What he has to do now?
By Rams mylot
@rameshchow (4426)
India
October 5, 2010 10:33pm CST
Actually my friend is loving a girl, both are my classmates,
he is not proposed his love till now,
She is silent, and she hides her feelings,
he is open and he shares everything with her.
He is very brilliant, and clever in the class.
Yesterday he made many calls to her, but she won't lifted.
Because some of her friends tells to her wrongly about him, that he is loving some other girl in the class who is his next roll number, Actually she(the other girl) is his beside roll number, and a good friend(they discuss only about studies).
But she(his girl friend) misunderstanding him,
And she wants to maintain distance from him, so she is not lifting the phone.
He gets angry(actually he is so cool),
And he said the "are you my friend, how many times i can cal u?, first time in my life i believe your friendship, but you are hiding all your problem, why you are behaving like this, Your looking me so cheap, your not giving any value to my words.........?".
Then she replied that,
"I am not neglecting you, if i am neglecting you, if so why should i reply to you when i receive your message?"
(he is not giving reply)
"What happen no reply?"
"what matters i hide" (he is silent, and he thought that she hide something)
"cal me friend"
"r u busy?"
then he replied that "my brother is here, chat to you later", (actually he is alone)
she:"is it real?" , "k, bye".
after an hour he replied to her "I never mind about our classmates rumors on me, i always thought that what you r thinking about me only, and no is important than you, i preferred your words only, don't misunderstand me, she(the other girl) is just a good friend to me, i already told to you, my mood is not well, i call you in the morning",
she:"sorry, don't waste your time, i am not a good friend to you, "
(both are silent)
few minutes later.......she:"I don't know my tears coming from my eyes"
(that is the first time in her life to feel for a friend.
He:"please dont cry ..... don't excited, don't mis my friendship because of others, don't make me sad,"
(actually why she behaves like that, he is trying to know whats the problem behind her silence, what he has to do now? Ofcourse he never neglect his studies, but coming to his love, in what way we can show a correct path to him. And you know frieds, in that night he made a call to her, she was talking very sadly(he never her voice with that much of silence), so my friends its really a toughest time in both of their lifes)
Ofcourse the guy is talented, but he is also a common man, ...........so my friend share your valuable views to this problem......i think its not a problem, its a state in human life(especially in young age).....
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10 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 Oct 10
It sure does sound like your guy friend really cares for this girl but unfortunately she is very young and perhaps not ready for a steady relationship and or does not care for him as much as he cares for her.
As she is allowing her friends to convince her of the rumors,a as my feelings are that when we as people fall in love no rumor can destroy that. So your friend needs to either allow her time to see his genuine nature and or maybe perhaps she will not be the girl for him as he certainly deserves someone who will put him first before rumors from friends.
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@rameshchow (4426)
• India
6 Oct 10
the last sentence is not understood to me marixa, will you please care to enlighten me this sentence "so your friend needs to ..........certainly deserves someone who will put him first before rumors from from"
and you know marixa, he is a brilliant student, when he want to love, my college beauties can make a Q, but he is sincerely loving that silent girl, she is group oriented, she always be with her friends only, really her mind is not matured, he is very clearly told to her about the things going in the college,
and you know marixa, he is stopped to talk directly with her in the college, because of her friends only.
(i am not supporting him only, but knows very well that how to behave in the college premises, and he was not involves with anything, he always discuss with me only about studies and high level issues and about her good character only)
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 Oct 10
What it means is that if a boy/man is sincerely in love with girl/woman and is not doing anything wrong like you say in your discussion then he should deserve someone who can trust him and not be so loyal to the girl friends.
Best example I can give you is I am in love with my boyfriend and he begins to believe his friends over me. I would hope he would love me enough to believe me before his friends.
This of course is in the event it is love, and perhaps the girl is too young and not ready for a relationship.
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@rameshchow (4426)
• India
8 Oct 10
actually this has been running from 2days.......but fortunately the walls are broken today...........
The boy maintained silence yesterday, and he absent the college in the morning, she is searching for his, and she is moody at that time, and she was sent a message to him to see him.
Till today evening he maintained that silence, she is sending messages to him, like "hi", "where r u", "what r u doing", ........Then tears coming from his(my friend) eyes, his heart melted, and immediately he made call to her, and talked for some time...........then the problem is over,
So friends,
now i am also happy..........
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 10
Don't worry, what they need is just space and time. They need to talk more about something else other than just discussing study. The way from they communicate, to me it is sounds like they have not had any serious conversation about how they feel yet, so the guy shouldn't keep pushing too. I'm sure the girl still doesn't know what exactly is going on with their friendship yet other than just a friend and study. So let them talk more to each other :)
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@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
Here's what I think about this: The guy truly cares for his girl friend. The mere fact that he is trying to find out the reasons of her behaviors toward him is a good indication that he sincerely cares for her.
