Marry just for the sake of your parents?

hi! There are so many reason to marry a person. Nowadays, most younger generation would get married due to the girl is already pregnant. Though she is already pregnant, I don't believe that marriage is the best answer to solve the problem. They would just end up realizing that they were wrong in the long run since they are still young to face responsibilities of a parent for they themselves are still a child that need the care of their parents. This is the worst reason to marry someone. Marrying someone for the sake of the child. Have a nice day!

You should not marry someone just for the sake of your parents. Marriage is a commitment to someone for the future. It is a bond and a union of love and trust. You should want this marriage for yourself. There must be love in the relationship. If this not something you truly want, it is not something you should consider under any circumstances.

well i think most of this could be of cultural background.the Chineses, Indians... even other Asian countries do have this part of their culture right. sometimes we as children have the tendency to just follow our parents out of respect, knowing they only want what is best for us... but well... I have asked an Indian friend about this before and she said it is not forced by their parents.. if the meeting did not work out, they would again go and look for other to match with their daughters or sons... so the parents would just be a vessel for them meet... For us Chinese, there are like that too.. hehe actually most are introduced by both parents and well women are forced to marry because of their fathers. hmm im glad my mom right now is not the type to dictate my life.

There should be no worst reason to marry. It should get married for good reason. If married to a bad reason, certainly would be a bad marriage.

There may be some other reasons except the ones mentioned by other people, it is that if a boy or girl like someone but their parents doesnt agree so they marry with the person of their parents wish and them take divorce by any trick and marry with their lover

There may be some other reasons except the ones mentioned by other people, it is that if a boy or girl like someone but their parents doesnt agree so they marry with the person of their parents wish and them take divorce by any trick and marry with their lover

because age.... in my country, a female should had married when she 30 or 35. or else, she would be a great gossip for her neighborhood

I think the worst is marrying to escape poverty even though the groom is quite too old and love is no longer a question.

I think the worst case is that when two partners is broken down...

I certainly disagree the fact that marrying to a certain guy because of the parents' request or because of unwanted pregnancy or desperation. First and foremost, marriage is a sacred matrimony. It must be done because two people are ready to become one and they are both in love to each other and as well as they are mature enough to take the responsibilities. Secondly, marriage is not like a dress that when it gets dirty, you can just take it off and take a new one. For me, marrying someone because of money gain is one of the worst reasons for someone to do. But it shocked me when you said that arranged marriage is also done in India. Because as far as I know, that is practiced by the Chinese.

I agree with your thoughts. One should never marry only for the sake of parents. One should be matured enough to understand the meaning of marriage. But again there are several reasons why parents want their children to get married soon. Usually after marriage a person becomes responsible. And one more fact I know about advantage of early marriage is that when we marry early, we have kids early. And later, before we grow so old that we cannot work anymore our children are set and they start earning. Think about this.

Hi krupesh: I think marriage in some culture is just for convenience. Some still practice that. For most liberated persons, they find it contrary to their principles especially if the partner turns out to be the opposite of their expectations of what a human being should be. For some, such marriages end up in divorce. Others put up a front just for convenience's sake. I say one should marry based on love and commitment. Other than that, its one sure way to nowhere. There's nothing more worse than marrying a person for anything else.

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You got married because you were in Vegas and that's what almost everybody does - well, that's what you think.

I agree with you one should not get married for the sake of one's parents but I understand in India most marriages are arranged by the parents. Supposedly the parents know their children and know the suitability of the prospective partner. I have read statistics that arranged marriages do not break up more often than love marriages but I ask myself is this the case because the women have now means of supporting themselves and no economic freedom therefore they have no choice but to stay in the marriage. Another bad reason to get married is because it is "expecte". I know of a young couple who were dating for 4 years and when the relationship was already winding down they got married. The marriage lasted 2 years. I asked the woman why she got married when the situation was already cold and she told me that everybody expected it. I also think a bad reason to marry is solely to keep the wealth and property in the family. I understand that in some countries it is perfectly acceptable to marry a first cousin from the mother's side but not from the father's side. This is totally insane since the degree of relatedness is the same. A first cousin is a first cousin no matter from which side. One should not marry close relatives since genetic faults are passed on much more easily. I have also read that in some countries in rural areas old uncles marry thei under age nieces. I think this is sick and child abuse. You mention that unwanted pregnancies are also a bad reason to get married. That is so very true.

To get married period is the worse decision I could ever make! But If I Had to , I would do it because of family obligations. I think it is the Only Real reason to get married.An unwanted pregnancy Can be taken care of. I'm living proof you can have love Without marriage but if it is very important to the family I marry, I would. I Know I wouldn't be happy but then again I would never think my happiness and marriage would ever mix!But if my family needed this match , I'd do it.

I think that whenever the love is not there people should not get married no matter how much other people may want it. I appreciate it is difficult in certain cultures where arranged marriages are the norm. Marrying because of an unplanned pregnancy will not necessarily make the coming baby any more secure if his or her parents are unhappy. Real love should be the only reason to wed and that sometimes is not enough!

I think that to get married for the sake of your parents is the worst reason to get married. I honestly can't think of a reason that is worse than that. For me, I got married not because of a pregnancy, my daughter was actually 19 months old when we got married and not because someone wanted us to. We got married because we loved each other then and now that we are six years later we still love each other.

Culture vary from region to region, especially in the order of marriage custom. God be the Glory, India is cited as one of the many examples of marriage. Elsewhere, in Nigeria, the Fulanis get husbands and wives at birth. Once a babe is born, whether male or female, the parents look 'inward', that is, among their ancestral geneology and make a spousal arrangements for their new borns. Another group the Tiv people of Nigeria negotiated their children's spouses amongst parents without the consent of these children, that was then anyway. All the same, I believe at that time or that generation marriage by representation/parents was the best, hence no parent can give their child stone and call it bread. They sought out for well behaved parents and well disciplined would-be couples. Totday we claim marriage by representation is not the best. YES, it is not the best but let us be prudent in our searches for would-be couples. Let us avoid cases whereby sooner than later we would end up in broken homes. SamShima.

I agree with you. On the other hand, these practices are done by this group of people since ages. That is culture. It also happens in other countries, parents or grandparent are the one who will choose who will be their son's/daughter's partner for life. They usually consider the financial aspect and status in life. I am happy that in my country, people have the right to choose who they want to marry and I guess that is how it should be. Love is very important in marriage and only you know where to go to be happy.