event , he then tryed to punch me , but i've made four years of boxing in roumania , so he had choosed the wrong oponnent , since i've kicked him and he's friend that was there , and conflict ended .
