Moving on and forget about first Girlfriend.

well it took me years before i could say, i was finally over my ex... as they say, time heals all wounds...and it's true. but you have to be patient, as in, really really patient, and, all you gotta do is endure the pain...while you move on, just concentrate on your life, and on your responsibilities. get busy with the things you have to do. wait for love to come. it will come when you least expect it. and don't chase love, let it chase you.

Hi, Get over it. You are not trying enough, or, if I am not wrong, you are not trying at all. There are a few phases that you have to pass through. Read http://www.bukisa.com/articles/351197_moving-on-after-a-break-up if you are still not trying hard, then you are just delaying the whole process. Be strong, as nobody wants to hear about your girlfriend anymore. Don't bore them. Though 7 months' time is not much to forget about relationship of such a depth. But she left, and you really have to face that someday. Don't live in a self imposed world of fantasy. Find some engagement (not another girl), for example, a hobby and devote most of your time in it. Try to identify the purpose of your life. Having a girlfriend can't be the sole purpose of one's life. Don't live like that, believe me, it's no life at all. Explore different avenues of life, because there are so many. Thanks. God bless you.

Advice: Don't worry about it. I will relate this to you in the form of my own experiences. I've had two previous heartbreaks that I never thought I would recover from, but have both been resolved. This is a story of the second time this happened. I had this boyfriend when I was 15, 16 or so. We loved each other deeply, but after two and a half years, I felt like I was too young to be tied down to him forever at this point and wanted a break to experience life in a way that included other men. After that I got a new boyfriend, but then realized I was unhappy and depressed because I was with someone I didn't love. I would compare any guy I met to my ex, and felt that he was perfect and that no-one would ever compare to him, that we were meant for each other, etc. By this point he wouldn't take me back, and I don't blame him. I was selfish and hurt him badly. He got a new girlfriend soon after. So now I lost the man I loved, and kept looking for someone to replace him. And then I started getting to know some guys I knew more, and realized that one of them was just as funny, just as smart, pretty much everything my ex was but even better, and I failed to realize it when I first met him because I was so blinded by the fact that I thought my ex was the most perfect guy in the world and that no-one else would ever compare. Needless to say, I broke up with my then-boyfriend and am now with this new guy now and couldn't be happier. He was everything my ex was plus much more. So from this story, I guess my advice is that you're still blinded by your love for her to the point that maybe there are other girls better for you that you don't notice because of this. If you open your heart just a little bit to get to know other girls more eventually you WILL, I can guarantee that, find someone that you love even more. I've done it twice.

I still couldn't get over of my first boyfriend (from when I was 19-21) even after 3 years breaking up with him. But in a meantime, I can already open my heart for someone else. Maybe that means that I was really getting over him that time. I didn't do anything to forget him, I kept crying and just let myself remember him and miss him as much as my brain wanted to until I actually got sicked of it because I knew at the same time he was being with someone else. Now, I'm about to get married with someone that is far better than him, who is taking me just for what I am, and more responsible. And yes, that I actually love so much and can't live with more than the one who broke my heart.

that happened to me before when i loved a guy. he was my best friend and i fell for him. i thought maybe he cared for me too but he just liked me as friend only. anyway was ok but he started to forget about me a bit and started to talk more with other people and leaving me behind. sure i was very upset. so i always wanted talk with him to understand why he was acting that way. bcs i didnt see a reason for it bcs we were so good friends. then one day he started to get along better with a girl. and she knew i loved him and one day said that he loved me. and i said no he doesnt. and he said ohh why you tell everything? it was a secret. and i said he doesnt love me bcs he loved that girl. and then he said he loves that girl. and then they said was all a joke. i was like a joke? what kind of people do that. he knew i loved him. he said that it was all that girl idea. that he said better not. but still he did that and even defended her saying she wasnt mean. anyway i said to him i didnt like her attitude bcs she also pretended was my friend and did that. other day that girl humiliated me saying that i pretended i was her friend and said to my friend i didnt like her. i didnt say i didnt like her i just said i didnt like her attitude that day about he loves me and was a joke. noone would like this kind of joke right? she said she used my friend account that day and read that. i was like what? my god. anyway she also said that i told to her bf that she liked someone else, like if she liked my friend, and i never did that. and my friend, the guy i liked, doubted about my word. i sent message to that girl bf and i said you know i didnt send you any message saying she likes someone else bcs i dont even have your yahoo account bcs that girl said i sent message to her bf in yahoo and he said that a girl called catarina, that is my name, sent him a message in the site, me and my friend talked,and said that his gf liked someone else.i never did that so who did that? was that girl for sure bcs she was the only one winning something. she told me she started to have feelings for my friend but didnt break up with her bf yet but i never said nothing about this to her bf. i was sad bcs my friend that i loved so much doubted about me after i give him so many proves that i loved him. i decided to forget him bcs i cried and was sad and he didnt care at all. continued ignoring me. after awhile of i forget him him and that girl became lovers. i felt sorry for him at first but he also is not good at least to me he wasnt. so maybe he would love her anyway even her being a liar. and a fake too. so i saw he didnt care for my feelings and i forgot about him^^ so you also see that while you cry and miss her and think about her she moved on already. she doesnt love you. so please dont cry for a girl that doesnt value it^^ forget her and try to meet new girls ^^ there are many sweet girls that for sure will love you^^ and remember she was the loser wasting a guy that really loved her^^ is hard to find a guy that really loves us and she found it and wasted. she lost not you^^ now cheer up^^ smile and dont talk about her anymore^^ you will see that day by day she will be less important in your life^^ but if you keep remembering her you wont forget. she doesnt deserve your love. we all have someone for us and there will appear a girl that will love you so much^^ do you really want to waste your life crying for a girl that doesnt love you and waste the chance to meet one that will love you more than everything? dont do that^^ forget your ex ^^ i also thought i couldnt forget this guy but i could^^

