How do you decipher those dating code?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
October 1, 2010 3:11pm CST
This morning while I was on my route to work, the radio broadcast this guy's help in a relationship. He dated this girl for 3 days, gone out with her once, and make two phone calls, and 2 text messages. After that, she never reply him again, and it seems everything goes very well. He just need the radio help, to know what has gone wrong.
After all these scenario analysis, and callers opinion, and the hosts advices. I was so curious, how do these know exactly what that girl really thinking? How do they decipher those code, when to make the phone call after first date going out. And the guy should not make the second call on the second date, that was not the game plan or something like that. I just don't know how do they know what other people think base on these provided data. That is amazing I would say. I wish that I can decipher all these code in life too. Especially in a relationship and know exactly what they are thinking.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Remember that most of us think that we are the Love Guru and we know a lot of things because of our experiences in love. We try to relate those experiences to the experiences of others who share their circumstance. It doesn't need a rocket scientist to know that we are all capable of decisions and advices (most often unsolicited).
It doesn't mean however, that we don't know what we're talking about. It's simply our way of trying to help out but sometimes we fail to realize that what is important is the two people in that situation to talk about what is happening.
But, it's fun to talk about relationships.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
2 Oct 10
But what if their advices and their perspective in that particular situation were wrong? How would you repair that broken relationship if they given a wrong advice?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Remember that there's no such thing as a wrong advice, as there isn't such thing as a perfect formula to any relationship. What must be would be regardless what you do or what people tell you to do.
This reminded me of a conversation with a good friend last night. She recently broke up with a boyfriend of a few months. She was all quiet about it for about a month or two, trying to move on with her life without him. After such an ordeal, she has finally started moving on. Then suddenly the other day, she heard of news from her colleagues and common friends that he has been spreading news about her. It was overrated, he made it sound as if she was so pitiful because they broke up. They said that because of his bestfriend (who told him that if he didn't have plans to marry her he must break off with her) he broke up with her! When the real story was that my friend broke up with him!
What amazes us both is the fact that after all her silence, he came out telling everyone about it. Does this show a man's character?? He's so spineless because he can't decide for himself, right? He needed a friend to tell him such things and then he follows them from the dot! What sort of a man is that!?
Now, back to the topic. Regardless what people say or advise you, it's still up to you to decide what to do. Therefore, nobody forces you to do anything. Therefore rendering advices free from being wrong or right.
