People want you to stay...But do they like you or you're just needed?..
By geniusvinz
@geniusvinz (419)
Philippines
October 2, 2010 11:38pm CST
i received a text message: "sometimes when people ask us to stay, we feel important...but do they want us to stay because they like us or are we just needed?.." i could somehow relate to this text msg..most of my classmates often invite me to come to an event or or to come with them in going to places..but i know they just only invite me because i have a car..lately, i began to realize..so now, i just go with them only when i really want to and only when i also need to do something on the way..i do some cost-benefit analysis now.. :D
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5 responses
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I think the message was referring to a relationship wherein someone wants you to stay because they sort of got used to the idea that you are there. Anyway, your point is leaning more on being a leech and a blood sucker. These are opportunists. It's a good thing you're not letting them use you any longer. I have a suggestion, though. You could still go with them but you may leave your car for a change, just to teach them a lesson. ;)
@geniusvinz (419)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
haha..yeah..that's what i do frequently..whenever they ask me to go with them..i first leave the car in the house and transport by public vehicles..LOL :D
thanks for the reply lynlypiochy..
have a nice day..
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
That's great. I could relate well to how you feel but my friends are not leeches, so, it's sort of a different situation. lol have a nice day as well.
@Demodulator (236)
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3 Oct 10
I think if someone needs you he surely likes you. About your situation, it could probably be because of the car, you should go with your classmates only if you are sure you will be having a good time.
@geniusvinz (419)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
yeah..that's what i do now.. :D
'cause if i always give in, i feel like a tool.. (-.\\)
thanks for the response Demodulator..much respect..
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I would like to say that it was because they like me but sadly, I know better. There are a lot of things that cause people to be selfish. Therefore, they tend to stick around with you, for various reasons, trying to get into your good graces, so you can ask you for favors later on. There are just some people out there that use others and then when they are done, they really will not give you the time a day.
So mostly, there are a lot of people out there, that are going to be a lot of people out there that are going to try and use you for their own purposes. It is really saddening, as it can blur the lines between people who are using you and people who are being genuine. Yet, that is an unfortunately part of life and one that will not change. People are always thinking what someone can do for them.
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
3 Oct 10
Unfortunately, nowadays we live in a world where we have less to time as we need to realize so many things...people get stressed and education is replaced by our own interests. So many persons, looking after their own interests, rather prefer to think about "what should/could I do to save time?", so it's more comfortable and faster for them if they could go in a car, than by another transport. That's only one example of the actual egoism. Most people only looks for his/her own interests. Of course, that's not nice, but that's getting normal actually. So it is up to those person who lives these kind of abbuse to try to erradicate it.
@Demodulator (236)
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3 Oct 10
That's sad that most people are already living like that, only few remain that wish to help others, stress shortens your life and if you live in a big city you can't escape from it.
@vanjosh_30 (42)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
that question also its me...now im trying to ask myself, am i important or im just needed....huh! but everything is worth a try...we may never knew how valuable are we to those people but things can change....we never knew. as long as we are doing our share they can never say that we owe them much...continue going out / hanging out with them.dont be paranoid....its better to give that to receive...