Why do people judge you before knowing you??

People who make flash judgments are more concerned with themselves than with other people.

How do you know if they are judging you as a bad person? Are you judging that they are judging that way? Well, unless they specifically told you that they think you are a bad person, you never know what they're really thinking. Maybe they don't like the character on your shirt because it reminds them of a traumatic event? They're probably just don't know how to deal with you or they don't feel like it not personally to you, but for their own personal reasons.

It is natural for people to judge. Every human judges people for various reasons, and some of those reasons can be fear, hurt, frustration with others, the loss of someone, they were trained how to judge others, they were told that certain things and certain people were bad, they were told what is right and what is wrong... there are many reasons for judging people.

It's a kind of defense mechanism, i guess. People readily judge you so they won't be disappointed when they start to talk to you. This is mostly wrong. You have to clean your judgement towards other people for you to better understand and know the person.

That's human nature I guess. We first look at the appearance and make first impressions of people. But for me, I usually get to know them better before making assumptions because I myself don't want to be judged like that so easily.

I think that it is absurd as well. But the sad reality, is that when we first come into contact with someone else we judge them self-consciously. That's just the way that the human mind works. We've even did it as little kids, but the only difference now is that since we're older we are not willing to approach others because we're scared of their differences. I know that i personally feel more comfortable in a room of people i can relate to in some way. It's not a prejudiced or a biased thing. It's just that, that is my comfort zone. It's what i have come to associate myself with on a regular basis. This is probably one of the reasons we don't like to give a speech in front of other people. If they were our friends, we would feel comfortable because we are with them all the time and we have a certain way of reacting to each other. But because they are not, we automatically assume they are judging us and what ever is about to leave our mouths is condemned from the start.

That's where education plays an important role. The more exposed we become to different peoples of various races, mindsets, faiths, etc. we increasingly become aware of the fact there is something common that runs through all of us, our various personalities notwithstanding. Call it spirit, call it human values, or whatever, if we can communicate with each other from that common base, connect with each other through that common vein, which flows the panacea to all the complexities arising out of our individual and social differences, we could lay a solid foundation that could hold our building together in spite of all the contrasting ingredients that constitute it.

Sure it's crazy but we're all guilty of doing it. You just have to remind yourself that just because you think something about someone upon first seeing them doesn't make it true.

Its easier to put people into categories. And we do at the first go - that way we build impressions about something we don't know and our mind feels safer. :)

We often make the mistake of judging people before we know them. it is just human nature. We place people in certain categories in life. We think we know what kind of person that people are just by their appearance or their actions. it isn't the right thing to do, but we do it.

Prejudice. You would obviously notice something that completely different from everything else. Its like being a room filled with people wearing a white t-shirt while there's that other guy who wears a black t-shirt. People can't help to not notice that.

yeah you're right its crazy to judge someone before we knowing her/him but sometimes people see someone from her/him style or everything that this people think it is annoying for this people so every person is different i think :)

well i simply say its human nature. though sometimes you dont want to judge someone but you still have the tendency to do so because its what you see and observed from other people and you cant help not to comment and sometimes your unaware that your judging that person already

I try very hard not to judge people. Thats like everyone in the world saying their normal. WHat is normal. I look at people from the inside. I look at how they treat other with kindness and respect. How can u get respect if u first don't give it. Poeple could be walking down the street and see a girl in a short skirt. what do they think shes a she must wont some. Might not be the case at all. Maybe she thinks she looks nice in the skirt. A guy wearing a pink shirt. Oh he must be gay. Maybe, maybe not he is surcure in is masalinate. and just might think he looks good in pink. People are beautiful creator inside and out. Some chose to be ugly by doing bad things. Other are kind hearted spirits. Who only need the chance for people to see that there just like you and I.

Mostly they look to outside appearance of a person of how they carry their dress and themselves. Like how they speak and gestures. Many things that people to see outside appearance that easily for them to judge a person without knowing them inside. By judging them through how the people looks sometimes we get wronged or sometimes it leads to right judgment. Even we had already our conclusions we need to know them well before the final judgment.

It's not good to judge anyone,we are not perfect too. But,that is tantamount that people really judge the other,intentionally or not. What matters is,don't let your judgement stopped there. Allow the person to show who he/she is,listen and observe. Some people judge someone and that conclusion remains forever without giving that person a chance to prove his/her personality. Don't let your impression lasts forever.

What you said is absolutely right, because a person cannot be known completely just by his dress or by his way of communication or something else initially itself. It takes time for any person to correctly analyze others. But many have this nature which they feel great sometimes, and that is judging people, the funny thing here is those who go on judge others, saying he is good, he is bad, she is good, they don't judge themselves. And they don't even agree to your point if you do the same thing. Only thing we have to do with such people is not to argue much and try to stay away from such people as much as possible.

I think that for some people... it is a natural instinct to judge people right when they meet them. They say first impressions are everything. However, I feel that only God can judge people. Yes, I may formulate an opinion of you after some time.. but everyone is always "innocent until proven guilty" in my book. I notice that some people.. will not befriend someone else because their friends/family hate that person or are not friends with that person. That has never stopped me from getting to know that particular person if we became cool like that. That is wrong. Because, after all, would you want someone judging you based on things that they heard about you from others that may've not been true?? I think not!! People today lack compassion for other people as well... Only God can judge ME!!

I don't think that's already called judging. I mean, we all have preconceived notions about people based on their appearance it's automatic, it's human nature, and it's very logical. The first thing we see in people is their appearance. We have our own tastes and aesthetics, and we apply them to everyone that we meet or we see. Their appearance could pass your taste, or it could irritate you. But it doesn't mean that you're already judging them. You obviously have issues. Not to brag or anything, but I have never really gotten a bad impression from people because of my appearance. But even if I have, I really don't care what they think of me. They really don't know me, and I really don't know them. So even if they say stuff about me, I just shrug them off and I laugh because it's kind of amusing how one would say his/her own speculations about you even though they're really clueless who you really are. I think you should remember that small minds talk about people. So just don't mind them.

They say "first impression last"but most of us judge the person based on what we see not knowing them properly.i think that was just an initial reaction for a person especially when the person looks differ or behave in different accordance.I admit to my self that i used to judge a person but i never make ant insult to them.Somehow its a part of human nature.yeah your right even were not intentionally hurting them on simple judgment they hurt.