There's no way to make others understand your point of view...sometimes...

i know what you mean my whole family is like that, they never even listen to me when i talk to them then they act like i'm dumb and yell at me when i'm right. it kills me

We are at the same situation,sometimes I keep on explaining things to him but he don't understand me that cause misunderstanding to us.Being a wife i understand his situation but its always routinize.how i wish he will appreciate my effort.All I wanted for him is to understand me..

Of course the reason matters. How would you react if someone broke up with you for no reason? Wouldn't it unsettle you at least?

im sorry to hear bout that... but yknkow what, men dont usually want to talk.. they just want to be understood.. try not to talk to much. then he will be the one to talk to u whenever he wants. :)

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by he always has to have the reason. If you mean he always has to have a reason for why your arguing with him I believe he is entitled to know. Its not fair to make him defend himself in an argument with you without knowing why. Though if you mean when you argue he always wants a reasonable solution that suits you and suits him this is a bit silly as when two people argue its very rare the outcome will please both people. A relationship is all about give and take on both sides. If your having an argument with your boyfriend and the outcome of the argument is more important to you than it is to your boyfriend then your boyfriend should concede and do as you want to do, as in let you win the argument. Likewise if the outcome is more important to your boyfriend you should let him win. As I said relationships are all about give and take and if a couple can't do this in their relationship the relationship will eventually fail. I hope this answer helps you find what you are looking for. If I misunderstood the question you were asking please try to explain it again and I will do my best to advice you. Take care of yourself NClaudio, I hope your relationship works out for the best.

I'm sorry you're having a difficult time. Sometimes it helps to understand the differences in how men and women communicate, that can go a long way in understanding each other's point of view.