are you usually the most caring one in your relationships?^^

Portugal
September 30, 2010 10:58am CST
hi guys^^ are you usually the one caring the most in your relationships?^^ about me im always the one that cares the most :( so sad. i wish i found a guy that cared for me all the time and always say how much he loves me^^ i would feel too happy^^ i really love to be spoiled ahah but im usually the one spoiling my bfs when i have one^^ ahah :) i wish just that they could be a bit more romantic and showed they loved me all the time^^ what about you guys?^^ please share^^
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@zoekling (70)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
are you usually the most caring one in your relationships? hello guys!yes,i am...ever since my husband and i were still in a relationship about 5 years ago until the time we get married last 2007 i am always the one who cares a lot in our relationship..He is not that showy for his feeling especially when it comes to the public,.I care for him by taking care of his meals,his needs(school times)like projects cause im the one who is more talented to draw than him..hehehe..I make it sure that his clothes are ready while his in shower,his foods are prepared in our table,always hug and kiss him everyday..I cooked for him and sing for him as well..ehehe..i am always the one who show love for him though i know he loves me too,i just love to take care of him and make sure that our relationship is healthy and progressive even now that his working abroad and we already have our son..
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw thats so cute^^ you do many cute things for him^^ you are like a girl that all guys want marry with^^ me too im also very caring to boys but for once i wish this time i was being the one being taken care of^^ is like is always me caring the most always. and i just wanted be treated like a baby now^^ bcs i usually treat them like babies and do all for them. and i wish i could also receive that much too^^ sometimes i feel sad bcs of that.
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw you are too sweet thanks^^ i wish the same too^^ he is sweet to me^^ but sometimes i feel i show it more :) im sorry that your bf doesnt show he loves you as much as you do but maybe he will change that^^ im sure that if you were sick with fever or something he would care too much ^^ or if were in danger^^ you know boys usually just show their care mostly when they see they can lose us or need them to protect us^^ then they show their heart^^
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
i got your point,i know you want to be well taking care of also like the way you do to him.It always feels good to be love and treated like a baby,i dreamed of it as well bcause sometimes,it feels tiring to be the one who always makes a move to show them/him how much we care right?maybe in my case,im contented for what he showed me though not that showy,mainly because i love him that i am not expecting in return,but wishing also for the time to come for him to treat me as a baby too.:) I hope that you can find someone whom will take care of you,understands how you cares for him and show to you the care and love you deserve because we all deserves to be happy!
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Hi Sweetloveforeve! I m in a relationship since 4 years now n all these years mostly I hv been the one to be the caring one.. It happens I guess. Girls are sensitive and mature and they treat the guy exactly as they would like to be treated. But ya it sure hurts to be not cared sometimes. Even I want to be spoiled sometimes. Though one thing that I learnt from my experience is that guys would do anything for their girls but only they have to let the guys know what they want. I tried doing it. I once very bluntly told him that I wanted to be cared for more. Though I felt bad afterwards for being so blunt but it sure helped. N the best part is that he liked my being frank.
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• United States
3 Oct 10
That's 100% right! They don't realize they are hurting us in their own way.. I m glad and keeping my fingers crossed for my relation to last forever! Thank u for your lovely wishes..
• Portugal
3 Oct 10
yes ^^ so i need tell my bf i need he cares for me too much^^ bcs really i cant stand to have anymore a careless bf or i rather just dont have any and just flirt forever. i cant stand to be in a serious relationship and be the only one caring the most. i did that before and got even sick so i wont let that happen again. i just wish my bf really cares for me like he says and doesnt hurt me^^
• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aw so good that its already 4 years^^ thats too much already^^ and yes you are right we girls usually care the most but i feel sad when i see those boys that are so sweety to their gfs and i cant have the same^^ anyway is good that you were honest with him and he started to care more^^ is like sometimes they dont see that they are hurting us by not showing it too much^^ and im sure that your bf shows it much now right?^^ is always good to be honest^^ me too im always honest when im with a guy^^
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 10
It is good to hear that you care about your boy friend or the one with whom you are in a relationship. It is great on your part. I take the caring part and love discharging my responsibilities and duties in a relationship. Like you, I love to spoil the other one. It always gives me immense pleasure to take care of my partner/friends.^^
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 10
^^I do hope if you continue to look after your boy friend/other friends and carry on with your kind attitude, you will win many hearts and you will make many persons dear to you. It is good on your part that when they are sad, you listen to them and comfort them. Keep it sweetloveforeve My best wishes are with you.