i have , the first is the hardest but just stop thinking about her and move on and you will forget about her in time

It can be very hard to get over someone that you love. The longer your with someone the harde it is. Why did she leave you? If it was a logical reason and that the relationship cannot be worked out then know that what she did was the right thing. Some people never get over the ones that they have loved. My husband and I began dating in 2001. We just split up 9 months ago. Instead of getting over me he just gets worse. Hes being admitted to a psychiatric day for the 3rd time today. I feel bad for him.

I think there is no good for you to think always about your girlfriend. What is the benefit if you always think about her? Think about this...Is your girlfriend, worth of for you to spent the entire of your life to think of her? Is she worth enough since she left you...If your girlfriend, is worth enough as girlfriend. She not left you? You need to move on, my friend. There's nothing happen in your life if you always like that. Yes, it is so painful to be hurt or being broken heart but that is enough and you need to settle your life...there are many girls around that most capable of your girlfriend...she is not worth enough for you... Have a nice day!

Hi, You should wake up and see what you have been doing so far. there is no point for you keep thinking of your past relationship. It has been over. I can understand how hurt is your feeling and you still miss her so much,but there is no point for you to sacrifice your love and your time for her since she has left you for 7 months. She is no longer yours and you should think the better path for you to go on. I believe your family members don't wish to see you in this condition. You have to be strong and remember , you are a man, you have to be firm in your decision and always look forward for your futher step. Never look backwards. Whatever is ended, that is OVER. and start your new life again. I believe they are many good girls out there who is worhty for your love.

Hello, Khronus.:) There could nothing be more painful, devastating and difficult to do than trying to forget the ex who leave us but we still are so in love with...Moving on is easier said than done when all her memories still linger. What you can do is to get out of your shell, meet your friends and perhaps make new friends as well, entertain yourself. Indulge or go back to your hobbies which you have left for awhile because you were busy hanging out with her. Do not think of her as much as possible. discard every possible position that you have that will remind of her. And avoid going to some places where the two of you used to hang out. Though, these are not guarantees that they will work but somehow they will help you forget about her for even awhile. Soon enough you'll be fully adjusted to the fact that she is out of your life for good. Do not sulk there. Get a life.:) Goodluck.:)

I am really sorry that you are going through this right now and I hope that you can soon get over it, but I understand that it is not something that can easily be forgotten, but remember to be strong and to always keep moving forward no matter what. Good luck and I hope that one day you may find someone that is right for you.

Yes i had also a same experience but that was at an earlier age for me. I had broken up from my relationship(my girlfriend's version) or to tell the truth i have been dumped by my girlfriend(my version). I was 17 years old then and i had been dating her for a couple of years before i proposed her. She had said no to me and till now i can't think why she said that. Till now i also miss her like you do. I wish to go back in time what mistake i had made with her. Shes still single now and hasn't dated anyone yet. That makes me wonder why also. And now it has been 4 months since i talked to her. The last time i just went to her house to get my book back and since then we haven't talked. I have even deleted her number but can't remove her from my heart. I have been keeping my mind in some other things like seminars and workshops so that maybe i would be then distracted from her a little and i have also started a new hobby. I love reading books now. I read whatever comes under my nose and it improves my English as well as keeps me occupied. A distraction is all you need to stay away from your past but in reality no one can erase their own memories. Cheers!

why not come on with your girl friend ? i think its good for first girlfriend for your loving .and they could love each other for a long time. but why not come on ? something need us to cherish , so love first. dont care about other people's opinion . me too. i cannot forget my first girl friends. but something is not as good as you think . so forget it . begine your new life. good luck.

I have been here before. As it was really your first proper relationship it will hold a lot of feelings. In time you will stop mentioning her as much and you will move on. I guess there is no going back and once you split its hard for it to work the second time round. Don't force yourself to try to forget, but be active in doing other things that can occupy your mind. As more time passes it will become easier and you may meet someone else.

well it took me years before i could say, i was finally over my ex... as they say, time heals all wounds...and it's true. but you have to be patient, as in, really really patient, and, all you gotta do is endure the pain...while you move on, just concentrate on your life, and on your responsibilities. get busy with the things you have to do. wait for love to come. it will come when you least expect it. and don't chase love, let it chase you.

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. -Kahlil Gibran