Last night my 3 year old daughter fall down from the stairs!

Asxenon- Well daddy, I hate to inform you but your daughter is going to have her share of rough and tumble incidents with the world around her. We have a four year old little boy and two year old little girl, and they both have had their share of bumps and bruises. We just moved into a town-home with stairs and even with both of us watching our children our daughter managed to tumble down twice when she crawled out of bed after we had put her down to sleep. It was no one's fault, it was simply an accident. She does just fine going up and down in her awake hours but when half asleep it makes things a little more less manageable. Now, add that with her having an older brother, learning to ride a tricycle, playing outside, running too quickly for her little legs to carry her, trying to climb on everything like a professional stunt woman and you end up with your share of scratches, bumps, and bruises. More like bruised egos to be specific. It is a fact of life, and I think one that is unavoidable. I do not think that either partner should be blaming the other. I've heard that argument so many times that it really makes me a tad sad that we'd rather place blame than simply solve the problem. The solutions are that you can either get a gate or work with her on her gross motor skills. Our two year old knows how to unlatch our kitchen gate so personally I feel that particular one could be slightly problematic. Working with her on her gross motor skills will work out for everyone. It can be done through fun family games, and these will all help your daughter become more coordinated to manage the stairs. It's a tough skill when you stop and think about it. She was having to process not only her movement, but she was carrying something as well. In terms of working from home I set up things so that my children are near me. However, that does not mean they won't retreat to their bedroom and play. If they do they know to use the railing to go up and down. We're also working on not running up and down the stairs. I have a schedule for them of pre-school work as well as giving myself time to work online as well as working on my thesis. I keep myself flexible enough to always be with them though as they come first. For example, I tutor online but I have it set so that it rings my pc to let me know I have a client waiting. I can then make sure to bring the kids back to the living room so they can play whilst I tutor. If I am doing a tarot reading I am doing so at the dining table so they are in eye shot. If there are more in-depth things I need to work on I do so after they are in bed. Namaste-Anora

Being on the net really consumes our time and makes us loose so much track of time. I am very sorry that you daughter had this mis-fortunate accident, and I do hope she is okay. It is a sign that perhaps minimizing your time may be wise but also remember that in a split second she can trip and fall right in front of you as well, so I suppose I am just expressing that although they do require much more time at this age that you should not blame yourself. Although I am sure you are blaming yourself as I too would do the same. God Bless your Angel with great health.

Where was your wife when your daughter fell? I think it is unfair to say that it is your fault because you were on the computer. I have a 3 year old son and he is all over the house all day long. If I tried to follow him around all day I'd be exhausted. I've tried doing stuff in the same room he is playing in, but as soon as I get settled in the room with him he is off playing something else. I hope your daughter is okay. I was right there with my child when she fell down the steps, so it isn't always because you aren't watching them enough.

Sorry to hear that i hope your daughter was ok. Anyway, my daughter will turns 3 next month and her energy always was really high. I am guilty of that, i always on the front of my laptop and let my daughter play. I am glad that nothing happens to her similar to your daughter. Well this is a sign for me to minimize the use of laptop and look for my daughter hehhe.

Wow, that's bad, I hope she didn't get injured too bad. Having a baby is definitely one big reason to concentrate on anything or whatever is going on in the house. I'm not married yet and I don't have a baby, so I can take whole of my time to concentrate on my work, if I was cooking or doing anything that needs extra attention, then yes I will leave my laptop for a while.

I actually wait, usually, until my daughter goes to bed to use my computer. But I have had my daughter fall down the steps before. Children don't always look at what they are doing. The first time I stepped into the bathroom to brush my hair and thump thump cry. It was really scary and I still don't know what happened. The 2nd time she was coming up the stairs behind me and fell, lucky I caught her that time. She was going down stairs to fast and slipped on the edge lucky that time there was only a couple of stirs left. I even fell down our stairs one time because I wasn't paying attention. Accidents do happen. But I would say not to let her play with a balloon in the hallway by the stairs. Children pay attention to what they are doing not that there are stairs right there. Glad that she is ok and remember the computer will still be there when she goes to bed.

You can not observe your children to much or to less. That is for sure.The accident can occure when ever. You could have been in the bathroom in private, or cooking dinner in the kitchen. Children ar unpredictble. However, being online do take away your attention. It is easy to get attached to what you are doing online rather than listening to what happen around you.

Aww dont be to hard on yourself. You could have been watching your child walking down the stairs and looked away for a split second and she could have fallen down the stairs and gotten hurt. It was an accident. On a different not though I totally undertand how distracting things can such as the computer and why we dont notice as much when we are online. I tend to get glued to it.

Ouch!I think it depend on the person and the situation in that aspect, my friend. Since, you have children to look at...maybe you need to reduce your time in your computer and look after you children... But in the part of others that no kid or children and no obligation see children. I think is on their discretion on how many hours they spent in their computer... Hope your kid not harm... Have a nice day!

We are all guilty of this. It sounds as if your daughter was playing happily and quite content on her own. You say she is 3, that should be old enough that she can entertain herself for 10 or 15 minutes and let you get a little work done. But you do need to be off the PC and tending to her also. Good luck with your daughter and I hope she is OK.

HI, JUst hope your daughter is fine..bring her to doctor for check up if you and your wife still worry so much. It also happened to me sometimes, I was in my internet for long and don't really spend my time with my son, He will keep calling me to play with him,but I just can't stop doing MyLot and surf net. Suddenly I feel guilty for ignoring him, so I decided to stop my internet and play with him. I do enjoy playing with my son together. Stop blaming yourself...you also don't want your daughter get hurt. Learn from your mistakes and try to spend more time with your daughter next time.

I do think that there are a lot of times that we should be giving more of our time to our children. However, I will also admit that I am one of the people that is guilty of spending too much time in front of the computer and not enough time with my children. I've been lucky that nothing has ever happened to either of the kids, but I do realize that when I am not fully giving my time to them, there is a risk that something could happen to one of them. I've been trying to gradually back off of the computer but it really is hard to do.

In this case I cannot say working with your pc for that fact and not taking care of your family counts. After all this is quiet moment, even if it is not, you have the total control of your pc and your family as if it is one component. As for me, when I am working with my pc, I am also contious of every happenings in the house. SamShima.