My mom threw away my books
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
October 3, 2010 9:47pm CST
I just hate that my mom won't consult me whether I want to keep this or not. She just treat everything on her way as garbage in my room. Today, I want to clean my room myself, and threw away some of my unwanted stuff. A day earlier, my mom already work on it, and I only have a few things just want to get rid of. Tonight, I try to find a book of mine, which I remember I kept in the drawer all the time, but it was gone. I ask my mom, she said that she can't remember, and it probably in the garbage already. I just flat out mad, and I like that book so much. I don't want to argue with her, but I just want her to know that I have some stuff that I really want to save. Gosh, is that happen to you before?
2 people like this
14 responses
@m_perez (506)
• United States
4 Oct 10
Yes something similar like this has happened to me actually it has happened to me many times and it's mostly papers that are very important. Anyways have you tried talking about it to your mom. It's kind of disrespectful throwing away one's belongings even if it is your mother.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
4 Oct 10
Believe it or not. I told her million times, let me handle my stuff, and I will make my room clean. But she would rather do the job herself, and she won't trust me that I will clean my room.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 10
Hi,
Cool down and I can fully understand your
frustruation. Anyway, it has happened and the books that
you like is gone. JUst forget it and tell your mother
nicely not to touch your things again. You can tidy up
your own things and you have to make sure to tidy up
your room at least once a week.
I believe your mother does not know that book is very
priceless to you and she is not purposely want to throw
away that book too. Forgive her!! Since she has helped you
tidy up your room...don't scold her.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
4 Oct 10
I'm sorry your stuff got thrown out. She shouldn't have done that without first asking you, especially a BOOK that's kept IN A DRAWER. However, don't let your mom do the cleaning from now on. Tell her, and show her that you can be relied upon to do your own cleaning up. She'll be proud to see you getting more responsible with your own stuff, and let you do it.
@Simon1223 (903)
• China
5 Oct 10
Yeah, I face the same trouble as you. My mom often clean my room without consulting me in advance. She never throw away my books but often puts my stuffs in other places, which caused a lot of troubles. Every time when I tell her not to do that again and respect my privacy, she always says that what she did is for my sake so that I should not complain about it. I'm afraid I'm unable to change such situation.
@sheatiel (46)
• India
4 Oct 10
My mom also did like this. Now as a mom I too thrown some unwanted things in my children room. After a couple of days I realised and now I am not doing like that. Instead I ask my children to clean their room daily. They gradualy knew how to take away unwanted papers or any other thing. Some times I explin to them how to keep their room clean. So I never gave them a chance to hate me.
@johney264 (544)
• China
4 Oct 10
What can I say ? what can I do? she is mom just forgive her. Do't ask why she did this in rough.argue just make things to quarrel, between two generation somehow have gap. you could tell your father about this. hope your father can understand you give you some help. this is common to me. some thing I think is useful but for your parents maybe not use at all. but the problem can be solve only by myself remember next time put important book in a drawer with a lock, I don't think mom will smash the clock to get the book then throw away.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 10
No, my mum won't do that to my stuff. Whenever she decides to tidy up my things, she will look at them, read a bit whatsoever, but then she will keep them back safely assuming that I must still need it since I haven't thrown it away yet. I hope your mother will stop throwing your books because when we don't want it anymore, we can always donate it to the people who cannot afford one. Have a nice day :)
@yeyelee (370)
• China
4 Oct 10
You have to talk seriously with your mother, tell her that you don't want her to do such things anymore,and you'll deal with your stuff.Is your room always in a mess?So you mother do that.If so,just tidy your room frequently and put things in order.
This thing never happened in my family,but on the contray my grandpa never permit my mom and me to throw away things.Even though we've thrown some unwanted stuff,if my grandpa saw that things in the garbage,she would pick up them back.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
4 Oct 10
I hate times like this.... I had a little teddy bear from my childhood and I kept it as a memory. My mom said it was old and dirty and she threw it out without telling me. I was devastated and sad.. it is like apart of me was missing when that happened :(
@pokumon (644)
• United States
4 Oct 10
When I was younger she gave away my favorite stuffed animal. I was pretty peeved about that. She periodically gives away things of mine, but I don't mind that much because I really don't have anything of value sentimental or otherwise. And I can understand it gets crowded in the house and other people can use my things. I would speak to her about the book though if you really cared about it. Maybe just ask her to consult you before throwing anything else out. It's just common courtesy.
@angelic123 (1108)
• United States
4 Oct 10
It happened to me before but it was my brother who took away my books. He needs something to start a fire for cooking. Since I have many old books on my bookshelf he took some and burn m books! I was so mad at him but I can not say a word because he is older than me. Guess what I did? I threw all my books on the floor! Too childish. Hehe.
I told my mom why I did that and She scold my brother hehe.
Maybe you can label your things. NOT FOR THROWING!!!
@donnabuensalida (16)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Well, I myself have lots of books. And my mom's kind of the same with your mom. Throwing things out without asking permission. But through that, I learned a lesson. And that is I should keep my room clean enough so that she won;t clean it herself. That's when she stopped throwing out my things because she sees that I can manage on my own. If she still throw things out even if you clean up yourself then you shou confront her but not harshly so you two won't get into a fight or something.
I hope this helps. =)
