Do They Let you Down?

Hm, well I haven't been let down that way. I did plan a family reunion, and a bunch of the east coast relatives were talking like they'd really like to be there, but most of them weren't able to scrape up the money for the trip...

I am very blessed to say that my family has never let me down. Of course I did say MY family....my husband's family is an entire different story. I am grateful that they live in California and I am ALL the way over in Tennessee. LOL They never came to our wedding, nor do they truly acknowledge our children. They never say Christmas cards/presents, or Birthday cards/presents. It really hurts me that my children have almost no contact with their grandparents. My husband pretends that it doesn't bother him but it really does. He is closer to my parents than is own.

To me an invitation is a you are welcome to come, it's not a demand or requirement that you attend. Why don't you clear this up by asking a few questions as to why these people didn't come? How bad can the truth be? You may be surprised by what was going on with them at that time. It may not have had anything to do with you. Lack of money is often our reason for not attending, I am not proud, I just tell them that and send a nice card, which I make. When rich families marry into poor familes as was in our case it can cause problems. My family was wealthy but they soon learned that my Hubby and me were not. When we were young my parents use to take us shopping if they wanted us to attend anything, we took them up on it, it was more important that we include ourselves in the family get togethers then sit at home due to lack of proper attire. As we grew older and were both working at good jobs we were able to attend more functions. I'm sure everyone knew we wore JC Pennys not some famous label clothing. We could never keep up with the Jones and didn't even try. But many other people I know can't get past that pride and so the hurt feeling by not being straight forward about reasons for not attending.

I've been deeply hurt by members of my own family, especially my own children. Of course, we all get hurt by others as well, but pain from one's own family seems to go deeper, the betrayal more hurtful. When I've needed my adult children's support and understanding most, they have been denied. But, God says forgiveness is imperative; it's an act of the will and is beneficial to all concerned, but really hard to do. So, I will continue to pray for those dear to me and for all of those "on my watch", because God is a God of harmony, peace, and love. And love is not just some "cutesy" feeling; just look at Jesus' example.

Family can be funny that way. They test out your limits and sometimes taking for granted the hurt they cause. Yet, they still expect them to be understood and be forgiven automatically, because they are family. I haven't experienced something that big against my family, but there are a few odd times that they drive me nuts!

I am sorry to hear that. So, you didn't get his side of family full bless at the time of your wedding? Shame on them. I won't never do it to my family members. Nonetheless, they are my family, and I will give my bless.

I have been let down so much that I have just learned to lower my expectations greatly or just to do things myself and avoid the disappointment that I am sure will come as a result of depending on others. I really cannot pinpoint one specific incident. I think it has all just occurred over time and so often that I just adapted my own actions and expectations. My wedding was quite small, and although my parents and brothers were there, the only members of his family that were there were one of his brothers and that brother's wife.

oh, i have and is having a lot of these from the inlaws. well, i think we all have our fair share of being let down by family members.

Oh most definately dorann, I think that family is the first to let you down. To be quite honest there are a lot of family members on both sides of the family that the hubby and I dont go around that often just because it seems like there is always something...we get along with both sides of the families but it just seems like all they ever do is complain about their problems and after so many times of hearing about them we decided that it is best if we not go around as much...the most that we both talk to the most is our parents, everyone is going through their own problems and if your problems are brought on by yourself, I do not care to hear about them and therefore I do not care to be around you...I think that is more of the let down that I have with my family than of them not being there for me or such...but yes I do believe that everyone has dealt with someone in their family letting them down at somepoint in their lives!!

Hi, There is sometimes I will feel down because of my husband. When we have little argument, I will feel very down. He just don't really understand me well and make me feel sad. SOmetimes ,when he talks, he hurt my feeling. Of course, after a while, we will patch back again. However, I hope he will understand me well and we can have long lasting relationship forever.

Oh oh oh. I'd have to say my "in laws" have let me down too. On Thanksgiving, the year of our wedding, my father in law made a toast to his 3 kids and how proud he was of them and blah blah blah . . . he made no mention of our wedding - or that I was part of the family now - that kinda hurt. I don't think he really meant anything by it except to praise his own kids, but still - I was never officially mentioned as a family member. Also my hubby's side of the family ALWAYS forgets my birthday - yet they make a big hoopla over my sister in laws birthdays or even my hubby's (they want to go out to dinner - yet they don't even say happy bday to me). And worse, they forget my daughter's birthdays - and will probably forget my son's upcoming first birthday. Eh - they've let me down in lots of ways - it sucks - but now I just expect that from them. Sigh.

I personally feel that at some point, may it be family or just acquaintance, at some point have a tendency to let us down. In my case I usually look from hind sight and no that the warning signs were there, however because of good and soft nature I find that I am always trying to find the good in people and well let us just say that I get let down many, many times. It is disheartening and well we have to learn to let some things go but always be on the fence of being cautious not to let our guard down as then we are more prepared for any future disruptions.

My family members have been letting me down countless time. It is just too many times that a lot to remember too. My parents marriage were an arranged one. They are both a heavy drinker since I was too small to remember. They fight, fight, fight, fight, and fight all the time (only when they are drunk). I never had a happy and peaceful life with them. I decided to run and live on my own on my 19th. My elder brother also have a same temper as my father. It's scary to live with them. Then my mother's family wanted me to become a teacher or a nurse, they forced me to go for an interview and so on. But deep in my heart, I wanted to be a hotelier, and I did. So they said, I'm stubborn because I didn't follow what they wanted me to do, and I do not deserve any attention at all because I seem to be capable of not listening and making my own decision. They spent not even less than 1 cent on my college, they completely ignored me. I had to work hard and study at the same time. They never call me once till I finished my college 3 years later. When I went home after that, the first question I was asked was, "so how many hotel have you built so far?". I was very very hurt. And now that I'm still living my life all alone (well also with happy relationship with my future husband), they keep calling me and ask if I could send money, everytime they know I was getting my salary. Now, I'm wondering how my wedding is going to be like next year :(

well even though you have mistakes.. as a family member, you should be understood by everyone.. but of course give them time to think.. just remember "once a family, always a family". :)

I have been let down a lot of times. Especially from the in-laws.... I had a very bad experience with my mother in law today and I am still shaken. it has gone past the point of no return. she has done it this time. It's a long story. for another time. at our wedding, it was only my husbands parents and grandfather that attended(not that they liked it). the rest just stayed away. I really know how you feel.

well 2 of my kids have let me down many times. ive helped them out of great need and problems many times and advised them how to stay out of the same trouble and financial straits and they've not listened and got right back into the same things and i cant help them any more now. so all i can do is worry about it all. and as for weddings, i didnt go to my one daughters wedding because i was terribley sick and shes never forgiven me for it. ive apologised many times and yet she still dont believe me.