Was love better back in the day??
By hoodblock86
@hoodblock86 (84)
United States
October 4, 2010 9:09pm CST
I think to love back in the day was way better than it is right now because if you notice the relationship lasted alot longer.Now you with someone one day then the next they history.I feel as tho relationships now have no value what do you think?
4 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
5 Oct 10
I absolutely disagree. Relationships lasted longer because women had no options and nowhere to go. They had to get a husband to support them because they had very few career options and once they were married with children, they were stuck there. Cheating and any other relationship problem was just as common then as it is now, women just had no option to leave a bad situation.
I think a relationship that goes bad and breaks up is FAR better than staying in a bad relationship just to keep up appearances.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
5 Oct 10
I'm sorry, but I absolutely do not agree at all. I don't see anything hopeful or positive about being trapped in an unhappy relationship due to culture and circumstance, nor do I believe at all that people then had any better outlook on relationships than people now.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Oct 10
Hi GloomCookieLex:
You have to understand that some people see the past in a somewhat rosier color than today. That's what's John Lennon's "Yesterday" is all about. "The Good Old Days," "Those Were the Days." Ever wonder why they do that?
So you don't believe that people had better outlook yesterday than today? In your own way you're right.
But think of those who see the past in a positive manner even though we know too well there's nothing good while we were there. The past fifty years of my life has been a series of horrible situations, in love, in financial matters, in just about any worse case scenario you can think of. But in retrospect, I always see the beautiful faces of the people who betrayed me, their lying smiles, their "love." The pain and hunger is always forgotten as the years unfold before my very eyes and as I see only what is good and beautiful in them.
Give yourself a break. It is always a great chance to be smiling about the Good Old Days and the Good Old Folks way back then.
You may have escaped that relationship trap but there's no escaping being trapped in the past.
@hoodblock86 (84)
• United States
5 Oct 10
OK!OK! I see what you mean GloomCookieLex but that wasnt in all cases.I do admit that most often then not that that was the case but not always. Back in the day there was atleast alittle hope that something was going to come of it even if it did fell but now you go into something thinking that its going to fell you see what im getting at.So im not saying that you dont have a point but know that i have a few good points myself.
Thanks for commenting!!
@onlywan (182)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
I think it lasted longer back in the day because there was no internet, expensive long distance calls, no SMS messages, no chat, email, social networking sites, that is why people doesn't have the luxury of meeting a lot of people that is why they stick to one another. And courting lasts longer.
@hoodblock86 (84)
• United States
5 Oct 10
Lmao! this is true,everytime you turn around someone meeting up on them up on the chat line or or phone networking programs or something like that.They dont even have to leave the house anymore to find someone. I did it the old fashion way and when out found that special someone that i wanted and got her all i can do now is hope that it last.
Thanks for commenting!!
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
5 Oct 10
Love back in the day was stronger because those people had deeper morals and stronger values. They were taught to love and to love hard. There was not really much desire to play games with people's hearts like there is today. Also, people were more real back then. They didn't sugarcoat or hide things as much... they were pretty much upfront. I can agree with what you said to a certain extent. Some people just aren't meant to be. Others damage their relationships with unnecessary conflict. I have had relationships in the past where we were close one day and hated each other by the end of the relationship... but I took the time to learn and grow from that to be able to know today that we weren't keeping it real with each other. In my marriage, I feel that my love is stronger than ever... as I am being tested with trials and tribulations that I shouldn't even be experiencing. So, just as when you are going through something and God is testing your faith... I feel like God is testing my ability to love right now. I am in love with you.. more today than I ever have been before.. why?? Because we've been through so much and I recognized you years ago as the love of my life. Let me ask YOU this Mr. Callands, do YOU feel as if our marriage has no value??
@hoodblock86 (84)
• United States
5 Oct 10
I feel like the way i love is like the way they loved back in the day because now its not that easy to drop one thing off on the curb and bring something in to replace what use to be called your one true love.I feel that you only find one true love in a life time and sometimes it takes that long to find it so once you find it then you should try to hold on to it.I wasnt one to believe in love at first site and stuff like that but when i seen you for the first time then i had to change that view on things because that is what happened to me.Even tho our marriage aint been the very best that i know that it could be its still good enough for me LALA but we still got along way to go if you know what i mean. Vague is not a issue in our marriage its more or less about doing the right things yanno.
Thanks for commenting!!
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
5 Oct 10
That was beautiful... and the nicest thing that you've said to me in a long time. And, I respect that so much. I could not agree more...
Love you.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Oct 10
Hi hoodblock:
I have to read your lines twice to get what you are trying to say. I understand "Love is better yesterday than today for it lasts longer."
Maybe you're right. They have lots of songs for it (my favorites actually): "Here Today and Gone Tomorrow." It all started on a "Bridge Over Troubled Waters" then there were "Lyin' Eyes" and "Down by the River."
Out of desperation, someone asked "Where Have All the Flowers Gone?" Its really a sad situation for they cannot really say "Goodbye Yellow Brick Road."
When will they ever learn? The answer my friend is "Blowin' in the Wind."
Can anybody sing a different tune? If none, let those songs be dedicated.
@hoodblock86 (84)
• United States
5 Oct 10
hello rog0322
I see why you had to go back and read it a few time lol but im glad that the message got though and you right they do have alot of songs about breakups but not enough about love that last lol.My favorite song about the issue is Love VS. Money by:The Dream he breaks it all down.
Thanks for commenting!!