Would you stay with someone who is just using you?

That guy was absolutely ruthless, indecent, insensitive, uncaring! Given that he doesn't need her but to actually blurt it in front of those people as if he doesn't care if she feels humiliated by it, Jesus, he has no right to do that to her.... I will never stay in a relationship of such kind. Even if i have children with my partner. I will do everything to get out of it and start anew wherein there is someone who needs me because he loves me and not just my money. It is easier said than done because I am not yet in that situation but I just don't have the heart to tolerate such humiliation (I think). For that woman, she is loving him blindly... What is she? Too ugly that no one can love her the way she is worth loving because of who she is and what she is and not because of what she has? We do stupid things to ourselves and our lives when we are in love... Tsk, tsk....

Hi. saizo6. Now, this is very sad! How can she stay with a man that only wants her for her money? This is very pitiful! That is how the lady downstairs was too. She was allowing this guy to use her. He said that she was not his girlfriend but only her baby mama. He said that he was just staying at her house just so that he can have a place where he can lay his head unto. This is very sad! I would see the fool driving her van up and down the damn road! He would be styling and profiling all up in her ride! She seemed to not leave this dude alone. Until last week, she argued and fought with him last week. So, I will be gone by the time he decided to move back in with her. It looks like the two of them are good and done with each other. But they have fought too many times for me to believe this. I would not be surprised if he has plans to move back in with her after things cool down some. He will be gone for a few weeks to a month and the next thing that I know, he is back staying with her all over again. Many men are using women these days. We just have to be strong enough to not let him use us for a fool! I have been used by my love that I have had for many men in my life. I have even had an ex boyfriend that used me because I had a box of oatmeal snack pies too. He ate the hell out of my pies. And when I would come over to his mom's house, he never offered me anything to eat. He was very selfish and greedy for what I had of my own. All he ever did was take, take, take. And all I have ever done is give, give, give. The cycle can be broken. We just have to leave these users alone. They mean us no good.

Yeah, perhaps she loves him so much even that love blinds her to see the truth, or perhaps she is under pressure or something. It has to be checked out first. As for me; No I will not. What is the benefit to me being around that kind of person in the first place? People are responsible to his or her own life, and using someone for personal liking is something I cannot accept. We take and we give, and that circle has to be taken care of with balance!

Unless I had the same exact intentions, and I was "using" him right back, then definitely no. It always sucks when two people go into a 'relationship' with different expectations (for example, one wanting a 'friends with benefits' situation and the other wanting a long-term relationship'). People get hurt this way, don't you think? I feel bad for the girl, but at the same time - there are SO many fish in the sea, and essentially, she knows what he's doing and could get out of it if she wanted to.

I would never stay with someone that is using me or nor be friends with them because they are just all kinds of wrong!!!!

Maybe she really loves him and doesn't care if he only wants her for her money as long as he stays with her. I have learned that there is a thing called "unconditional love", and with that you don't care if the other person doesn't care about you, doesn't love you, is just using you. You're happy as long as you two are together. Or she might be one of those women who think that if you're with a guy long enough you can change them. *shrug*

only if i found some value into using the other person as well.

If I know why, I would stay and help the person out. Well that if he’s willing and will work with me. But of course, it’s not going to be just like how we were together. But if the person is just simply there to use you, well you really have to let it go and wish that person can find his way.

As long as am happy with him I didn't see that he is using me. If this is money matter or material thing I can look this as a gifts or just a because it is needed. Thinking that using me just for money is natural but i know inside that there is a little love because he cannot be with me if he has no even a little care about me. Although the big since is the money that many can see that he is using me. Well if I'm happy and as long as can help i would stay though i was benefited of it on the other hand. Loving him truthfully but looking it was wrong in the eyes of many because of money I never care still I'm happy well for sure I'm free from heart attack.

Its really difficult to identify.. Because if you're in her shoe, you would probably blinded with love too.. I know a couple of friends too, who has the same fate as your friend do. No matter what we say and do against their in a relationship with, they still chose to stay with them. So I guess the best thing you'll do is just stay and be there for her, when things go wrong...

Hi, I do believe that Love is Blind and when you really love that person,you don't care whether he is using you or what, you just want to be at his side and willing to sacrifice anything for him. But does it worthy for you to do like this? From my point of view, of course, it is not worhty. I want someone to love me and I do love that person.Or else,there is no point to be together since no love and trust. I also don't like someone is just using me by staying with me together. I hate this kind of person. I also believe his love is not a true love, it is totally all fate love and it is not worthy for me to sacrifice my love for such person.

No I can’t live with those types of girls who really use me. And after reading your discussion I think the girls really loves a guy very much. So she stay with him even she know that the guy used her. But she is in love with him. So se can’t leave her. I think sometimes it is difficult to leaving any person whom we loved very much.

If I where the girl, I will not stay in a relationship like that because I know someday that guy will just leave me behind with nothing but heartache!

no easy answer or advice on this one. Sometimes the person in the situation has a self-esteem issue. So it is up to the person to acknowledge the situation and truly wants to remedy it. Until then you can only be supportive and encourage the person to seek some sort of counseling either for themselves to improve their self-esteem or to seek advise on how to best end the relationship.

No, I would not be with someone who was just using me, especially if it was just for money. Your friend may be scared of life without the person who is using her, or she may feel like she deserves it, for some reason. At any rate, she has a problem, and she will be the one who will solve it.

hi saizo, for me, even if he said that it was just a joke, it wasn't a good joke. If I were in the situation that I was very well aware that someone stays with me for the sake of using me and my money, I would rather dropped him off. Especially when I heard about such joke. Even if it is a joke, uttering such in front of other means he intends to embarras someone. Those kind of people doesn't deserve especially a sincere attention.

She probably feels a deep attraction for the man or else she has low self-esteem. Perhaps, she even understands him better than outsiders. Obviously he is giving her something that she craves. Likewise, he is getting something that he craves. It is a 2 way sword. He is also staying with her even if he jokingly says he does not like her.

I would not stay with someone who was just using me. there would be no future in that kind of relationship. it would just end in bitterness.

No way, why should I? He is just using me for his happiness and if he's done using me he'll leave me? Of course I will not let that happen so from the beginning he showed something like that, I'll watch her moves and If he doesn't show any concern for my feeling's I better quit the relationship. And besides it will no the called as relationship or love if one uses you only for ones happiness it must be share for the happiness.

no i would not how many people said yes to this i mean ok but if there isn't any love from their side then no i would be out of there in a heartbeat