to forgive and to forget..its easier said than done..

Yeah I also believe that it is easier said than done. We can easily say that we already forgive the person, but we can never let go of the pain they have caused. But let just think of this when we say we can forgive but can never forget it is one way saying that we will never forgive. Even though to forgive will not change the past, but it will help you to unleash the joy and bring you the inner peace.

To tell you frankly i am surprised with your post, i've been thinking about this topic 2 days ago and there you go--- wooolah :D thanks for opening this topic. There are people in my past that have hurt me extremely and i will never ever forget them... I have recovered and a long time ago and i decided to forgive them since i'm okay now and happy with my life, but i don't think i can forget everything, it is always in my memory and yes if you go back you will remember all the pain you've been through. I think we are nothing but humans that is why we can't forget people who caused a lot of pain in our life but at least we forgive and moved on. -to err is human to forgive is divine

I also believe that it is easier said than done. We easily say we can forgive but we can never easily let go of the pain. But just think of this , when you say you will forgive but will not forget it is one way of saying you will not forgive. Forgiving will not change the past, but it can help you unleash the joy and bring the inner peace with in.

It's a natural feeling. The wounds may have heale but It left a scar that would alwys remind you of how much pain you had. It's very noble for someone to simply forget as if life nothing happened. Even so, you have to rule over your emotions. You don't need to pretend it was alright but all you have to do is to accept what has happened and done were all in the past. You could never take it back so there is no use scratching the scar and feel the pain once again. Good luck!

it is true it is easier to say than to done.....but in my part forgiving someone is just like putting down the heaviest Borden in you.. because you will suffer the pain if you will not forgive someone who than something wrong to you. because you will not be in calm if you cannot take a revenge to that someone.............so for me forgiving is much better than to bare hatred...

yeah, i can easily forgive but not easily ti forget. Its pretty hard for me inside seeing and hearing that person its knda` blow up me inside. i cannot blame myself to that that my nature. personally its reaaly hard for me to let go. what i did was i dont mind and i stay away that person. i let time heal all wounds.

Welcome aboard Mylot, Ardiebagz.:) It is indeed easier said than done. No matter how hard we try to forget all about it, it just keeps on coming back. This is true especially when you suffered from such event for a long time that even in your dreams it is haunting you. Consciously we are trying to forget but deep in our subconscious, it is still there, buried deep and not ready to let go of the memory of its pain yet. What to do with it? I'm not sure really. I've been in that situation before and I can say that it was difficult. But I've moved on. I can't force myself to forget things overnight bit I had let time heal the wounds. Eventually, it will be gone though it will leave a mark...

A pleasant day to you Ardiebagz, With reference to your main topic, it is indeed true. It is really hard to forget though you had forgiven. And this is also happening to me. I have tried my best to forgive although its hard for me to do it. I remember those days, since, I was the eldest among the four siblings, so I must lead them to do the right thing. That is to forgive one member of our family to all of the shortcomings that he did. Nevertheless, as I have said, though I have had forgiven still, the story somehow revives especially if me and my other siblings are discussing old stories that keep untold. Indeed, it is not that easy to forgive but it is really really difficult to forget. And even your age reach its golden days, still, finding the way to forget is not as easy as 1..2..3. Nevertheless, since, we are not getting any younger, perhaps it is best just to let our feelings healed. And, I guess, we should live our life to the fullest and not to squander it since we only have one life to live on.

A warm welcome to you ardeibagz.. I believe forgiveness is harder for me than forgetting actually is. I believe that I may say put things aside and perhaps forget, but not actually forgive. Being betrayed and or hurt is something I have great difficulties doing. I think that after so many beatings in life it comes harder and harder to develop trust. Oh don't I know about igniting fires, just the mere thought and or mention of certain persons can change my persona in a flash. So you are not alone in this.

Hi ardiebagz! Yes, it is easier said and done BUT I FORGIVE AND FORGET! It may be painful at first but we cannot always rely on our past. We have to "Live For Today"! We have to move on. Once I have said my piece, then that's it! ;) Happy myLotting!;)