are you afraid of cheat in your relationship?^^

love problems^^ - cute love story^^
Portugal
October 4, 2010 2:25pm CST
hi guys^^ are you afraid of cheat in your relationship and end up losing your bf/gf by a stupid mistake?^^ about me im not bcs i live only for my bf^^ he is everything i want^^ and i dont want any other guy. i know he is only one that can completes me^^ he is my love^^ now and forever^^ i love him more than everything^^ he is my baby^^ what about you guys?^^ are you afraid?^^ please share^^
10 responses
@turist1 (175)
• Bulgaria
5 Oct 10
For me - I don't cheat and I'm not afraid of me cheating. When I'm in a relationship I stay faithful to my guy and I try to make the ralationship a working one. If it doesn't work out, we say goodbye (like with my previous boyfriend)! So don't be afraid.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
is great to know that you respect your bf and dont cheat on him^^ im sorry that your relation didnt work with your ex. did he cheat on you? im sorry if he did :( anyway if he did he was the one losing and not you^^ is hard to find faithful people nowadays so if he wasted you is his loss^^ i wish you be too happy with your actual bf and that he doesnt cheat and respect and love you muchy^^ yes im not afraid bcs i love my bf^^ and if someday i stopped to i would tell him^^
@turist1 (175)
• Bulgaria
6 Oct 10
My ex didn't cheat on me. He was just lying al the time ( where he was, when, with whom eg.). So after a big fight I got fed up and we broke up. Few weeks after that he contacted me again saying he wants to start again, that he's change and he'll never lie to me again... I give him a chance and 3 days later he blew it( my home town is small and see and hear a lot of things). Never gave him third chance, person like that don't deserve it.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Yes, im afraid to cheat with my wife. I'm afraid of losing her trust and love to me. And it's not the right thing to do. Like you, she my everything.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
yes^^ im happy that you are afraid to lose her trust and love^^ and that she is your everything^^ just means that you really love her so much^^ dont worry if you love her you wont cheat on her bcs heart always speaks louder than any temptation that appears^^ so you wont hurt her^^ i just wish she loves you so much like you love her too^^ be happy with her^^
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
Yes, I love her so much and I know she feel the same way too.
• United States
4 Oct 10
While I am not truly worried about it happening, with either one of us, I cannot completely rule it out as a possibility. I have considered it happening. I don't know what I would do if he cheated, even after trying to think about it. It's just so hard to know how you will feel or react to cheating until it happens to you in that particular relationship. And, yes, I have worried about my own self cheating. When he and I first got together, I still had feelings for someone else. I told my boyfriend that right away, and he said he understood-- but I was really afraid of how I would act when/if I saw the other guy again. Sometimes I still think about him. I want to be with my boyfriend-- he is right for me, and I feel complete when I am with him. I would not want to do anything to mess this up, and I know my boyfriend feels the same way. Still, realistically, we do not know what will happen in life. Thinking there is no possibility of it ever happening can be naive. Promising yourself to not let it happen is different, and I do know that no matter what temptations there may be in life, that we are both determined to work through them and to have a wonderful relationship together.
• United States
4 Oct 10
I just want to add that, while I think it is realistic to know that there will be temptations in life, that there is nothing and no one that could make it worth it to me to lose my boyfriend. I really and truly want him in my life. Sorry, but I didn't emphasize that strongly enough before. I do not think cheating is okay, and it is definitely not an inevitable factor in a relationship. The temptations will be there, but it is up to the person to avoid those. Had to add that because I didn't want to seem so dismissive of the idea of cheating!
