Disclosing my exam results to my parents

Hi NoWayRo, thanks for the consolation and advice. Well, the problem is, in my whole academic life, I've not been doing well. My best performance was during the GCSE exams and after that, my academics wasn't that well again. I've been making too much empty promises so I just wish not to tell them I'll work hard, I'll work hard, too many times. Right now, I just wish that the impact will be less when I tell them because I've no time as I've to register for the programme during this period. I really want to do well, seriously just that I've not been meeting their expectations :( :(

Hi Guppy, thanks for the encouragement! Now I don't want to regret because it's no use! Do I have the right to do so when I didn't even put in enough effort in the first place? I'm seriously repenting as this is a chance for me to do better.

Dear friend JudgeIronFist, I won't condole you on the failure at the exam nor do I accept it. However, yes my sympathies are with you. I wish to see you happier and more stress free in life. Remember, life is to live. Fear. It is the worst enemy. Reaction of your parents will be obvious. Understand that they are not scolding you because they don't like you. They are simply reacting to a situation that they were not prepared to tackle. They are afraid that the results are reflecting something more sinister happening in their child's life. They don't want any harm to happen to you so the fear makes them react in that manner. Your fear, of not telling the truth. It can only be coming from one of two sources. One is from guilt. Subconsciously or consciously you know why you failed. You do regret it but it is too late now. So you are afraid that the truth will be out and that you don't want. Since it will be even more difficult to explain. Second source is denial. You ought to take one hundred percent responsibility of whatever happens in your life. Good and bad. Refusing it will not make it go away. We are humans and we fail. That is fine. Accept it. Accepting responsibility is different then feeling guilty. Remember, I am asking you to take responsibility, not the blame. When you take the responsibility, you will find that mind is much quieter. There will be sudden surge of energy and the fear will disappear. With a clearer mind and new energy you can achieve many more things in life. This is my two pence worth view. I wish you the best in life and may Universe bring more wisdom and courage in your life. Peace be with you.

I see. I wish you all the best in your studies too! :)

Thanks man. My failure, I think there's something wrong going on with me, denial. I'm trying to figure it out.

Thanks there. I've told them already and they've accepted.

My mother won't go for the 'I did my best'. I once said that and you know what she said? She told me:"If you did your best, then why this kind of results?" So that's the point. I just want to finish off with this as soon as I can and move on. She's gonna scold again but it's no use right? It's already done! However she just can't understand.

Yea I'm planning to tell today. I'm nervous now and hope that it'll pass soon.

I think if you meet with them in a mature fashion, without tears,etc., they will be proud of how you are taking responsibility. Good luck.

Haha, of course not. The SSP, I'm more than willing to join!

Yea I've told them already. Thanks. I also started another discussion regarding this.

Hiya Judge, Good for you well done. It´s much easier to let things out and tell them. They must be easy to talk to as well by the sound of it. It´s good to have Parents that understand and you have them. All you have to do is take the exam again and pass it. Here´s to that.

Ok, rest assured! All the best to you too. You have to inform your family as soon as possible too.

Hi there. Thanks for your advice! I've told them already and have since started another discussion on it.

ok, great then. they must have proud of you!!!

But I'm kind of nervous. This is my second time repeating a different module. I know I have to say it quick by today. :( :(

The module was math. My foundation in math was always quite inconsistent. Maybe I had a kind of mental block telling me to refuse any teachings from math or what. Anyway, thanks!

Yea that was what happened to me previously. I slowed down the pace in telling them and kept finding the right time to tell but in the end, they found out themselves, especially my mother, who gave me a super dressing-down. That's why I decided not to become like that anymore and be more straightforward.

I've tried many times before. I was finding a good time to tell them but in the end, they found out themselves. So now I've decided to tell the truth straight. No beating about the bushes.