Is it really possible not to feel that others dont like you even if.....
By expertme
@expertme (43)
Philippines
September 30, 2010 10:21pm CST
-Everybody doesnt hang out with you
-Never ask you to join whenever its lunch time
-No one wants to sit beside you
-No one talks to you unless you will talk to them
This is actually happening in real life one of my co-trainees is somewhat a BIG FAT LOSER, it maybe sound mean but that is the best adjective i can use to describe him.
Physically he is scary his Fat, Very Dark, Uneven eyes, dejected Face and full of negativity. And he also has a intolerable bad breathe OMeffffinGod! And he also has a not so good attitude and a Freeloader Ahole.Sometimes i really wanted to tell it to his face but my friends told me that just dont mind him cause we really dont what his capable of he might get upset if ill be brutally honest with him and he might do something scary and creepy, w/c i do understand. But as much as we wanted to understand him, coz we really do pity him but its just not right;X
What do you think is he psycho or something or just a complete ahole?
4 responses
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
It will really help him if you tell him what he probably doesnt know. Don't tell him in an embarassing situation that usually triggers a person in doing creepy and scary things.. Tell him in a nice way.. You don't know what he is going through,... all you know right now is what you feel, think and others think but you actually don't know what this guy's been through. With that physical traits and that foul breath he really must have been through a lot in terms of being laughed at, gossiped etc....
Tell him, it might help.. might trigger change you'll never know
@Fire10 (293)
• United States
1 Oct 10
I think you're perfectly right that you don't know what he's capable of. Imagine if someone - or even better - a group of people decided to have confidence that he is an important, worthwhile person... and not let some of his outward appearances, mannerisms, quirks, or tics, force them into disliking him or thinking less of him.
I am slightly hurt at what you've said. It could be that he has set up a gruff exterior because he's in a rut where people either hate him or pity him - not a good spot to be in... so maybe being rude and less than tolerable appears easier and less frustrating to him than trying to show the world who he is... such a step would be admitting vulnerability.
I believe there is a good guy in there that nobody has the patience to choose to see.
In all fairness, being brutally honest with him could be one of the few things he expects of you.
@saizo6 (2199)
• United States
1 Oct 10
Maybe he's just the loner type that doesn't care if anyone likes him or not. Because from your points there anyone could tell they aren't liked if those things do happen to them. As for this guy, I don't think he's psycho just from the description of his behavior. I would think that he is more of the later. Sounds like he's trying to be the tough guy around the place to me. And I think your friends are right. You shouldn't try confronting him if you don't know what he's capable of. It might turn out really bad. Maybe you can get a higher authority person to speak with him about his attitude.
@romzz05 (572)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Maybe you should tell him the truth about the bad breath at least. Some people really don't know that they are annoying because no one tells them that they are. Maybe he could turn out to be a nice guy if he knew his "weaknesses". Just don't be too brutal choose your words carefully.
