Opinion on friends

China
October 3, 2010 10:57pm CST
In your eyes , Which is more important to you between friends and lover? Would you mind sharing it to us?
9 responses
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I would have to say friends, but a lover could be as important. I know who my true friends are and I know that they are the ones who are not going to leave me that's why I consider them more important. In the case of a lover, there is always that chance that you are going to breakup and be separated. The best and worst thing a person could have is having a true friend become one's lover.
• China
4 Oct 10
Thanks Hey!friends can cheat you or betray you too,cause i had experienced that. But the upset is that when lover cheat me or betray me ,i will get more angry than friends did. From that i know , may be lover is more important to me . But i will also cherish the real friendship.
• China
5 Oct 10
but lover can be also referred as true love..
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Yeah, friends can cheat, betray and hurt you somehow but what I am referring to as the real and true ones.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hi michell my friends are important to me, they have been part of my life, part of who i am now, they adds life and fun in my life from then till now, i have shared a lot of good things as well as bad things with them. i only have few true friends and i treasure them but my husband is more important. He's the one that i choose to spend my whole life with, a man that i believe God sent me, the answer to my prayers. he's also a friend to me, actually a bestfriend next to my mom. My love for him is very much different from my love to my friends, my husband and i are already one and so i love him like i love my life.
• China
4 Oct 10
Thanks i quite agree with you,both of them are important to me ,and husband is also a special friend to me ,but sometime differnt to friend ,such as , we could only having a baby with my husband but can ont with a friend.. The same is that we should try our best to cherish them,they are the gifts from the God.Do you agree me?
• China
4 Oct 10
By the way , i want to mention is that my name is michelle ,the "michell"is a mistake made by myself when i signed up as a member of Mylot
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hello michell! well,in my opinion both of them are important. a friend and at the same time lover, can also be with a single person as long as you know how to view it and handle it in a relationship in different ways. it is nice to have both of them in a relationship, you start to be friends and ended up as lovers, yet your relationship as friends still there. you have a friend for a shoulder to cry on and a lover that you will live your life forever. :)
• China
4 Oct 10
Thanks Friend & lover can exist in the same time . lover can be also a friend,but differnce is that we do everything with friend ,such as having a baby.. Anyway ,they should be chrish as a treasure in ou life.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Hmm... if i can have it both why not? hehehe.. friends and lovers are very important to us. It makes our life more worthwhile.. We need friends for us to feel happier and supports us in everything we do. Lovers? of course.. our everyday seems so special.. we`re smiling bec. of that person. ^.^ But to answer your question, hmm.. you can change your lover anytime you want to, but friends? a big no! they`re IRREPLACEABLE. agree?? ^.^
• China
4 Oct 10
Thanks you said that lover can be changed ,friends also can be. After getting along with them ,you may found some friends may differnt sense of worth,outlook on life,ect.. then you two may begin share no common topic,and after than your friendship maybe fade out.. But when your boyfriends broke out with you,you may became grieved than split chums with friends..So you must think that lover is more important than friends.
• India
4 Oct 10
friends may share their every emotions except physical intimacy but lovers do/may involve in physical intimacy too apart from sharing emotions and hence a lover becomes a more complete & fulfilling relationship compared to friendship. However both these relationships are vital for ones allround growth and maturity.
• China
4 Oct 10
Thank you.. Yes,,i agree that friends may share their every emotions except physucal intimacy,besides that i think,once the lover becomes your own loved one,which like your parents, you may share more with you lover compaired wit you friends.Everythings important you may tell you lover first,that's the one you always share the joys and sorrows with. And , there is no doubt that both relationship should have ,and also important in our life.we should treasure it.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Well, friends are not so intimate as lovers, so a lover has some degree of a more deep relationship than friends. But then, if a lover fails to love you and would leave you, whom do you go for comfort? That's right.. Friends.. That is, if a lover would leave you..
• China
4 Oct 10
Thanks yes..if the love was gone , lover became nothing.it will be worse than became a friend ,right? but we don't know what will happen next when you fell in love ,and also friendship,when you built up a kind of friendship ,youo don;t know what will take place. So let's just cherish both of these relationship.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 10
Friend is everything .. with friends, we can share happiness and sadness, even about love. The relationship of friendship can to ending but still can be tied back because the friendship it will always exist as long as we appreciate the meaning of a friend.
• China
4 Oct 10
Thank you for your views. i also agree with you , Friendship is better than everything else,it can last long if we cherish it. But i think not everyone can be taken as a friend. Since i experienced the fake friendship,the betraying of friend, i began to doubt wether the true friends exist in my life or not.so raise this discussion
• India
4 Oct 10
Well they are both important to me. I would always go with friend though. I don't know why because i think i can trust them more than i can trust a lover. That's not if the love is based on trust and we have the faith that it would work out perfectly. Cheers!
• China
4 Oct 10
thanks! It's quite funny that ,i share the opposite opinion to you.that's i think i can trust my lover than trust a friend. may be it's beacuse i love my boyfriend deeply,no matter what he had done , i will trust him.haha.. Hope you also have perfect balance between it ~
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 10
They are both important to me, and to me they are both a different people in my life too. My lover would be very important in some aspect of my life where my friends cannot be. But my lover can be everything what my friends can be in my life :)
• China
4 Oct 10
Thank you for responding me. Lover maybe the one who accompany me throughout my life ,no matter how difficult my life is ,or no matter what will happen in my life.That some aspects friend would not experienced with us. Both of them have the Positive &negetive side in life. I suffered two experiences which make me upset, First one is friend betray me in a time,and the formal boyfriend abandon me. i can not understand that at all . so i raise this discussion.