Add them, or wait for them to request you?

Hi. katsmeow1213. Me and you are in the same exact situation here! I have been commenting on some of my friend's post and the other person that are friends with them too, will not add me as their friend yet. Sometimes, I think that they may not have seen my comment yet. I know that this has went on and is still going on with me too. I have said "Happy Birthday", to a friend of mines. And I would see a friend of theirs, that I know from school has made a comment too. I am usually thinking that, I know that this person saw my comment so why didn't they ask me to be their friend. My perception is this: Maybe they did not go back to look at the comment that they have made to this person. My son's bus driver is the person that I am talking about. She is friends with one of my other friends. I gave one of my friends an "Happy Birthday' comment, I was the first person to tell her Happy Birthday. And a couple of minutes later my son's bus driver gave her an "Happy Birthday' comment too. So later on that day, I checked my comment that I wrote to my friend and I saw that my son's bus driver left a comment too. But she never requested me as her friend. I was going to ask her if she feels okay with accepting me as a friend on Facebook. We have always been great associates in school. She still is very nice just a little more quieter now though. I have been waiting for others to ask me to be their friend on Facebook, but they have not done so at all. I find it very odd that they post to my friend's comments or walls, but yet they won't ask me to be their friend. I know that they have seen my comments too. I think that it is very mean to do this. And if they are not doing it on purpose, then maybe they will add me as a friend eventually. If they never do, that is alright too, because their is always someone else that is more worthy of replacing their possible friendship.

I usually just add them. Why wait for them to add me? However, there are times I wait, but not because I'm expecting them to send a request, but because I don't think they'll remember me! LOL As it is there are a couple of old classmates I found on facebook, but it was back from elementary school, so I don't know how they'll react. And with one of them, I'm not even sure if it's them as I thought their maiden name was something else...although it is pretty close. I know, I know, all I have to do is ask. I've just been overwhelmed with family life and my job search that I've kind of forgotten about it. I'll get around to it eventually...just like I did with this response. Anyway, enough about that. Did you ever add this person, or what?

I sometimes wait to add people to see if they add me first. There are people from school and stuff that I hesitated to add because in school we weren't really friends or in the same groups. I guess I worry that I'll send a request and someone will be thinking I'm stupid for thinking there is any kind of friendship there.

I usually wait....but I am not on facebook to collect friends like some people do. Those I genuinelly want to know about their lives etc I do send out a friends request. Alot of my former classmates are on there but I don't hook up with them. I guess if I wasn't close to them in high school I really am not too curious about their lives right now.

I usually wait for people to add me. There are a lot of people that I went to school with that I kind of want to see how they are doing in life, but not really enough to add me. I have also gotten requests from a lot of people I didn't ever expect from school.

I guess it is how I am feeling that day LOL...if I feel that the person would approve the request then i send them but if there is a part of me that feels maybe they wont then I dont. There are people on my friends list that I know see me respond to our mutual friends page but I still dont leave it up to them because maybe they dont see it or dont see it and connect it...i would say send him a request and if he doesnt accept it then you know but if you just sit and wait youll never know besides like I said even though you post on his wifes page and think he sees it he may not see or it or if he does he may not be connecting that it is you!!

I think it depends on whether or not you want them to see your posts. If they have seen you, I think you should just wait. Eventually,I've noticed, people just get around to it.

Mostly I hang back and wait, but sometimes I send a request...

now that sounds like a mexican stand off. no, if i see someone i know, i ask them. perhaps he is like you and figures if you wanted to be friends you would have asked also? who knows. ask his wife what his problem is in a PM.

Well,is it the ego/pride that refrain your friends husband to add or send you friend's request first? (that could be the reason) I think you had to add him first,he maybe hesitant due to that pride thing. See,you and his wife become friend first,and he only comes in the picture later. In my opinion,it should be you to add him first (your choice)

Typically I wait for people to request me as a friend as opposed to requesting to be friends with people. Of course the main reason that I do it this way is because of the fact that I'm already friends with most of the people that I was the closest to in my earlier life. That said, occassionally I will come across someone that I do want to have on my friends list and in those rare situations I will add them myself.

To me, it depends. Another thing is we use a different surname or a first name on Facebook. I have many friends on FB that their name is 100% different with their real name, so even though I can recognize them by their photo, I'm still afraid if I was wrong if I add them. But if someone doesn't add me, I don't really mind, I use a shorter first name on FB anyway. There was one guy that has exactly the same name (first and last) of my bestfriend when I was in HS. So I thought it was him and added him straight away. I found out he completely a different person when he accepted my friend request. So from than on, I just usually wait for other to add me, means ok, they still recognize me well, if not then I don't bother.

if i know them personally i will add them if not i let them request me, and family request me to.

I just add or accept someone I knew, to get secure..

Well, it depends on how was my rapport with them was in the past. If me and that person were good friends, then why not, I will go ahead and add him or her as my friend. If I had issues in the past which cannot be forgotten, then I would not add him or her. If the friendship was okie-dokie, then I will wait for the other person to add me.

not everyone uses FB the same or not FB savvy ;p, i for one don't add everyone who i know. some find it easier to connect, some don't

Well, if my friends are on facebook then a will send them a friend request rather than waiting for their request, i will not send them request only on one condition and that is if i don't like that person

I sometimes would send a request and then saying..Hi I noticed you were on FB and I sent you a request but its up to you if you want to be friends or not no pressure..then I just leave it alone..if they add me they add me if they dont then its their loss hahahaha..at least you made the offer!

I do both. I normally wait though. I don't have that many facebook friends as a result, but I don't care that much.

i just go ahead and add them. sometimes, depending on that situation, i wouldnt want his wife to get mad, but its just facebook. damn. is it a crime to be someone's friend? just send him a request, if she gets mad, oh well. yall went to school with each other for crying out loud. she'll get over it if she does happen to get mad. just send him a request.