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• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw you are so sweet^^ thanks for say that^^ yes i always try to help my friends and my bf and even people i dont know well^^ if they need to talk im there for them too^^ i think we all need to talk about problems sometimes^^ my dream was work as an adviser^^ like on phone advise people or even face to face^^ person tells problems and i would advise^^
• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aw im so happy that you also like to care for your bf and be sweet^^ and for your friends too^^ me also im like that i do everything for my friends too^^ if they are sad or something im always there to listen and help them^^ and about my bf i love him so much that i can do anything for him^^ i just wish that we can be together soon^^ bcs right now we are far from each other.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Yes I've always been the most caring one and as I could see this also drives my husband to return the favor. The more I get very caring and very sweet, the more he reciprocates so our relationship gets even sweeter and better each day.
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• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw im so happy for you and for your hubby^^ i see you really love each other much^^ yes bcs we girls are usually more caring^^ boys dont trust so easy like us so is good that you were caring so much^^ that gave him confidence and now he is too caring with you too^^ both care the same way now^^ im too happy for you^^ is good to see other people are happy with their lovers^^
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
hello! you know we have the same situation because in our relationship im always the one that cares about him:(. maybe i really love him so i cares always.i also wish i found a guy that cared for me and loves me more than i love him....
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• Portugal
2 Oct 10
im sorry :( i understand what you been through. it still hurts me bcs even my bf is sweet sometimes i feel i care more than what he does. but i dont know bcs with guys is a bit hard to know things for sure. they are not as showing feelings like us but doesnt mean they dont care. but sure we need feel they really care but sometimes they dont see it. i wish you find a guy that loves you as much as you love him^^ so if fair for both and both can be completely happy this way^^
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Yes I am but i think now a days i do more busy in my study,,,, cause i been experiencing a broken hearted........
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• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw i see :( sorry for it. i wish you be ok soon. dont worry soon you find a sweet guy that will love you much^^ like you deserve. forget the guy that hurt you. life is too short to be wasted thinking about a guy that doesnt care for you anymore. cheer up^^ your prince is still there and will appear soon you will see^^ we all have someone for us and appears sooner or later^^ dont be sad no more^^ smile and wait him^^
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Most of the time women are the more caring ones in a relationship. We just tend to be the care givers and the ones with a softer heart. I would say I am the most caring one most of the time in my relationship
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• Portugal
1 Oct 10
yes i feel the same too^^ and usually the most caring ones are with girls that are careless^^ so careless can be with careless and caring with caring right? ahah would be great this way^^ im always sad that im the one always caring the most :( i always wanted a bf that always put me in first place in his life^^ but is like is always me doing that. anyway i wish my bf cares so much for me like i care for him^^
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Yes I am the one who cares and give all the love that my partner needs. It gives me the happiness to take care and most of the time spoiling him. This is to show him that i really love and care about him and make him feel secure in me. Sometimes they did the same. Like my husband now he cares so much about me attending all the needs of my family and very loving to all of us. We are spoiled to him. At this point no one's forget the love each in everyone gives and when the time past it remains a sweet memories.
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• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aw im happy that you always gave much care to your bfs^^ and that you do the same to your husband and he does the same for you too^^ is important to spoil person we love^^ i love to be sweet to my bf bcs he is not used to receive much care from others so i always want to say sweet things like he is a little baby ahah ^^ i really want to be with him soon^^ and yes love we gave to others always remains as sweet memories^^
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 10
Hi, When come to relationship,I believe it need both parties to show their cares and loves to each other. It is not just a one side sacrifice will do. From my own experience,both me and my husband do give and take all the time. We both can be firm and tough in our decision,but we have to really see at the situation and find the best for our family.
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• Portugal
2 Oct 10
im happy that you both care and fight to make things right and take decisions together^^ thats how things must be done^^ both have to do sacrifices and show love or else one of you, the one that cared the most, would feel sad sometimes. like happens to me sometimes when i have a bf and i feel im caring the most. i think that both must care the same always^^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
30 Sep 10
I would have to say that i wear my heart on my sleeve a lot. I put more of myself into a relationship than is expected. I feel i am usually the one who cares the most in a relationship and i am happy in that respect.
• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aw thats good that you care so much in a relationship^^ and i wish that your lover also cares so much too^^ and yes is good that you put much of yourself in a relationship as long as other person does the same too^^ bcs to me i always give much of myself and when boys didnt do the same thats what happened till now it always ended. we must care and be cared the same way^^
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
30 Sep 10
hello sweetloveforeve, I would say in my past relationships it was me doing most caring of the relatiosnhip sending cards and remembering birthdays and just being thoughtful. Now in my new relationship I would say we 50-50 because he is just a thoughtful and caring and go places to dinners out or nice walks in the aprks. If I have not seen him for awhile like 3 days he is fist one say I missed you! Give me a big hug and kiss etc... which is very refreshing a guy doing this. Thanks and have a great day Sincerley Unique16
• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aw im happy that now you both care too much^^ it just means you found a great bf that really loves you^^ and yes is great to have a guy that cares and takes us to good places must be great^^ and yes when you dont see each other for few days is awesome that he just goes and hugs you and says he misses you^^ i really wish you be with him forever^^ thanks for share with me^^ have a greaty day too^^
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• United States
30 Sep 10
hello, in my relationship,we both care for it.i am spoiled and he is also spoiled..we can called it"FAIR"!he always makes me feel loved and i always make him feel loved too.we give and take,not just give and give or take and take!all i can say is we are having a happy,sweet and romantic relation now.ayay!!i hope you will find that right guy who will cares for you too!or maybe you already found him you just dont feel it gurl :)
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• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aww your answer is soo wishing good things^^ im very happy that in your relationship both care so much for each other and both give and receive^^ about me i found the right guy yes but he lives far from me^^ anyway i know that he really loves me but we need to save money to be together^^ otherwhise will be very complicated^^ anyway we are doing what we can^^ everyone deserves to love and be loved the same way^^ wish you be happy with your bf forever^^ thanks for your sweet answer^^
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
30 Sep 10
Hello sweetloveforever! I hope you do not get to be the one that cares the most in a relation, because that one suffers the most, gives a lot and receives so little, gets used to put what the partner wants in front of her needs. I hope you will find someone who will care the most in your relation, anf that you have enought respevt and love for him to care about his needs. At least this is what i hope..but i may be hoping fo rthe wrong things.. who knows..
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• Portugal
1 Oct 10
ioana you wish the right thing^^ but im always the one that cares the most. and yes i always suffer the most and cry and im sad. i been sick bcs of it before and still didnt recover completely. anyway is hard that my bf cares too much bcs we live far from each other and we have different hours bcs we live in different countries.still we always message each other^^ also we are both trying to save money to see each other near^^ i wish we can soon^^
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• Romania
30 Sep 10
nope,not really :p
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• Portugal
1 Oct 10
aww so is it your gf that cares the most for you? :) well is ok if she cares much but you should also care much for her^^ that way both could be happier^^ you know that sometimes if we feel boys dont care for us much our love feelings start to decrease. this happened to me before with an ex of mine. i just stopped loving him bcs i was sick of always being the one that cares the most.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
1 Oct 10
I always careful in relationship. Because I know relationship is very sensitive so be careful. So I always careful in many relationship. I think if there are caring for relationship from both side then it becomes good. And always a relationship will become strong.
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
im happy that you are careful with your gf feelings^^ thats good and all guys should be like that^^ and yes care must come from both sides or one will always feel sad. bcs will give but wont receive the same back so will feel hurt. and not totally happy never. and yes a relation becomes strong when both care too much^^ all people should do like this and problems wouldnt be so many^^ thanks for your very smart answer^^
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
hai.. i think yes i am,,,, cause if i am in a relationship i think i always give care ,,, cause i know my bf needs my care... so i wish also to have a bf that also cared for me,,,
• Portugal
2 Oct 10
aw i see you care much for him^^ thats good^^ we girls must always show we care for our bfs^^ and yes sure i wish you find a bf that cares too much for you too^^ we all deserve to be cared and loved^^ thats why we are alive^^ to be happy with someone that will always be there for us. that way if you be caring they wont need to find noone else^^ bcs you will be enough^^