As for the girl, she shouldn't let that mood comes in between her and that guy or she'll be ruining the friendship which is nonsense. If she hates to admit to him that she is falling for him then she could WRITE A LETTER FR HIM... it is better to tell him the truth than to treat him that way. In that sense, he can decide what to do with the girl and their friendship.
Men are numb. So don't make him guess for he has no idea that his girl friend is falling for him.
Tell your friend to write everything in paper so as to shed a light over this matter and both of them can be free.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
6 Oct 10
Sweetie, it's a girl what do you expect?
We have our moments, you know.
Okay, one of 2 things here.
Either she is playing hard to get, OR
She really isn't interested in your friend at all.
I wish your friend all the best, but if this keeps on happening, he should just forget about her.
Life is too short to have this little problems to deal with.
TATA.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
6 Oct 10
you can simply said that "if this keeps on happening, he should just forget her",
but actually when we think from a college student, its looking like a big problem,
actually she is a good girl, silent girl, but he don't know why she maintain that silence.....
I am glad they got that sorted out.
Glad you are happy.@rameshchow (4426)
• India
8 Oct 10
actually this has been running from 2days.......but fortunately the walls are broken today...........
The boy maintained silence yesterday, and he absent the college in the morning, she is searching for his, and she is moody at that time, and she was sent a message to him to see him.
Till today evening he maintained that silence, she is sending messages to him, like "hi", "where r u", "what r u doing", ........Then tears coming from his(my friend) eyes, his heart melted, and immediately he made call to her, and talked for some time...........then the problem is over,
So friends,
now i am also happy..........
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
8 Oct 10
actually this has been running from 2days.......but fortunately the walls are broken today...........
The boy maintained silence yesterday, and he absent the college in the morning, she is searching for his, and she is moody at that time, and she was sent a message to him to see him.
Till today evening he maintained that silence, she is sending messages to him, like "hi", "where r u", "what r u doing", ........Then tears coming from his(my friend) eyes, his heart melted, and immediately he made call to her, and talked for some time...........then the problem is over,
So friends,
now i am also happy..........
@aurel83 (102)
• United States
7 Oct 10
to me the solution is not depend on what he has to do but from the girl also. she needs to talk. please do not be quiet. he will never know until he hears a word from you. man tends to be logical and sometimes he is looked to be selfish just because the woman needs to be understood even not saying anything. but keep something like that may not help. communication will be better for both of you...
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Okay, she needs to follow her heart, and no listen to what her friends say. If he is a good guy, and she loves him, then she should be with him. This is that one time where she needs to tell her friends that they don't know what is best for her, and she needs to date this guy to see if he is the one. If it doesn't work out, she can always find someone else. I have dated many men that it didn't work out with, but eventually, you find that guy, you find "the one"!
I had this problem with my boyfriend at first. There were some people who told me that I shouldn't be with him, and there were some people who told me that if I loved him, then I need to be with him.
My best friend proposed to me once, he thought that we were serious, but I never felt the same way. I rejected his proposal because I didn't see him in the same way that he saw me. I saw him as a friend, but I never thought of him as a lover. We never even kissed. There wasn't any real chemistry between us.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Oct 10
Perhaps you are right and they will bring each other up on
what they really feel. I think that they really do love
each other and just need to really understand each other.
Once she sees how he really feels about his love she can
feel free to express her own love.I do hope their young love
can grow and become all so they do trust each always.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
8 Oct 10
I think that he should let her know that he is not going to pursue her forever and if she is not interested he needs to know so he can eventually move on. She has no right to be playing games like this. If she doesn’t want to be with him then she should come clean and tell him so. As far as her playing hard to get, she wants to be careful or she may lose him entirely.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
8 Oct 10
actually this has been running from 2days.......but fortunately the walls are broken today...........
The boy maintained silence yesterday, and he absent the college in the morning, she is searching for his, and she is moody at that time, and she was sent a message to him to see him.
Till today evening he maintained that silence, she is sending messages to him, like "hi", "where r u", "what r u doing", ........Then tears coming from his(my friend) eyes, his heart melted, and immediately he made call to her, and talked for some time...........then the problem is over,
So friends,
now i am also happy..........
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@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Like Saphrina and others have said, he must have patience. These are modern times but yet in most cases the male must go after the female. He has to be patient and strong. She will see for herself that he and his lady friend do not have anything going. But if I were her, I wouldn't just take a man's word that he is not seeing anyone else. He is going after her, so he has to "prove" his love for her. He has to "win" her love. Winning a woman's love is not easy. And the sad part is that a man may try hard and still not win her. But that's life.
