What is the biggest mistake you ever did in your relationship?

Philippines
October 2, 2010 6:30am CST
I had a date with my EX today. He asked me out for dinner. I agreed but to avoid some untoward situation, I convinced him to have coffee instead. We talked things over and we just tried to figure our what went wrong. We apologized to each other and we admitted our mistakes. He told me, he wants to give it a try to someone and he wanted to know what was wrong with that made me leave him for him to change for his next relationship given a chance. While in on my way home, I figured out the biggest mistake I did in my 6 years of relationship with him, I have loved him so much that all I did was make things right and try hard to make things work for us not knowing I was already hurting him. I always tell him how I feel and always feel bad not hearing the words I wanted him to say. And I would act mad, forcing to say what I wanted him to tell me. Hmmm...Even if we did not end up together, the lesson from loving him was enough for me to remember for my future relationship/s. How about you? What is the biggest mistake you did in your relationship? No matter if you are together or not...
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@Karunvig (714)
• India
2 Oct 10
There are NO MISTAKES in relation and if we think that there are some mistakes or we have done one then that is not the relation.. but compromise
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• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Maybe you could explain your post a little bit further. Appreciated if you can do so. Thanks!
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@Karunvig (714)
• India
2 Oct 10
U bring TV in ur home... do u think tht it is a fixed cost and u dnt hv to inccur ny more cost to see the movis/serials etc. U forgot about electricity bill and the service provider bills. Relation is not a 8 words but a feeling of two persons which come along and make 'LOVE' & 'LIFE' baby--- 1 or 2 yrs old slapping his mom /dad and doing mischief is ignored and we take this as his play and love that, whatever he do and want him to repeat that activity again and again... If same is done by a 21 yrs old guy then... ur thoughts changes..u call him criminal who dnt luv his parents... ??? Same if sumthng goes wrong in the relation thn dont call it a Mistake, its like a driver frgt his way to destination... we percive the situation we want to, instead solving all those we blame each other.. dnt try to find the solution tht can work out. If in a relation talking to other girls is mistake then those who think this thn kindly dont go into a relation... Mistakes... what kind of mistakes u r talking about... small small mischiefs are everywhere in every relation.. not only betwen a spinster n bachelor. If either of them is having a relation with other person then dont call it a relation, its purely LUST of tht person who is stisfyng by hurting his partner.. It's not a relation actually !!
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• Philippines
3 Oct 10
..i guess the biggest mistake i ever did was letting myself be in a relationship that i never liked..we were together for almost 6yrs..i xur did love him but the problem was, he was controlling my life..he was the person who encouraged me to get back nto shool, and so i did..evrything was running smoothly but for the next 2 years, it was not what i pictured out to be.. ..i was a consistent honor student, and i was supposed to be a valedictorian at that tym but because of our relationship problem i failed!!!that made me feel like i was a looser just because of him.. ..he didnt want me to attend any extra curricular activities from the school because he wanted my time..he only wanted me to be at home or just to be with him.. ..to make it short, before we reached our 6th yr anniversary, i ended up our relationship..and now, i could say that im totally happy!!!
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• Australia
3 Oct 10
ohhh, glad that you've finally find your way! congratz :)
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• Philippines
2 Oct 10
i dont commit that much, so the last relationship was a whirl wind. it sarted fast and sadly never lasts that long. anyway, he love me, and i can see all his effort for that, however, i know i am stupid, so there were times that i took those effort for granted. he didnt really matter to me much back then, i was not minding all the time he spent with me. but i did fell for him, i loved him and i know there was a connection. one day, we were suppose to have lunch but since i know he'll be out early from work and my class wil end after 4hrs, it means it would be too much for him to wait for me. actually this is his routine just to be with me. so one time i was concern about him waiting for me, which i know his tired from work and needs to sleep. what i did was, i texted him and told him to just go home and sleep. he insisted to see me, but then i am the boss so he cant do anythin bout it. it was that way for sometime. . oh well, to cut the story short, i told him that we need to stop our relationship coz it's not going anywhere.. actually, what i really wanted to say to him that time was i miss him so much and i wanna be with him! ..i wanted him to know that i was upset with how our schedules were and that i miss him. but what happened was, it seems that i pushed him away. unfortunately, fate was not in favor with us that time, my schedule was very tight, i need to do this and that that i barely get to talk to him. so the unfortunate events had us part ways. now what im trying to say is, the biggest mistake i did was to break up with him and not doing any effort to fix the issue. and worse, i pushed him and had my pride get me. what happened after that? well.. i had to recover 2 years for that failed relationship. i cried, and that was probably the worse cry i ever cried lol i was being aloof to the world for one whole week. i isolated mself from the world and feel like i dont know. i wrote poems almost every night. hmm... and thats my st0ry. i regretted the day to never find the time to be with him and to let him know that i love him. . .
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Hi. starlight_starbright. My biggest mistake was loving my ex boyfriend with all of my heart. I gave so much of love to him that I forgot about myself. I loved strongly and deeply. Now, the love that they have taken for granted, I now give to my husband. I was blinded by my love that I could not see pass him as being a no good "dogg." Never again will I fall for this trap ever.
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
3 Oct 10
I think once I hurt her a lot. So she forgets me. But I try to understand her but she not accept it. I think it was biggest mistakes of my life that once I hurt her a lot. So she left me and going so far from my life. But I am still loving her and also still waiting for her. Because I loves her truly.
@slipz1487 (415)
• United States
2 Oct 10
I think that the biggest mistake i have ever done in my relationship is loving my partner so much more than i love myself.. that made me a puppet and i was always afraid to loose my partner, which i know now is very wrong..
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