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
is ok^^ you are free to add anything^^ im happy you were honest with your bf and said that you still loved your ex and he understood that^^ that means he really loves you so much^^ also yes is normal that if you saw your ex still loving him something could happen if he tried something with you. but im happy that you are working in your relation with your bf and wont cheat on each other^^ temptations are everywhere but if we really love we wont cheat^^ bcs heart always speaks louder^^
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Yes I'm afraid to cheat. I believe that cheating is not acceptable. If some one truly cared about there partner, then they wouldn't even think about cheating. People say guys are more likely to be the ones that cheat, but I believe that both men/women are likely to cheat. Some cheat because of insecurity, and some cheat just to cheat.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
yes cheating is not acceptable^^ if you dont love the person you must say it instead of be with someone else and hurt someone that loves you. and is true if someone really love their lover they wont cheat at all^^ bcs in true love you dont need noone else to make you feel happy bcs you are already^^ some cheat bcs insecurity and others just bcs dont take relations serious is true^^ both women and men do that not only guys^^
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 10
To me, whether one day I will separate with my bf, or he decided to cheat on me, or his love for me become less, whatever is going to happen in the future...I will still dislike the idea of cheating. That is also the only truest way I can go to show him that he's very important to me and that I really care for him from the bottom of my heart. If one day he decides to separate from me then I will let him go but keep him proud of me at the same time that I never go against the relationship and never cheated on him with someone else. Because if someday someone else do that to him, it will makes him see my value even just as a friend.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
thats too sweet^^ im happy that you respect and love him so much and wont cheat on him^^ and if ever he let you go is like you say if someone cheated on him he would remember that you never did that to him^^ is so cute that you really love him and wouldnt hurt him^^ dont worry im sure he wont let you bcs you care and love him truly so he has no reason to want someone else^^
• India
5 Oct 10
Well not exactly ya but if something happens like that I will almost die because I trust her more than anyone in this world...
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
it wont happen^^ is sweet that you say you will almost die it it happened that shows you really love her too much but for what you told me before she loves you so much so for sure she wont cheat on you^^ so continue trusting her^^ also i wish that you dont cheat on her^^ noone deserves to be cheated on. everyone deserves honesty^^ so keep her well^^ and dont hurt her^^
@ynahh1 (454)
5 Oct 10
I am afraid to cheat because i always believe in karma,for some reason people committed it but i don't judge them...If ever my husband cheated me,i don't want to know this anymore because i will be hurt...We can never be happy in cheating and its a big mistakes.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
yes we must not judge others^^ and yes if your hubby cheated is normal that you couldnt trust him anymore even if you forgave him^^ you would be hurt and would be hard to believe that he wouldnt do that again^^ and yes cheat is a big mistake that can destroy a relationship completely. and we can find someone that will love us and dont cheat so why be with someone that might do that again? i understand you^^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
4 Oct 10
I guess everyone is afraid of getting cheated, especially when you love the other person and you want sometinh seroius with him/her. the key is to always find new ways to keep you partener interested
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
not being cheated but afraid of you cheat on him^^ thats what i meant^^ sure we must always find ways to make our bf be interested on us and care and love much so he wont look to others^^ anyway im sure you would never cheat on your ex bcs you loved and still love him so if were still with him you wouldnt cheat on him at all^^ but you really need to solve your heart^^
• Greece
4 Oct 10
I believe that people cheat for a number of reasons I can't control so sometimes I'm afraid I might get cheated on. But I try not to have negative thoughts and instead concentrate on how I can make my relationship better.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
i understand you^^ bcs sometimes you cant control yourself you are afraid your bf cheats on you^^ anyway it wont happen if he really loves you^^ and you must concentrate in make it better is right^^ care and love him too much^^ anyway you cheated on him already? i wish not but if you did dont cheat again^^ or he might get too hurt and noone deserves ^^
• India
4 Oct 10
Hmm i cant say i am afraid of Cheat but yeah i am afraid of losing my gf.sometimes i feel she is gonna leave me one day.but its good bcz after that i start loving her more and more and i make sure that she is only mine :) afterall its all about trust. and always remember one thing..never be possesive in relationship,it creates a big issue,always try to give your bf little space.I hope you already do that.
• Portugal
5 Oct 10
i meant afraid of you cheat on her^^ not her cheat on you^^ im happy that you trust her^^ and is good that you love your gf so so much^^ thats too sweet^^ im not possessive about him^^ he has a lot of space actually^^ we live far away so we almost dont talk much :( is sad but is the reality. i just wish he had more time for me and not always things getting in our way.