Rarely Used Gifts

Gifts are given on occasions out of love and affection.It is for the recipient how to make use of it or or not whether to use it or not.It is not our concern.Why should we bother.It may be that the gift which you gave may be useful in your opinion but in fact it may not useful to the recipient. Sometimes gifts we receive will be be gifted by us to others also.Don't mistake me.Keeping track over the gift already given is also not correct...

I used to give my nieces, my sisters daughters presents until I found out that their father would just throw them away. Since we are quite close, I tell them that I will no longer give them gifts in case their papa will throw them away. Now I only give them money. I have a friend whose taste in clothes and food very different from mine. She has given me her old printer which I feel I want to repay her in a gift but now I am wrecking my mind as to what she might want. I wanted to at first suggest that you give a voucher which the other party can use to get whatever they fancy but now I can see that it is like a lazy thing to do.

well i actually wouldnt mind not seeing them use the present i gave them. coz you see, some people are sentimental, which means they prefer keeping it than usin it to preserve the item because the sender is important to them. Some are alse shy of using the gifts coz they might think that the sender would comment something unusual about it for instance, i gave person A a blouse. the next time i see her and wearing the blouse i gave her, i might think that she has no more blouse to use or the sort of thoughts. so to avoid this kind of thinking receiver would rather prefer using the item only if the sender will not be able to see them using it. thus, it is normal not to see the presents/gifts,used by the receiver. happy my lotting and God bless!^^

Well, when I give a gift I do try to ask what they need and get them something they need, so that it doesn't go to waste. I'd rather not get someone anything then get them something they won't use as that's a waste of my money and their time. That's why I usually try to ask specifically for the sorts of things they want. Saves a lot of time that way. I know that when I got married there were some people that asked what I needed, such as my close family and my husband's close family and they got us something off that list. Since we already had a house at that point, we didn't need a lot of the traditional wedding things, but there were still things we needed. My step-father's family, on the other hand, got us things THEY thought we should have. They being in their 50's at the time and us being 18, of course. So one of the things we got was a glass dishware set with a bread tray, an olive tray, and all sorts of fancy dishes that one might expect to use when hosting a formal party. We're 18. Not only do we not party much at this time because of work, but if we do I guarantee you we won't be using an olive tray. xD So I can definitely understand both sides of it because right now our pretty glass dishes are currently sitting in the bottom of our china cabinet, gathering dust. Maybe when we're 50 we'll be happy to have them, but we've got a long way to go until then, and several children as well, so it's a big assumption to assume they'll all last until then!

i think may be your friends think it's too precious so they keep them carefully. they would like to preserve the new one not the used one.

Hi dear, Once we give a gift, our part is over. We don’t think of what they do with that. But when giving a gift it is better to consider few things. How useful it is for them, matching for the occasion, anyone can use etc. Or we can ask them for their preference. Sometimes people may be unwilling to use the gift items in public as the same is gifted by someone, especially the giver may be around. There may be cases of duplications as well. If they have the same thing more, they will keep it for later to use. However, I think we need not bother or worry on what they will use with them. Sometimes they give it to someone else as gift. So, such things are around because all will make use of the same in a suitable manner. If anything happens like that, consider it just childish and don’t take it seriously. Regards, Thank-s

I actually feel like that with my father today. But, I don't regret giving him the gift at all, I just wonder when he'll start wearing what I gave him. I actually gave him a sanuk shoes/sandal, he isn't comfortable with the fact because he's used to wearing rubber shoes and leather shoes. I do understand it's difficult to just go for the change, but someday I'm sure he would learn to love them. I can wait.

well im a terrible aunt is guess because when my sisters two kids became teenagers they didnt like the gifts i gave them for christmas .my nephew accually throw it accross the room.so they have yet to get any more presents from their aunt.they were not grateful at all.so its been 4 years now and they are still this way.there parents get them things and they dont want then apearently the gifts are not good enough.