women remaining single forever
By cherrypundit
@cherrypundit (59)
India
October 4, 2010 6:31am CST
My superior is willingly single women...about to superanuate in couple of years...a very smart, intelligent,beautiful,modest and career oriented lady...never seen out of corporate behaviour....but now close observations reveal irritation , mild outbursts and a different kind of sadness in eyes and her behaviour...no body understands this change...weather its fear of lonliness...repentance over remaining single or some other emotios..reasons...cant figure out..can anybodyelse.
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7 responses
@bev_arch_20 (842)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Being married does not bring total happiness. There are hundreds of couple out there who are not happy despite having each other. Thus being single does not mean you will be lonely the rest of your life. I know single people who are successful and is even more happy and contented with their life being single. Happiness is a choice, single or not. There could have been a lot of factors why your superior is feeling the outburst, which we don’t know; we might just tend to correlate such things with her being single.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
In most case Singleness will not make a person at the right age to marry to be completely happy. Of course there are exceptions and those are the people who chose to have single blessedness all their life in favor of serving the Lord. Just like the example of Apostle Paul. But normally, everyone wants to have a partner in life and have a family. Now those women who are at the peak of their career and remaining single despite their good looks and success will always hold a vacuum within their life hence resulting into some kind of loneliness and unhappiness. In my opinion, those who don't live a happy life are the ones who are easily affected by circumstances, either they get too sensitive, hot-tempered, easily discouraged so that they burst (mildly or wildly) in some circumstances that are not that worst and could actually be taken lightly.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
I think we all go through the outbursts regardless if we do have a partner or not. It's human nature that we don't get everything we want and things won't always go the way you planned or wanted it to be. Perhaps that is also the case for her, and most of us would just blame it on her being single that is why she has those outbursts.
There are people who are better off living as a single person. Some though are forced to that type of circumstance because of either their doing or not.
I know of a family friend, a man this time, who has always been surrounded with women. He doesn't look very good but it's really amazing how women would flock over him. They'd visit him often at home and soon get frustrated because he won't do anything to show or prove that he has feelings for the women. He isn't gay though. He is an artist and an architect. He has been single all his life and till this date there's no one else in his life than his work.
I guess there are really people who just remain single forever.
As for the mood swings, it's common to everyone. It's just that when you're married with kids, you tend to have to suck it in because you have to worry about other people in the family. As for being single, you would not really care what other people would say because you're used to doing what you want and how you want it. There are just times when we can't hold on to ourselves when something truly upsets us.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 Nov 10
I think that we are no one to comment on her personnal life but we can this behaviour of women to live single is getting increased, so a cause to for a boy or a guy like me.
Do you if she is living with her parents or living outside her hometown all alone? Actually, being a human all I understand is that people becomes less patient or irritatting only because they do not have anyone in their life. I am also in such kind of situation, I am also alone and there is no one to talk to with me, so sometimes my coworkers say that i m becoming arrogant each and every day.
As for that lady, you know lasies are always mysterious!
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
A pleasant day to you Cherrypundit,
With regard to your query, for me there are a lot of reason in this world that we truly cannot explain. One of these instance is, as to why there were woman who remains single and as to why there were woman who choose to be single.
There are times, woman choose to be single due to the responsibility that being tasked to them. Those woman are sometimes the eldest or the bread winner of the family. Since she needs to be strong and needs to earn that much for her family, that times passes by without noticing that her own life was being affected. And that, her own life as an individual was not developed because she put aside it and put into priority her family.
Regarding those woman who cannot explain as to why they were still single, perhaps, they are not yet ready and not matured enough to raise a family. Or maybe, they are quite afraid to raise the family that they are wanting.
With the above, the best thing to do is to respect each and every decision of anybody. Since, if the man or a woman remain to be single, maybe, he or she has a better life being one. And there are better things instore for being a single. Furthermore, being single does not mean you want to be lonely. Along with this, for sure, God has a wonderful plan for them, since, they are called for being a single blessedness.
Have a nice day to you Cherrypundit.
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@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
i think as i read to your observations, that she was quite having some depressions of her being alone. possibly, she has this longingness that other people cannot see or fathom. it would be best to cheer her up, invite her to parties and chitchats and a nice couple of talks you know!
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@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
4 Oct 10
Hello,
Let me first tell you that being in 'double' or 'triple' or even in 'quadruple' doesn't ensure happiness and peace. One shouldn't choose to remain single unless one has strongest reasons for doing so. Sometimes people who have a very definite objective decides to stay single. Sometimes they are just overconfident. They overestimate their mental power so, in the long run, this decision looks like a big mistake. Marriage is a decision that may entirely change your life. So one needs to take the right decision as early as possible. Thanks.
God bless you.
@cherrypundit (59)
• India
5 Oct 10
Hi..getbiswa2000
With all due respect to all single women i agree that being single
or multiple does not ensure happiness...but it certainly brings
about social & mentalsecurities...and i think that becomes vital for
ensuring a healthy & happy mental conditioning for every human being
...specially for those women, who in whatever circumstances
....in their youth..have decided to remain single.
I am not trying to work out the situations responsible for their
decisions instead i want to discuss emotional journey afterwards.
The applauds and respect to their decision may not reduce their
sadness and insecurities....coz in the very youth one remains impulsive
immature enough to forsee...upheavels...the pain and pleasures of life ahead.
When life begins appearing taller than expected...u feel scared...
all alone...no body to blame for...then emotions brew sadness...
writ behind the wrinkles...transpiring thru lonly eyes.we all must feel proud
on them...they have carried so far....the journey is still on and on and on...
Take care and have a nice day...Bye.
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