Can a long distance relationship be perfect?

love - I went to Memphis, Tennessee, for two weeks, to spend time with my love and his friends/family. The night before I left, he grabbed my notebook while I was sleeping, and I was surprised to find this message on the back of the front cover when I got home!
United States
October 5, 2010 4:45pm CST
Hello everyone. I've been in a long distance relationship since April. I can't say we've always been far away from each other, because I spent two weeks with him and his family back in July, for my 18th birthday. In those two weeks, I had some good times, some bad times... and a lot of times where everything just felt perfect, like nothing in the world could have made things better. These are the memories that I cherish and hold close to my heart. What do you guys think? Can a long distance relationship really be perfect? Does it have to be hard? Can you really love someone who lives far away from you? I think that it is possible. I believe in soul mates, and that they don't necessarily have to live next door. They can be anywhere, so I think that can make a long distance relationship possible.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
5 Oct 10
If you think it's possible, and you are willing to put the effort forth in making it work (and he is too) there should be no one out there telling you that no, long-distance dating isn't acceptable or possible. It's possible if you both are committed enough. Sounds cute! I feel like, in my opinion, the long-distance part should be temporary, and not permanent, because I couldn't imagine living like that.
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• United States
5 Oct 10
Living so far away is terrible, and we have decided that once I get the money, I'll be transferring high schools and moving down there to live with him. However, if it doesn't happen by the end of this year (thinking about that kinda drives me crazy, I want him NOW.), I won't have to worry about the transfer - I complete high school in December, since I only need 1 credit. I told him that I want to see him again for Christmas - not impossible, if I have the money and I can talk my dad into it, but Dad DID let me go see him for my birthday, so it shouldn't be an issue. To be honest, that's why I joined MyLot... to get as much money as I can, so that I can see him again.
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• Portugal
6 Oct 10
yes i think like you^^ i also am in a long distance relationship^^ i know my bf since more than a year^^ but i be his gf neither at one month yet ahah^^ he waited me a long time till i choose him^^ he always waited that i fall for him and while i loved other guys he was always waiting i look at him^^ i decided to forget my past and be closer to him^^ we started to talk much and he was so caring and sweety saying baby to me when we were not lovers yet^^ he was so sweet that i just fell for him^^ im too much in love with him^^ im working much here to save money to go to his country^^ he even said baby dont come i go to you^^ he will work to come and meet me^^ but i also want to work so is easier to have the money faster^^ i really love him and i know he loves me too^^ so yes a long distance relationship can be perfect if both are much in love and care too much^^
@ravend (658)
• Malta
5 Oct 10
Let me tell you first, that no relationship is perfect or easy. But yours, its different. :) You're gonna have to work harder than others. If you really love him, go for it. You only live once.
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
6 Oct 10
Yes it can be perfect if both side trust on this relationship. I think trust is a very important thing in a long distance relationship. And if there are trust then it becomes strong and always more strong day by day. So always trust on your partner or friends.
• United States
6 Oct 10
Trust is a very important thing in all relationships, if you ask me. You're right :)
@skmak110 (79)
9 Oct 10
Uhmmm...Capital No! would be my answer as far has this subject of discourse is concerned. I have a bad experience years ago, I am yet to get over it completely. Out of sight can really be out of mind for life to many. Folks, I was in a relationship for 11 years and was really looking forward to tying the knot, when suddenly my visa was released to travel to Uk, a development we were all waiting for but my girl fiancee's visa was pending 'yet to be given'. I waited for another 4months into my visa and even deferred my admission, thinking it's going to be something soon but still no respond from the Embassy. We eventually agreed I leave and keep our fingers crossed her's 'll soon be released. The long distance relationship eventually sets in...I am always on the phone burning my credits, wasting my resources, the hard earned pounds especially during winter! I hate thinking of those years. I kept sending her money for alternative move to come over, none was fruitful. I even helped her secure a job so that the burden of sending money would ease on me a bit. No she didn't want to work, she said 'i want to use that in tying her down'...'my responsibilities are yours...i won't work'. But alass! I went home unannounced and can't get access to my babe for 2weeks...then the mum decided to let the news out of the bag telling me she's now with a better caring man, one that would not leave her for greener pastures like I do and that if I care could get her on a number she eventually gave me. I was flaggerbasted! I called the number trully and my babe's voice came on but couldn't recognise my voice on the line as she was not expecting me on that line and secondly, she's not aware I am home. When she eventually realised it's me she dropped the phone on the floor & started crying. The chap she was with took the phone and when I introduced myself, he said...'oh its you, please find yourself a gurl overthere and leave us alone...you can't own Uk and want here too.' I won't ever advice such relationship to exist atall...its not good.