How do you deal with anger in situations where it's not safe to express it?
By zionsphere
@zionsphere (673)
United States
September 30, 2010 3:17pm CST
I have the tendency to just bottle it up, until something makes me so mad I start accusing people of all kinds of things. This just isn't healthy, and I know it! I've taken assertive communication, but I feel like the people around me don't really care what I am angry about, and they poke at me on purpose.
What do you do in this situation?
5 responses
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
4 Oct 10
I have the same tendencies. I bottle up everything inside. And what I hate about it is that when I'm up to my limits, I lash out to people I love.
I should get better at releasing my frustrations, but I struggle. I think it's just part of my personality.
What's assertive communication? Would that help me?
@zionsphere (673)
• United States
4 Oct 10
It might. It's just the basics of communicating in a way that stands up for your rights without violating the rights of others. If you go to http://www.free-your-mind-from-meds.com you can find a training course in the tools and resource section for free. It's worth a shot anyways.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
1 Oct 10
ive learned i go ahead and express myself and its up to them to with it as they want. and of course sometime they dont do what i like so i am like oh well.. but if its like none stop and they just keep doing stuipd things i try to stay away from them
@zionsphere (673)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Yes, I am beginning to learn that some people just don't belong in your life.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Sometimes we just have to blow and blurt it out. When we bottle things up and hold back it only angers us that much more and well it is not a pretty sight after.
So unless it is a dangerous situation, let out girl and scream. 
, we are human no one can expect us not to be. 
, we are human no one can expect us not to be. @zionsphere (673)
• United States
1 Oct 10
I wish that were true. But walking away when I was angry got me called a name that can't be posted on mylot. Screaming isn't even close to an option.
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
30 Sep 10
Hello Zionshere! I think that people like that, the one that don't care and speack to you on porpuse like that should be avoided. If they do not respect you enough to take care not to mak eyou upset, there is no point in sticking near them. Sometimes in life you just have to let things go in order to move on :D
@zionsphere (673)
• United States
1 Oct 10
Unfortunately I can't avoid these certain people. But if I could that is definitely good advice.
@renanfreitas (68)
• Brazil
30 Sep 10
first of all everyone sometimes get anger, but if you getting a lot, try look to yourself, your attitudes... try find out if you really needed to be anger with few things, try imagine if were you the one that were doing the things to other person, try see their reaction... maybe you can find another way to act, to express yourself. hope i could help. have a nice day
@zionsphere (673)
• United States
1 Oct 10
Yeah, I'm trying different ways. I know that my reactions are in my control, and I should be able to stop myself when I reach the breaking point. Easier said than done.
