your bf/gf says you are the biggest mistake of his/her life T_T

If he tells me that I'm the biggest mistake in his life, then I will say I'm happy to know because I no longer need to be with an idiot and useless. I mean, you're being told as the biggest mistake, that is a bit too much ain't it? I also will say good bye straight away. Saying that I was the biggest mistake of his life also means he just made another biggest mistake in his life for saying that to me, because he will never get me back.

To say that someone is the biggest mistake is pretty harsh. I have had relationships that didn't work out and yet I don't consider most of them to be "mistakes". There is only one that I am not on friendly terms with the guy and even that, I don't consider a mistake but rather a learning lesson. I think if someone said that to me well, I'd be so hurt I'd just walk away and not have any more to do with that person.

My first thought would be that he is upset or angry about something and is lashing out at you. Of course, I would wonder why he would even think to say this because he made his own choice when being with you. My reaction would be, "Oh, well, I'm sorry that you feel that way. I guess I need to fix your mistake for you then, now you are no longer with me." Then, I would turn around, with my head held high, and my heart aching, and walk away. In the end, it would be the best thing to do, in my opinion. Yes, it would hurt at first, but eventually, the pain would go away and the realization that it is his loss to not yours, would make you feel a lot better. Remember, you can love someone as much as you want, but if they don't love you back, it won't work. Love should never hurt.

I had a guy tell me- through a text message nonetheless- that I was a mistake. We had been seeing each other for a few months and he was annoyed that I wasn't ready to discuss marriage with him. I told him I needed time and he said fine. The next day, he sent me a message saying that I was a mistake. Honestly, I wasn't really in love with him but it still hurt. So I cut off all ties with him. A few weeks later, he calls me and wants to know if we could get back together. He said we could start over. I told him no. As if I could forget him calling me a mistake. As for your situation, you have to trust your bf and also trust yourself. He is with you by choice. I'm sure your bf won't regret being with you, but if that ever happens- which I think is unlikely- it is his lost. good luck

Well that would be really rude I would break the relationship on the spot and I will not cry for it because she feel's that and I still have my self respect so wouldn't feel bad to break up with her..

nothing, there really isn't anything you can say, one of my ex's said that to me and i just said okay bye then. that was it, it sucked but i just moved on.

I think most people would feel very devestated. Especially if the people didnt fight and it just came out of the blue like that. If someone dated me because someone else wouldnt date them and so they just went out with me to get over the other girl then yes I would be mad. My ex was the biggest mistake of my life though so I have told him that. The only good thing that came ot of my marriage was my kids.

It's a big slap if ever the person i truly love will say that in front of my face. Well, if that's the case i will tell him that if i'm the biggest mistake of his life well he's the most stupid person i ever met and i am so sorry for my self for loving a person who doesn't see what true love is and i pity him for not seeing it and i regret the moment i fell into him and spend most of my time with a jerk like him( well, i have to pretend that i am strong despite of the painful words he said. I have to hurt his feelings also to relieve from pain.).

Hello SLF, Wow,the guts ...uh uh. Ok,if ever my bf say this on my face (hmnnn) I will give him the hardest slap i could,and walk away without saying a word.

This statement comes from the insecurity of the one who says it. No relationship can be a mistake. We all make choices. Some of them bring us joy while others do not. Never believe that loving someone is a mistake. it just isn't true.

That's not very nice to say, even if he said it because he was upset about something, and even if he didn't mean it. Just because you don't mean to say something doesn't give you the right to hurt others. I wouldn't leave him because of this right away. I'll talk to him about it, tell him that what he said really hurt my feelings. From there we'll have to discuss if we're going to stay together, because if that's what he wants then he shouldn't say hurtful things like that, specially to the one he loves.

If he told me this, I am going to slap him really good!!! and maybe kick his eggs too!

if he said that I will not ask for an explanation,i will let go..i cant hold on to a relationship that my partner isnt happy anymore.I dont want to be the cause of his pain no matter how much i love him.its enough for me to hear that.

HAH! If he would say that I'm the biggest mistake of his life, I won't say anything, I'll just slap him as hard as I could! Seriously, that's what I'd do, not that I'm a violent person, but anybody would be hurt by that statement right? So that's the best I could do for my pride...

I would probably say something that I couldn't say here on MyLot.. Something along the lines of $%^# you! No person should say that.

I'll tell her that the feeling is mutual!

I would tell him that if that is the way that he feels then why is he still here??? If you think that other person is so good for you then why don't you go and be with them and I can find someone that will love me for who I am.

Then I will tell him the same thing. He is the biggest loser I ever encountered in my life. I am a pinay. Do not let yourself feel that way towards your boyfriend's friends who are pinays. You should have to prove yourself that you are worthy of his love all the time. It is not right to blame you that he lost his chance being with other girl because of being with you. The choice is still yours to make. Do what you think is the best for you.

While reading your blog just make me think that it happened to you.. First think of the things you have made that makes him upset.. If you think there is none, then he just doing any excuse to end your relationship. If he said you were the biggest mistake he ever made in his life, then he must be the biggest idiot in the world. Leave him anyway.. So what having a Pinay friends? Having insecurities with Pinays?hahaha.. Don't you find yourself capable with his love. If you have doubt then you better watch out and you might lose him.. Good luck..